Have your ever DITCHED some one...??

India
June 30, 2007 5:09am CST
Have you ever ever ditched someone..?? Recall your memory and try to find it out have our ever ditched someone?? Broke his/her heart..!! Came out of relationship just becasue you feel like or you dont like the guy/gal..!! I did. I once ditched a guy just becasue he bored me a lot..!! This is very shamful..!! But its true.I just wanted to share it with all of you my budies. I just called him just to say not to call me agian..!! He asked one reason why am I doing this to him I gave him no reason. I felt so sorry about that..!! But thanks to my ego ..After "3 years" "I" called him back and asked sorry..! Just because this guilt inside me never allowed me to sit peacefully..!! Its not that I want to get back with him I just wanted to apologise and I did..!! Now I am in muhc more peace now..!! :)
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15 responses
• India
24 Sep 07
ditching is just not in my blood. i hate the concept of ditching and ditchers. i have the longest network of friends and i can proudly say i recognise each one of them and am in contact with each one of them regularly. i may give preferences to some people over other. but i never leave anyone completely. its just like that i would say to them: "i am in the neghrborhood, so if u need me just come over or ask me to come over and i will be there". though i have been ditched by a lot of people but still they can say if they need me i will be there for them. thats how i am.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
Haven't really 'ditched' someone. More of rejected him right then and there. I never regretted doing so because at least he got his answers straight. Actually, right before he said something, I already sensed his intentions and didn't want it to happen. So I started avoiding the person, but alas, he still proposed. So at first, I slowly talked to him sincerely that I didn't want such commitment as of the moment and that it would be better for us both if we were just friends. But still he insisted, stating that he knows deep inside me I love him! the nerve!!! After a while trying to pacify the situation, he was still at it. So I really rudely told him he wasn't my type and nothing he could do could ever force me in a relationship I don't want. Well, to make the long story short, he's still at it, but I have completely ignored him and am acting rudely to him. I know it's bad, but when a person is so hard-headed there's nothing else you can do but show him the door.
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• India
1 Jul 07
Some where I did the same. I knew he just wanted to take me to bed..!! He was trying to take advantage of me so I just called him and said that I don't want to talk to him any more without telling him any reason..!! But I felt that I ditched him because he never compelled me for any thing but ...after I left him he almost changed 4 girlfriends after me..!! in 3 years. So this says I did the right thing..!! And so you by simply rejecting him.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
Yeah, there are men who deserve to be rejected upfront. I don't think we were bad girls for doing what they deserve. By the way, I don't think it's really bad to ditch someone. It would only be bad if you only wanted something from him and after you got it, you reject him. That's bad But what we did. No way.
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• India
4 Jul 07
he he ..yeah your right...!! :)
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@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
When I was younger, and single, I had a bf for 6 long years. When I worked in a mining company, I met someone who literally swept me off my feet...So back to Mr. bf for 6 years, I could not afford to tell him...Imagine, my parents were divided; mom was for bf for 6 years, my dad was rooting for new boy in my life. What I did? It just happened so fast...I just had a relationship with Mr. New Boy without breaking up with Mr. 6 years...then much later after a year and a half, he just learned that I was about to get married to Mr. New Boy...I really ditched him, and he did not know what hit him, all because of a third party...I was cruel, I agree because he was nice, and have not done anything to hurt me...it was that I got caught in a new romance...and by the way, Mr. New Boy is now my husband for 26 years, and we are blessed with two kids, both grown ups now...
• India
1 Jul 07
WOw..!! whole life story in just small paragraph..!! I cannot say anything about this whether you did wrong or right..!! But I must say you must have made your self clear first to your bf a decisions of life cannot be taken in such hurry..!! But not every one can just be as clear about her life..!! Even I have a very confusing mind..!! I can confuse anyone..!! Thanks for your response.
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• United States
30 Jun 07
Ohh myy..yo just brought back the meanest time of my life..and i feel aweful about it..I did..once..im not a mean spirited person ..but i dated this guy and he was soo good to me..flowers al the time..he worshipped me....never had that before lol..he was wonderful..but some friends sisnt approve at all..because he was well..kinda lke harley type..and im like ur average girly girl lol..but one thing that i couldnt stand was that after we dated for a bit..he started to get some REALLY BAD B.O!! omg! it was so bad my eyes watered when he was close..and omg! worse when we made love!!! i wrote notes about your body is your temple..and u need to keep it clean..blah blah lol but he just didnt care...well one day..i just said i cant do it anymore..im done..plza move out tonight..nothign major..but clothes and his stereo..he was only there for a cpl mths..anywho..now..its been years//and i know i hurt him..his friends told me..and made me feel so bad..but my pride got the best of me...but atthe same time..who could really live with that smell? lol..and i know i shoudl have went another way..but i was young and careless..thats my story..:)
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• India
1 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing that with me....!! But I must say if what he became was because of YOU !! Then it is only YOU who can change him ..!!
