What to do with bad parents?

United States
June 29, 2007 12:33pm CST
Yeah well in the last two days I had to help my neighbor get her kids out of her car twice. First they were locked in with keys in the car windows shut and no ac. Her kids are a 4 year old disabled child and a 1 year old. Now the next day im watching her 8 year old outside watching the 1 year old when he up and leaves. And well all alone the baby locks himself in the car again and well no one knows where the keys are. My son was able to reach his arm in as the window was cracked a littel but when I grabbed the baby he was hot. What do I do if it happens again these poor kids?
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
29 Jun 07
If you feel like it would help, I'd talk to the parents first. Maybe they think the 8 year old is responsible enough to watch a 1 year old; but clearly he or she is not. If I didn't get anywhere talking to the parents, I think I'd have to call social services. For this kind of thing they are very unlikely to remove the children-well at least here in Massachusetts they would be unlikely to remove the children. Chances are they'd offer the family some help with finding appropriate childcare, and strongly recommend parenting courses.
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• United States
4 Jul 07
Ha she gets all kinds of assistance already. I mean she lives in a three bedroom house and pays nothing in rent. Shes got a 4 year old handicapped child who is kept in the basement at all times its weird.
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@eden32 (3976)
• United States
5 Jul 07
That's very bizarre. I think knowing that, I'd definitely call social service. No idea why a handicapped child would be kept in a basement, but it sounds bizarre & neglectful. The child should be receiving therapy & assistance for whatever is going on, and if he/she isn't then that's medical neglect.
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@781218 (5)
• China
30 Jun 07
oh,the pool kids!I would tell their mother take care of them
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• United States
30 Jun 07
some time just a nice sugesten to a person would work try that and if that does not work maybe you should ask someone form vhild servies
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• United States
4 Jul 07
I have talked to her but any time you go to parenting skills she gets upset about damn nosey neighbors. She says "just because im dating a black man everyone thinks im a bad mom" Right thats why not the fact that she never knows where her kids are and the oldest is 7 years old. Heck even her supposed boyfriend is never around.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
29 Jun 07
well, regardless of the fact that she is your neighbor, these children are much more important than your relationship with her. If it was me, I would talk to her about it. Tell her, that if it happens again, you will report her. See if she can't get some help, or if she's willing to allow you to help. Maybe she's just ignorant? Even so, her children shouldn't have to suffer. If she doesn't shape up, def. report her.. in themeantime.. keep an extra eye out for her kids, and try to convince her to keep her car locked and maybe invest in an extra set of keys!
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• United States
4 Jul 07
Yeah well shes got the attitude that the world owes her. She is the type thats on welfare with 4 kids works but doesnt claim it. She cheats every chance she gets. She is not someone you can talk to and reason with. I think im gonna talk ith some other neighbors and get some help.
@magikrose (5423)
• United States
30 Jun 07
My fear is that you are not home and these kids get locked in again and no one knows and one or more of the kids die. Honestly your best bet is to call child welfare or what ever child protection agency you have in your area and let them know what has been going on. You dont have to leave your name at all so for all your neighbor knows any one could have made the call. The thing is you have to do something before anything worse happins to those kids.
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@sjohnson628 (3197)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I would talk to the parents and say how concerned you are about them being unattended. That is terrible of the parents to not watch their own kids! I would not let this happen again. You may not be around to help them and something tragic will happen. I hope you talk to them right away and if your conversation does not help in the matter the I would make a call to the child protective service in your area.
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@bambi_doe (566)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I personaly would not let it happen again as you may not be around to resue them. Call child pretection services and report it. Tell them that you have had to resue them servel times in the past and are concerned about their welfare. Hugs and good luck
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@mosvph (97)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
Does your neighbor really like having her kids? How come they keep getting locked inside the car? I mean if she goes somewhere, she can lock the car so the kids don't get inside without her. Or does she subconsciously wish they would get locked up and die of the heat "by accident" ? They are just babies! She must always be close by. Or does she have so many of them? Is she so harrassed? Poor woman! Then she needs help. Nannies wanted! Otherwise, if she is simply negligent, maybe you have to inform her husband or a law enforcer.
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
30 Jun 07
How danger! and what neglegent parents they are to create such situations, i really held my breath for a moment and i can hope what had heppened with you at that time,if you think their parents are really bad then they deserve punsihment and i want them to be locked in the car for days long till they realise what they are doing with their kids.
@rupee1 (38)
• Pakistan
30 Jun 07
Gosh.. thats quite irresponsible... Kids need a special care and specially the disable ones .. they deserve a lot of extra care as they can not take care of themselves as much as other kids canIf i would be at your place i would really have went to her and had givenm her a loong speech over this.. if still she does not care i would meet her husband and give the same speech.. it may result something meaningful and effective
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@im_anna (718)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
i can't stress enough as everybody has mentioned that the safety of the children is very important. I agree that there is a need to talk to your neighbor about the urgency and action towards being a more responsible parent and that if they don't do anything to the situation, you have no choice but to make action, to report to authorities to what has been happening. I agree, as to what has mentioned to log the incident, if possible to video the situation so you have a prove of the incident when reporting to authorities. You can also suggest to your neighbor some ways of finding help, as i have heard somewhere that there are non-profit organizations about parents helping other parents taking turns in helping the household or monitoring children as a temporary "nanny" while finding a more permanent one.
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
30 Jun 07
The thing about it you don't want to be a bad neighbor but you surly cannot let a child die of heat and reporting them though may seem right can be a bit cruel to the kids and could get you a enemy you can try talking to your neighbor about it and make suggestions
@mujtab20 (434)
• Nigeria
29 Jun 07
Wow that's too bad for your neighbour, I think she need to make herself busy to see that her kids does what is good for them always.
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29 Jun 07
I can't really add anything that hasn't already been said but just really wanted to reinforce the point that you really shouldn't wait until it happens again!!!! Ideally if you can talk to your neighbour and think they'll listen then would suggest you do that first, but otherwise I think you really should get child welfare involved. As someone already said it's not likely that the kids would be taken away over it, but it might help them to be able to get the family support it sounds like they really need. It might seem like interfering but helping them to get help is probably the most neighbourly thing you can do.
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
29 Jun 07
Some people are very irresponsible parents indeed:-( But actually you can do nothing if she dont abuse with them, dont maltreat them and etc. She is just careless. You can just try to advice her. But there is no garancy that you will not hear the reply: -This is none of your business.
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• United States
4 Jul 07
I know its such a bad situation for the kids. Untill they die in a hot car there isnt much you can do. The cops were at her house the other day and one of her kids were in the car and they did nothing cause she said she was just gathering the rest of her kids to leave......she never did leave.
• United States
30 Jun 07
Hiya there Minnie..I have been in that sort of situation..minus the being locked in a car..but still very very bad parenting..and i called the police and children services..it seem like a harsh hting to do to someone..but not WAYY as harsh as what those poor children are going through! And your story just broke my heart! If you call Children services or whatever its called where you live i know you can remain annoynomus(SP??) and they will check into things..and hopefully she wont be as careless anymore and if she is..i hope they fidn a home where someone will..maybe a grandparent? I wish u and those children lots of luck..plz keep me updated will you? have a good day!
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Talk to the neighbors and get a sense if they do this often. This is a sad situation to say the least. Some people seem not to care once their kids are outside and feel they are out of their hair for now. Talk to them ask a lot of questions along the lines of child watching etc and see if you may need to call CPS possibly. This needs to be oaid attention to closely by someone. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM DADDY!!~