Did you make your spouse purchase a new home when you got married?

United States
June 28, 2007 1:42am CST
When you got married, did you make your husband buy a new home to use as the marital home? Or, did you move into the home that he shared with his ex-wife or ex-girlfriend before he met you? Did it ever feel like your home or hers?
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 07
I think my spouse is the most fortunate guy alive on this planet! When I just started my career I was very ambitious. I inherited a piece of land from my mom and immediately build a small cottage with four rooms. The house was not really complete when I met my soon to be husband. When I got married he only have to fork out little to complete the house and buy the furnishings. I have been living here eversince.
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• United States
2 Jul 07
Wow! That is the ideal situation to be able to start one's married life with a home of one's own. I wish we'd been so fortunate. But, we are working to get our little slice of heaven on earth. Thanks for sharing your story with me.
• United States
28 Jun 07
move into a house his ex anything lived in?? do people do that?????? ..i guess they do but i just havent ran across anyone i know who ever has..i dang sure wouldnt want to live in any house that was lived in with another woman...i think that would greatly irk me ..we bought our house a yr after we got married aint nothing much a teeny little place (could fit in my moms living room) but nooo woman before me and i plan on being the only woman here lol
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• United States
2 Jul 07
I've always thought that living in a place where a man's former wife/girlfriend lived would be like Jane Eyre. Very spooky! It would her her house really, even if she no longer lived there.
• United States
28 Jun 07
Isnt much about love if you are forcing them to do things. Then it would be all about you. I think it is something the couple should work out and do it in accordance with what is best for the couple.
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@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
28 Jun 07
My now ex-husband bought a house to talk me into marrying him. It worked. I would not have been able to live in a house that he had lived in with a girlfriend or previous wife. That would have felt too weird.
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@angela2006 (1846)
• China
28 Jun 07
if he can afford ,I will advise him to buy a new house and actually we can sold the old one.I do not want to live in a house where he and his ex shared ever,I think it is a memory of theirs,I can not ignore that,so I want a complete new.
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@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
28 Jun 07
We began our married life in a rental house...but now we do own our own farm.... I would never have lived in her house and would not have expected him to live where I shared a home with my ex...