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• Indonesia
30 Jun 07
dear friend. you have ditched onces. that"s make you feels guilty, so be careful with your ego or can i say felling, it can make nigtmare all of your life. but i belive you can passing trough all of it. just be truly you. couse, you just what of you think of.
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• India
1 Jul 07
Thanks for That..!
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@tiffthone (193)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I've done that before, kind of. I don't regret it in one sense, because had I not done that I wouldn't have my daughter, and I wouldn't trade her for anything. However I do look back on it and think gosh that was so dumb. This guy treated me better than anyone has ever treated me, he never disrespected me, and he would have been really good for me. I was dumb and young, and I just broke up with him for no reason, except that I wanted to go out and have fun with other guys. Like I say, in a way, I wish I could change it, but looking at what I've got now, I wouldn't. Just maybe go about it in a nicer way.
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• India
1 Jul 07
Well people mostly do BIG mistakes in their youth only ..!! Just belive what happens is always for our goodness..!!
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• India
30 Jun 07
i loved a girl when i was some 17 years old. then i din't like giving too much attention to her as i felt i was spending less time with my friends. yes i know i was foolish then or to say i was not mature enough to be in a relationship. then i ended it. i dint call her for some days and felt that my life was in my hands then. but later i felt bad about myself and about the way i ditched her and called her back. she was so sweet that she later forgiven me after a few scoldings though. but i was happy. the relationship ended but during that time i felt that i lost a valuable person in my life. now its fine with me.
• India
1 Jul 07
well thats good as you apologised..!! thanks for your response.
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@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
Yeah quite a few times. I don't know why. maybe I am afraid of getting too close or maybe I just haven't find the one for me. There's this one guy and he got angry with me. Made me realize I made the right decison
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• India
1 Jul 07
This do happens many times ..but you just can't play with someone's heart like this just to find the right guy...!!! this is bad..!! Better stay away from this things and ...in shot.. "Don't find love, let love find you"
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• Philippines
30 Jun 07
Yes I did - and this guy whom i ditched 7 years ago is now my closest friend. We were both in college then - he was in his 5th year (graduating), I was in my 3rd year. I liked him even before he courted me but I don't know what happened - my feelings just ebbed away. My conclusion is that I was still very young then and didn't understand what having a relationship to someone means. I was so immature to understand things related to boy and girl relationship and I didn't know the difference of infatuation from love hehehe. Anyway, peer pressure had something to do with it - my friends liked him for me so they pushed me to accept him so I did. But when I started to disliked him for no reason at all, I ended up the relationship after a week or two. After 7 years, I was lying on my bed, reminiscing my past, recalling all the events of my life, my memory of him came accross my mind and for that moment I felt I needed to say sorry for what I have done. How can I be so irresponsible and immature? Anyway, I logged in to friendster and typed his name on the search engine and I found him - he has an account to friendster. I added him up but he did not respond after one month. After all the sorry's and the "how are you's" we are now best of friends. He comes here in my place to visit me and have coffee =)
• India
1 Jul 07
This is natural..!! I call him after 3 years because of my guilt..!! Thanks for your response.
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• India
1 Jul 07
I did it once...I was interested in that guy and just siad yes to keep him quite and stable...But when it came to doing all the stuff that a girfreind should do i just couldn't do it like going out with him,speaking very nicely and romantically...I use to get irritated when he use to ask me for date...So then i ignored him and later i said that i don't want to stay with him...but i amde it very clear in the begining that don't expect any thing from me but i suppose he expected from me and he got hurt... I said sorry to him.....and felt guilty about it....
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• Spain
1 Jul 07
reealy? no never
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@Ravrockin (281)
• India
1 Jul 07
As per my memory till yet i have not ditched anyone in my life .If the grace of god will be always like this to me i dont think require to ditched anyone in my life
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• United States
30 Jun 07
No but another guy is trying to convince me to ditch my boyfriend currently so this is kind of an interesting read lol..
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• Canada
30 Jun 07
I have been told that I have ditched people in a non-relationship sense even though I have not meant to do it. I feel bad when they tell me but sometimes I am forgetful and never meet some people
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@thefuture (1751)
• Nigeria
30 Jun 07
No friend. I have done that to someone. Thanks