How many children do you want in a family?

@jcvernz (477)
Philippines
June 26, 2007 10:19pm CST
Do you prefer to have dozens of kids (heard some in the olden times, usually family during those times are big since family planning is not fully introduced) in the family or just 1,2,3...?Me, personally id like to have at least 2-3 so that i could be able to give a better future for them especially in providing their needs...mostly on their education.Now, a days it's a tough and risky thing to raise a child due to high commodities. Now, that i have my first baby boy im hoping that next time it would be a baby girl.How about you guys?How many children do you want in a family?Share some.
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@AmbiePam (49081)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I come from a family of two children. It was me and my sister. My mom had one brother, and my dad was one of 16 children, but lack of family planning was NOT the problem. Anyway, I would personally like to have 3 children. If I could pick, I'd have one boy and two girls. But like most everything, it isn't up to me. I guess I'll see where life takes me. : )
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Hi ambiepam...thanks for the post. Same with you id like to have at least 3 children that's if we have a choice to make but we never knew where life takes us or how many gifts would GOD give us. So come what may but at least we have some precautions and option to make if we'd like to have small family. I want it to be that way because i want to provide them better life ahead.Have a blessed day.
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I only want 2 kids jcverns, 1white girl and 1brown boy in a row.Its hard to raise many kids today especially sending them to school.Its nice to have just 2 kids to give them more attentin and time, the love they deserve and the education we could possibly provide them.But if your budget permits you so, so you could have more perhps.
• Australia
27 Jun 07
Why does the colour of their skin make a difference? How are you going to manage 2 children with different skin colours (as in, give birth) unless you're planning on adoption?
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
hehehe youre being so ironic friend just stay calm, of course with boys we dont like them white right, as much as possible i want them to be with that color.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
I do agree with you fairygreen...It's really hard to raise a child..i've been go through with it now due to high commodities on baby's product most likely to milk products that ive been using now but at least we do survive. Just that my income is quite enough for his needs and on our family as well. So, like you i prefer to have at least a minimum of 2 and maximum of 3. Looking forward with that number of children i know i could give them better life ahead.Thanks for you post and have a blessed day.
@lyndee22 (1211)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
I came from a big family and as I have observed it's a hard to rear a big family specially the needs of every member. Well as for me I would want to have 3 kids. Practical speaking economically wise, prices of commodities is getting higher and our monthly pays could hardly met both ends, so we have to practice family planning so that we could give enough love and care to every members of the family.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
Hi lyndee. I do agree with you it is so hard to raise children now a days. Even me i just this thought that one is enough for now a days because of high commodities.It is a tough one. Maybe i could have another one hopefully it would be a girl then in a couple of 2-3 years from now. Thanks for your post and have a blessed day.
@lyndee22 (1211)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
High commodities is already problem so obviously we have also to do our part. Thank you for marking me best response. Good luck.
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
27 Jun 07
I'm pretty happy with my family as it is: just the one child. He's one year old now, and I'm so excited by all the things he is learning and doing. I know a lot of people think that you should have at least more than one so that they don't get lonely, but there are a lot of health and money considerations in my family, as well as a simple preference not to have to deal with my children fighting the way my brother and I did. Besides, I have friends who have children who will socialize with him. =)
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
I guess having one child would turn out to be a spoiled brat...though not all but for a few.I guess you should add at least one child so that your child now could have a playmate. Though you have a lot of friends with child who socialize him but it a different thing for a brother or sister perhaps. I don't know if you'd agree the idea but if youd happy with one then thats okey then, in that way you could put your whole attention to him. Fighting for brothers or sisters is a natural thing i guess for growing up but it depends on us parents how to take things fine for both of them. I for sure they would listen if we'd talked things to them,hope this do.But anyway, thanks for your post and have a blessed day.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Jun 07
I do agree that you have to be more careful not to spoil an only child. It can actually take a lot of work to keep them from becoming that stereotypical spoiled brat, but I know some very nice people that grew up only children as well. I think the idea of putting all my attention on him is important to me, and that's part of why I want to have only one. I have some serious health problems, and I think having more than one child to take care of would result in my not being able to properly give them the time and energy they deserve.
@micaella (396)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
I had my dreams perfectly asking about of how many kids i want to have. I used to dream only 2 kids before when i was a teenager. 1 girl and 1 boy, my dream came true i have them now, my eldest is a girl and my son. I dont have any plan now to have another1 or more... Im happy now with my kids and contented for them...
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
Hi micaella. Congratulations.I do agree with you.Two is enough and your were blessed to have a baby boy and girl. Thats so nice.Thanks for your post and have a blessed day.
@snowmoon (24)
• China
27 Jun 07
i am not marrige but i prefer to have 2 kids ,one boy one girl,if i have money to raise more children i prefer 3 kids,two boys and one girl,but a couple just have only one kid in China.
• China
28 Jun 07
Especially in big cities in China,family planning is very strictly carried out.
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
27 Jun 07
I would like to have 2 children in total, I already have 1. But I guess the final amount of children me and my husband have is up to God mainly! If I was very well off, like millionaire status and no money worries, I would have 6 of them. But we have big mortgages and both have to work so I don't see how having more than 1 or 2 is an option. Besides, there is overpopulation of the world to consider!
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
I do agree with you babykay.Now, that i have my first baby boy i do hope i could have a baby girl but in a couple of 3-4 years after. It's not an easy thing raising a child, it takes to be financially able to support one's need all throughout.Thanks for your post and be happy as always.
