Just 5 more days!

@Marie2473 (8512)
Sweden
June 30, 2007 8:27am CST
Sorry for nagging about it - but i find it to be helpful to write things of my chest. In 5 days I will have my surgery and I am scared. I am really nervous about the whole thing. My bf will ofcourse be there with me and I love him for all the support he is giving me, but at the same time I really wish that my mom also would be there =) I know that she will probablybe on her holiday just expecting my call, worrying sick about me and I know that she would want to be here if she could. I am scared that something will go wrong, that they will not be able toremove it all or that they will remove the wrong thing *h ha ha* I guess it´s just normal to be scared though!!!
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@bruceldo (80)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
it's normal to be scared specially when you're about to undergo a surgery, just look at the bright side. That you're lucky to have your bf beside you and i know your mom is praying for your safety. I know that we're not that close and im not one of your friend but i still wish you wellness. Just keep on smiling Marie.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
30 Jun 07
I will try to stay positive and I am lucky to have support in my bf atleast. many people go through all this stuff alone!
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@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Of course it's normal to be scared, but try to think only positive thoughts. Being too stressed out will may hinder the healing process so try to relax by meditating at least a few minutes each day and keep a journal with positive affirmations. Remember too to discuss all your fears with your doctor before hand so they can help calm your fears. They've heard it all before so don't hold back. Getting some validation from them will help you go into surgery with a positive outcome.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
Yeah, I will definately discuss it all with them before they can do anything =)
• United States
30 Jun 07
You need to breathe my friend. Calm down and think positively. Do not let negative energy come your way. Everything will be okay. Just put your mind in a good frame. Huggers to you...Sarina
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
I am trying but I get more and more worried the closer it gets. =/ Just 2 days left now
• United States
30 Jun 07
Awww I know it is hard for you, especially being so close, but just remember you will get to be asleep for this and when you wake up you will have answers to all your questions. I can't wait for you to have it and finally determine what the problem is so you can fix it and move on with your wonderful life with your boyfriend. My Prayers will be with you!!
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
it´s just 2 days left now and I am really worried, but i am also positive that I will come out ok with all my vital organs still attatched ?=
@cipher2004 (1183)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Any kind of surgery is scary.It is normal.Please do not be scared.Just be thankful that you found out what is wrong with you.Think of the positives.What would have happened if you found out what was wrong say 10 years from know?After all the surgeries me and my family have gone thru you have nothing to worry about.From cervical cancer,open heart surgey and a scraping of the lung from pnenomonia.You will be O.K.I have been several times for cancer.I am 44 and am O.K. now.Doctors are very experienced now a days.So stay caalm and keep the faith.My prayers are with you.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
I guess it is better to have it done now than it would have been 50 years ago. Like u say, the doctors have alot of knowledge about it all
• Netherlands
30 Jun 07
I wish you all the best and pray that everything will be okay. I can't say don't be afraid since I know I will feel the same when it comes to surgery or seeing doctor. Well... if it makes you feel better and not alone, I have to see my dentist (I hate dentist) too in 5 days. They will have to do something with my teeth (pretty much serious damaged due my own ignorances) which makes me nervous too. So, it's normal to be scared because I'm too....hehehe. All the best for you !!!!
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
Aww, I really hate the dentist as well. That probably scares me more than surgery.. really - I feel for you now =)
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@sweetlady10 (3611)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Nobody like to even go to the doctors, so it is normal to be scared before surgery. Just keep believe in GOD, everything will be fine. I will pray for you Marie. Wish you all the best and hope it all goes well. Just think the positive side and keep mentaly strngth yourself.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Good luck! I'm sure things will go well- it's probably a routine surgery- so the doctors will get it right- and your bf will ne there- and your family and mylot family praying for you- Good luck!
• United States
1 Jul 07
Oh hon, It's only normal to feel that way I had 13 surgeries 11 minor and two major because I had cervical cancer and it all started back in 1992 but you have to have faith and know that nothing is going to happen that you and God can't handle. So take it a step at a time. See yourself healed and know that it will be fine. Don't think about it but just live each moment in itself. My prayers are with you.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
Thanx alot. I sure hope that one surgery will be enough. sorry that u had to go through so many, but as long as u are ok today I guess it is worth it as well
• Australia
1 Jul 07
I agree with you LadyMooreSabb! I have heard in many places, on TV and real life doctors say that faith is the most important thing you need to survive! (of course with sufficient treatment to your illness by professionals as well -_-) Anyways, it is good to hear that your cervical cancer is fixed up after so many surgeries!! (11 minor and 2 major! you could stand that, i think you are very brave!) But sometimes, thinking that you may not come out of that surgical room alive and not see your loved ones ever again, the thoughts can be very daunting, (sorry i am not trying to discourage you, you will be fine =D)
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
You have all the right to be scared, marie. Its understandable considering that you have no idea what exactly is right there in your body. I'm just grateful that your boyfriend is there to give you the moral and emotional support you needed. Be strong, my friend. Before you know it, everything will be alright again.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
Wow...a newbie dropping me a visit. Hope this poster is not another spammer on the block. :/
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
30 Jun 07
haha, reported =)I am scared ut like u said - also lucky to have great support
• United States
30 Jun 07
like many others have responded is normal to be scared its part of our process as humans. You are blessed because you have your boyfriend and friends by their by your side. And your mother might not be there physically but she will be there in spirit. God will have his protection over you and will make it through with fling colors just keep your head up and God Bless You and I will lift you up in prayer.
