Does the thought of dying worry or bother you?

@kingri (46)
United States
June 28, 2007 4:06pm CST
I had a good friend pass away recently. She had cancer and was in a lot of pain towards the end. She fought hard to hang onto life. This caused me to do a lot of thinking. I cant really remember a time in my life that I didnt just kind of accept death as a thing that will come in due course. If I had been in her shoes I just dont see myself as fighting to hold onto life. Seems like everytime someone passes away you will hear phrases like "Well, he/she was very strong, and fought it right up until the end." Is that somehow what is expected of us? Fight for what? More pain and suffering? I dont know why I feel so comfortable with dying. My thought tend to sway more to this way of thinking. "I know we all have to die sometime, and it will be more pain to fight for life, so I think I will just move on the the next great adventure." I would be very interested to hear everyone else's oppinions
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@gjohnrod (34)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
of course the thought of dying would worry you a lot if you put it inside youre mind all the time..accept the fact that you will die anytime but to know when or how you will die is worst than bothering. this is my story... i woke up 8:am on june 19,2007 my emotion mixed with hapiness and sorrow.i saw a guy across the street in my dream and i greeted him,we talked, a familiar face telling me on "this day an accident would happen later this afternoo and i my face would fade away" and he also said that "we will see each other soon".woke up a little bit happy because i saw my bestfriend who already passed away 11 yrs. ago but sad a bit to face the warning he said. what i did is i just prayed to thank him for the warning and stayed at home that day... all you have to do is live life to the fullest and god will always take the rest..
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
29 Jun 07
I don't like the idea of dying but I think that is because I don't have a strong faith of what happens after. I don't care about losing the body but I don't want to lose an awareness of who my family is and who I am. But I guess if there is nothing after i really won't care that I can't remember it then. I just have to live forever then. LOL
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
29 Jun 07
It does not worry me too much though I have thought quite a bit lately about what it would be like to die or about to die. I can not imagine how much pain a person goes through before they die but I am sure that I would rather die than continue to suffer. We all will die eventually so it should not bother us too much. I sure will miss my family and friends when I do pass away and wonder if people will miss me when I am gone.
@Ayedawg (12)
• Canada
29 Jun 07
I do not believe in an afterlife so the thought of dying to me should be tragic and scary. However, I do feel that your time, is your time. If I were to die in an accident tomorrow then so be it, it's unpreventable. However, if I were in a situation much like your friend, I would fight as hard as possible because Cancer is not a sealed fate. It is not black and white. You create the black and white through your actions and perseverance. If you cannot create change then you are merely bringing realization to the black and white that was not so present in the past.
@sharon_ (1171)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Sorry for the lost of your friend. Your friend is in a much better place now. The thought of dying doesn't really worry me. I try to do my living here on this earth and have no problem whatsoever when I have to go to that higher "plateau".
• United States
29 Jun 07
I do not fear dying. I believe in heaven and know that I'm going there to meet my Lord and Savior. What I fear is leaving loved ones behind. Right now, my children are young (7 & 4) and it would break my heart to know they are growing up without me. I guess that only applies if there is a progressive or terminal illness and I have a lot of time to think about it. I cannot say what I would do in that situation. I knew of someone who was given 4 - 6 months to live (cancer) and she spent her last weeks going from doctor to doctor, getting one treatment after another. . .away from her family. She missed out on the last several weeks with her 3 young children and her husband. She passed away after only about 3 months, instead of the 4 - 6. It was very sad, but who knows, if I thought I would find something to help me live longer for my children, I might have done the same thing.
• United States
28 Jun 07
i had a mother in law that past a year aog with cnacer, and was in alot of pain the last 3 days of her life.. she would of rathered live than die.. its a scary thing.. i was a over the road truck driver, had a heart attack on the interstate.. while in the ambulance all i good do was cry that i dont wnat to die.. at the hoaspital i was given a shot to relieve my pain.. 5 minutes later told them i was goiong to pass out and how come i peed my pants, found out they have to use the paddles on me.. had a 4 way by pass at the age of 45.. something inside you tell you to fight no mater what the pain level is, even when we know its time to be with God..