@bobbyjoe143 (1287)
27 Jun 07
i am from a very large family... my mother was the 12th child out of the 14 that my nan had, and my dad is the 2nd child out of the 6 that my grandmother had. i am the 3rd child of 6 (i have 2 brothers and 3 sisters). i have a son, and i never plan to have any more kids! having a very big family is nice, but i never actually wanted any children, so one is more than pleanty for me lol.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
Hello bobbyjoe. Oh! that was a big family, I can't imagine if im going to have more than a dozen of kids. But if financially able then why not..he.he.he.but i can't afford to have that many since i would lose my figure..he.he.he.just kidding.Same with you im contented with one kid for now that we faced high commodities on the market.Thanks for you post and have a blessed day.
• China
27 Jun 07
Like the old times, people have dozens of kids.They have a happy ending of their lives.But now, it costs lots of energy and money to raise a child. How many patience you have to afford and you could afford? As this time, we have lots of pressure from raise ourselves, i will say one may be my choice.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
Hi russelcrowe. I do agree with you on it. Those old times we say they also encounter financial crisis but not so much financial crisis we have faced now a days as the commodities are getting higher and higher and wages are not that big to compensate on our daily expenditures. So, like you being a responsible parent id like to have less child so that i could be able to give a better future ahead especially in their needs.Have a blessed day.
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I want to have 3. My husband is the only son now because he lost his brother, that's why I am having a hard time relating to my mother in law because she doesn't want my husband to go with us and I think having 1 child is very hard especially if time comes that you have to let go. And when we, parents, grow older I think it would be nice if we have many children that will take care of us. And as other people say "the more, the merrier". But of course, we have to think first our capabilities to have many children...especially financially.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
Hello tseavellanosa. I do agree with you on it "the more, the merried" but as long as the parents can afford to support the children all throughout thats nothing to worry about. But these days you could be able to see lots of street children and i myself can ask where are the parents of this children? why do at a young age the work along the streets?I really feel so pity of this kids roaming around and asking for alms. As parents we should be as well as responsible of having a children and so sad to say lot of parents dont take this seriously.Have a blessed day.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I love to have at least 2 kids..but we're having hard time conceiving so meaning I'll be very grateful for even just 1 child. I'm praying that He'll give us that soon.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Hello cefaz. Just pray hard on it cefaz, i certainly believe that a time will come, a right time to conceive for a child will come to you unexpectedly and im praying it for you also. Just believe in the miracle of prayer. Like me i want you also to feel that wonderful feeling of being a mother, the excitement, the pain, the tension and everything, it was so great though there are some barriers come but above all its worthy to be called a mother.Thanks for your post and have a blessed day.
• United States
27 Jun 07
i am a mother of one and hes the only one that i want, i went ahead and had my tubes tied to insure that hes it too!
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Hi mandarin, thanks for sharing a bit. Im hoping that you would decide to have another one so that your baby can now have a playmate. :D Have a blessed day.
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
i want 2 children..
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
I do agree with you michael.Thanks for sharing a bit. Have a blessed day.
@raj0019 (2629)
• Argentina
27 Jun 07
I would like to have only 1 child, because that will be good for both of us and rest of family.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Definitely yes, having one child is more convenient and economical. But i felt it would be a lonely part for the child being the only one.Though you gonna give him/her the full attention she/he needed but being the only child, he/she would most likely like to have a playmate sister or brother. Some tends to become spoiled brat though not all but there are some. Me, honestly i would prefer to have at least 2 child.Thanks for sharing a bit. Have a blessed day.
@zhaoxuyn (40)
• China
27 Jun 07
i want 7.a big family is well.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Well thats nice of you then..as they say the more the merrier it would be having a big family. As long as you can met the needs of everyone well that would be fine but if having a big family and encounter some difficulties especially in financial aspects id rather to have small family. Thanks for sharing. Goodluck and have a blessed day.
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
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I have two boys right now and i really want to have a little girl as well. If the third is a girl or not, we'll stop at 3.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Well the more you aim for a girl the more youll be granted with boys...for a lot of family gone through this...until their family became big in aiming for a girl.But in anyway as long as you can support your child all throughout then it is okey to have another one, if the 3rd one is still a boy, who knows the 4th one is a princess already. Im hoping for a baby girl for you then. Thanks for sharing a bit. Have a blessed day.
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
27 Jun 07
Orignially my partner & i wanted 2 kids - we agreed on that but after having our first little girl, i would like to have 3 children & he is happy with just 1! Things change when you have the first one coz some people choose not to have any more after 1, especially if you have trouble coping with the emotional side of things - which is 100% normal. I guess i'd have more than 3 if i could afford it but i think 3 would be perfect for me - i am the oldest of 3 & my partner is the oldest of 4!
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Well..it's true..i have that feeling also gemmygirl. When i have my 1st baby boy...after having this high commodoties in raising a child we talked things with my partner and agreed that 1 would be enough as for now.Maybe we'd like to have another one but in span of 2-3 years time. For now we are happy to have this son of mine. I would considered myself as one of the most grateful mothers in the world for i was blessed with a son.
• India
27 Jun 07
2 children r good for a family
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
I do agree with you santhosho. Thanks for your post . Have a blessed day.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
27 Jun 07
I always wanted to have a big family. I only had two siblings growing up and they were much older so we didn't interact much and I felt like I was more of an only child. Now as a mother, we have eight children altogether! When we began our relationship he already had two children and I already had three then we had three more together. They range in age from 17 years to 7 months and there are 5 boys and 3 girls.
• United States
27 Jun 07
As of right now, my husband and I just want one child. We have a son and he's the most precious thing in my eyes. I am just so thankful to have such a great child. Our opinions might change in the future but one is enough for us right now.
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
Hi jnallen....same with you i have my first son he is 1 year and 7 months old now.We haven't take into chances of having a next child for now also for financial aspects...maybe in a couple of 2-3 years after.Truly i agree with you...my son is also my life...my precious thing...my everything.....im so grateful for his coming into our lives.Thanks for your post and have a blessed day.