Were you a loner as a child?

United States
June 30, 2007 8:18pm CST
I was in school. I didn't have any friends except one. I was too shy to get to know anyone. I regret that now. I think I should've tried at least. Some made fun of me which made me shrink farther back into my shell but some actually tried to include me. I actually quit school to get away from being embarassed around other teens. Were any of you this way?
4 responses
• United States
1 Jul 07
I'm still a teenager (17), and I'm still a loner. It doesn't bother me; I feel independent to the point where I don't desperately need people. I have friends now, but just one or two that I can seriously connect with. When I was in grade school, the girls in class bullied me for being a tomboy; all my friends were boys, and I spent my recess playing basketball or handball with them. In junior high, I was ostracized for having such better grades than everyone else; I sacrificed a social life for a studious one. Now in high school, I don't have good grades or many friends; plenty of acquaintances and a decent average, but nothing that makes me enjoy coming to school. Besides this, I go to an academically elitist (public) high school with an unreasonably strict administration and extremely boring & obedient student body. I have a problem with authority, and I believe being intelligent & being hardworking are not the same. So in a school with a student body ruled by fear, and a syllabus that is composed solely of mindless homework and barely any classroom learning ("just do it for homework"), I'm not very comfortable. But, I'm not completely miserable; generally disconnected, maybe yes, but independent --- in the end I just need myself to get through. In the end, I think the solution for anyone feeling alone is to be in an environment full of diversity; that way, they are bound to find someone else like them.
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• United States
1 Jul 07
Wow! You seem really intelligent. Good for you! I'm happy that feel the way you do. I wish I could've. I'm now 23 and I'm finishing high school through the mail when I could've ignored kids in high school and finished there. My grades were starting to come up when I quit. I hated biology but my grades had started to come up instead of go down. Not finishing was the stupidest thing that I could've done.
• United States
1 Jul 07
I had friends in school when I was younger, but because of how my friends treated me, I ended up really becoming a loner as I got older. They just acted immaturely and wanted to turn people against me for some reason so I learned to be on my own a lot. I was more comfortable that way.
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• United States
1 Jul 07
I'm sorry that happened to you. You can learn a lot when your in the shadows looking out. I saw a lot that so called friends did to each other. Thats one of the reasons I shyed away.
1 Jul 07
i am a child now, well...tennager, im 15.. and im still a loner..which doesn't bother me really... i just like being by myself a lot ;x
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• United States
1 Jul 07
It was hard for me in school being a loner. I couldn't even concentrate on school work. I'm glad that you aren't bothered by it.
• New Zealand
9 Dec 07
I felt like there was nobody that would be my friend when I was at school so I just felt like life, school and everything was just not worth being around but to this day I am still here just trying to hang in and wait till my time is there and not too interested in finding friends unless I can talk to them and they have had kind of the same kind of life. Basically to be my friend someone has to try to get me to talk and be able to talk and listen like friends do a lot of the time. I am a stubborn person, this is for real by the way and I have taken this long to get over something and it is still getting there too.