Do you ask your children to do something against their will?

China
June 28, 2007 2:25am CST
As a child,my parents sometimes ask me to do something against my will,just like they ask me to buy something in the supre market when I am watching tv,and I will feel sad,and they always ask me to be a man as they expect to,ask me to find work they like,and always ignore my wills. What about you? if you are a son or daughter,do your parents ask you to do something against your will? if you are parents,do you ask your children to do something they do not like?
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
28 Jun 07
There are all kinds of things that people don't like to do. As a parent it is my job to teach my children responsibility. Yes, I ask my children to do things that they don't like to do. I also force them to do things that they don't like to do. Because it is what I feel is right for them to do. Once my children are adults and live in their own homes then they have the right to do what they want within reason but until then I will continue to try to teach them the right way to behave and do things.
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• Philippines
29 Jun 07
hi tracy, as a son i don't recall my parents asking me to do something againsts my will. I mean, even in the course i was to take in college, even though my father told me to take this course i didn't do it to make him happy but i took the course because somehow that's what i like..And if i'll ever be a parent, i won't ask my children to do something against their will, that's because the children will learn on their own, as they grow old, we will just have to guide them but not drive them.. ;
@pav_28 (168)
• India
28 Jun 07
i dont hav kids yet coz i m not married yet....but i think i'll never force them into a thing in which they r not interested....sometimes maybe if something is gud for them and they r unable to take the right decision i'll hav too....
• India
28 Jun 07
never. i hate forcing children. i strongly believe that children should be left to their willl. i hate forcing children as much as i hate my parents when they force me when i was a child.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
28 Jun 07
yup, i ask them to do stuff against their will all the time...like, do the dishes, sweep and vacuum and the one they really hate...clean your room!
• United States
28 Jun 07
its not really against ur will and all ur parents are doing is stopping u from being lazy. They raised u and buy ur food and clothes the least u can do is pay them bk with little chores like going to the store and getting a JOB to help out with bills and be more independent
• United States
28 Jun 07
its not really against ur will and all ur parents are doing is stopping u from being lazy. They raised u and buy ur food and clothes the least u can do is pay them bk with little chores like going to the store and getting a JOB to help out with bills and be more independent
@magnel (2263)
• India
28 Jun 07
There a lot of things that a parent ask your child to do at times when they are not willings. But its a part of the parents responsibility to take good care of the children and stop them from any wrong they have done.
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Part of growing up is learning that we don't always get to do what ever we want to do just because we want to do it. Yes, there are times when my parents ask me to do something for them that I don't like to do. I just do it if I am able to without whineing about it. That is what the respectful thing to do is. As a parent I also ask my children to do things that they don't like to do. Because it is my job to teach them to be responsible, that life isn't always about what they want.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Until they are 18 they are members of this family and live here. So yes I ask them to do things all the time and it may be against their wills. When adult you will have more say. Then you weigh it against the whole honor your mother and father thing. Children need to be told to do things until they become fully functioning adults and start lives of their own.
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
28 Jun 07
I will ask my son to do something against his will, but I won't force him to unless he realises why and is happy to. To force a child to do things out of his will is sometimes necessary because he cannot always judge things orrectly as he has not experienced much in the society. Therefore it needs us parents to guide them in a correct way, thus they will be happy to do things out of their initial will. What do think about it now after reading through my response? Will you still be happy to do things out of your will or whatever?
@kampo90 (289)
• Antarctica
28 Jun 07
Depends if its not something immoral if its just a chour or something like thtah than i will do it.But if i would be something that conflicts on my views of something like let say a i would be animal rights activist and my parents would tell me to go to my uncels new petshop opening i would refuse. I would alos make my child do chours and stuff like that you gotta have some authoraty whit a child otherwise hw wont respect you anyways helpinga round the hoiuse may build skills that will be usefull when my child will move out.(just to make things clear i dont have a kid i am saying this when i will have a kid :) )
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
28 Jun 07
asking you to go buy something from the market isnt something against you will it is something to help out. So mom and ada can do something else at the house while you do that and as for work if you can find it it should be something you like or you wont last long at the job, and if you do stay in the job you would make yourself miserible and thats not good . But I always took a job and learned how to like it an get them most out of it I could then go to the next one I always enjoyed every job I ever done and I have worked at something since I was 5. Good luck with your life.
@cmsk2005 (1770)
• United States
28 Jun 07
i am against that thing but u know tracy, there are some time when our experience can guide them better than their own thought/will, right? And this is mostly when they are not matured. but i try to do so telling them why I want this, what is thereason behind it and what could be the result if this goes wrong etc....you can say a sort of discussion and let them think about it......then decide and tell me....
@youless (93173)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Jun 07
I don't want to force my child. I tend to use a tender way. For example, I don't like my child who is three years old to play computer for a long time. I will tell him it's time to have a break. I will also give him delicious snack so that he can listen to me. Too strict way is not my style.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Of course parents ask children to do things they do not like. It is a matter of teaching responsibility. I tell my boys that in life, we may not always like the things we have to do, but we must do them. I may not like having to work extra hours, but my boss says I must, and I need to pay my bills. It is one thing to have them do something against their will in my eyes. I categorize them separately. To me against my will, means something horrible I really truly abhor doing. To do ill will to someone else. But asking me to do something I do not like, I may not like typing, but if it is part of my job, then I must. I hope I explained what I mean well.
@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
28 Jun 07
My children are adults now and yes I did sometimes ask them to do something they might not like.
@angela2006 (1846)
• China
28 Jun 07
it can not be avoided that I and my child have different ideas on something,but I think I will not compel him do what he does not want to do.I will tell him my reason and my experience,if he still sticks to what his idea,just let him do that.after some setbacks,he will understand what I said.
@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
No...of course not and I won't do that either to my kids.