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• Australia
1 Jul 07
I have never been or needed a surgery, and im glad i do not have to! My father needed a heart surgery YEARS ago and i was pretty worried for him, since there is always a risk that something can go wrong. What kind of surgery are you going to get? Is it a serious illness of some kind? I hope nothing goes wrong for you, which most likely you will be safe given that technology is so advanced nowadays. I hope that makes you feel better. I am sure you mum loves you and REALLY IS worried sick about you. Make sure you call her after the surgery telling her you are perfectly fine, i know how it would feel to be worried about someone you really love in your heart...... i guess her holiday would not really be a "holiday" having to worry about this situation .
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
I will definately call her straight away. I am sure that she will be in phonecontact with my bf the whole time.
• Australia
3 Jul 07
yep lol... good luck for whenever your surgery is! Stay safe, stay alive, hope is all yours
@bruceldo (80)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
It's normal to be scared specially for someone who will undergo surgery, just look on the bright side. You're lucky that your bf is there beside you and about your mom im sure she's praying for your safety. I know that we're not close and im not one of your friends but i still wish you well and hope that you'll get through this. Just keep on smiling marie
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Jun 07
I heard somewhere that the only minor surgery is surgery happening to someone else. It so so normal to be scared. I have 3 childern who all at one time needed surgery and I was so scared and nervous. I also has a couple surgeries but they were real minor. But didn't feel like it at the time. I wish you all the best of luck during this time and hope you have a speedy recovery. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.
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• United States
1 Jul 07
Of course you're scared! Yes, it's only natural. I need 2 hands and a couple toes to count all the surgeries I've had. I was just as nervous for the last one as I was for the 1st one. The good thing is that technology has come a long way. I wish you luck. Try to make sure everything is in order so that you can't do anything but rest afterwards. You may even want to prepare some meals and store them to make things easier. Good luck! I wish you the best!
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
Thanx alot for the advices =) My bf has promised me that he will do everything for the following days though so I do not need to think about it =)
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Jul 07
I don't think there's anything wrong with mentioning such things here! When I'm having problems, I also like to post about them, because it gets them off my chest as well as makes me feel supported by my friends here. I've been having health problems myself lately, and I often find it makes me feel better to share. I will be thinking about you with your surgery, and I hope that all goes well for you!
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
Thanx alot. No there is nothing wrong, but some people might be upset about it!
@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Marie...I do not feel that you are nagging...sweetie, you are scared and tere is nothing wrong with that...we all fear the things that we do not know or have not experienced before..... I know that you are in good hands...your man will be standing there beside you and all of us will be there with you in spirit.... It is also normal to let your imagination run away with you...but try to control this as much as you can.... I hope that your parents are having a good time on hiliday....
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
Thanx alot. I hope that it will all turn out great and that i will be back on my feet in notime
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
It's true, it's just normal to be scared especially when going through the knife...I myself had 2 major surgeries, and I tell you, it was an ordeal...the pre op fear was nothing compared to the post op ordeal...What kind of surgery are you going through? Pray hard, tell your mother to pray for you too, especially if she will not be around..at least your bf will give you the moral support...Just trust everything to your surgeon...for all you know, the surgery is over and you might be talking about it here...Here's wishing you the best..
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
They are going to remove bad cells that can be cancer wrom a part of my womb. I am trying to stay positive about the whole thing
• China
1 Jul 07
Don't be nervous.Everyone will have such feeling before receiving an operation.Your boyfriend will be there waiting for you.You just lay donw and have a good sleep and have a nice dream.Cos the surgeons will give you some painkiller you won't have any feeling of pain.I don't kown what is your operation about.I hope you will recover soon.God bless!
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
3 Jul 07
Thanx alot
@dio123 (1788)
• India
1 Jul 07
Don't get scared at all God is Taking Care of You ! best wishes for your successfull surgery
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 Jul 07
Thanx alot.