I am having SUCH a day today

@sanell (2114)
United States
June 30, 2007 8:27pm CST
IT is saturday, it is the end of the month. It is a beautiful day. But I am exhausted. My mom is having major issues going on with her and her mental health and her work I am just going crazy about it. She asks me for her advice and then she starts to sort of disregard it, I am like, you asked me for what I would do and that is what I would do...If you try it a different way it would be really sneaky. So Anyway, she is fine now. Then I find out that My husband is working tomorrow which is fine, but I have a spa appt and I do not want to cancel it. I just want to get my eyebrows waxed and get the facial I have been wanting to get for the past 2 to 3 weeks now. I never go in for this and I just need this time to have to relax. So my sister in law is coming over to watch the girls while I have that done. Then we are talking about seeing my mother in law, which is a whole other storey. I love the business that i run, I was training with a girl today, we have things set up in a way that will be perfect I have my babysitter in place everything will be fine but now i need to get things moving and going...what to do. My sponsor really wanted me to qualify this month, I have already $350 in my account plus another $500 but I am not going to make it I think if I get flagged for this next month as month number 3 I am not sure. I will check with her, but I know that I could probably sell $1000 in product for the month of July under my own pin so I am not too worried but I want to help my team too. I will have two business builders under me so I am really excited about that. Ugh I am just not having a good day today everyone is whining at me or yelling at me or asking for my advice It is too much I just need a breather, or a nap...I would prefer a nap but whatever....My husband gets off work at 7PM an dhe will be complaining about how TIRED he is and he has to work tomrrow too....GRGRGRRRR
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Awww man know how you feel with everything happening at one time and all you need is a breather. When your babysitter comes tommorrow while you are out getting a facial and wax, are you able to just stay out longer and go somewhere quiet to relax, or sit somewhere have a nice hot coffee or whatever and just relax a bit before going home? OR when you get home are you able to get in at elast 30 mins sleep or little longer if the babysitter doesn't mind watching the kids a little longer?? If you can't do the above then no offence to anyone in your family but you might need to force the issue. Maybe make Sunday pm your time to do whatever, and then give your hubby some time during the week where he can go off and relax or whatever? would that help? or are you able to get the kids into bed an hour earlier? so that you have some time with your hubby? or so that the house is quiet for the both of you to relax?
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@sanell (2114)
• United States
3 Jul 07
oh man I so wish. The relaxation occurred at the day spa when I had my facial. I fell asleep a couple of times, I woke myself up from snoring it was quite sad...But it was nice, I felt very refreshed nad then I went to get some coffee, Found out my hubby and sitter (My sister in law) and my kids were just around the corner, so we went out together it was fun. Kids fell asleep at a decent hour for once ....then today, I went with my mom to see her financial consultant to get her retired sooner rather than later....it went really well, but I had to FORCE my husband to watch the girls for just one hour. Then I needed to take her home and had him watch our low maintenance child who was taking a nap when I left. Anyway, I called because I had stopped by his sisters house to see if she could watch my girls on the day I have a bridal shower and she could not so then I called to see if I needed to pick anything up and he was all in a huff saying how he needed or wanted to get stuff done...well whatever, he said that this AM when he huffed and puffed about watching them for one hour....guess what he never did go and do what he said he wanted to do, big surprise there....So I made a comment to him about it and just said...Look you are being helpful BUT, it makes me feel really guilty when you raise a big stink about watching the girls for just a few hours when I am going out to help others with their issues ....and then when you raise the big stink and I come back when I say I do, you do not do what you say YOU were going to do if I had not gone out...that is just plain ANNOYING to me. Just because your dad was not around for you as a little kid does not mean we are in the same generation...You are a good dad but you need to step it up...you do not have your own business, and you are working a job that is needless to say, not the greatest but hey at least it is something. I did not say this at all but it is annoying that I am overdoing my own thing and basically being a single mom while he is working which is helpful but then when he takes time off, he does NOTHING ...that is not okay!
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
1 Jul 07
You have my sympathy. I am struggling with a mother who has mental health problems too. Sometimes you just have to let a few things go and take a break.
@sanell (2114)
• United States
3 Jul 07
so true...I have actually, I am treating myself as if I am a single mom, I told my business partner that too, I said I know that I am married and I am lucky to have a husband that lets me start my own business, but I am still a single mom when it comes to our kids. If I do nto have a sitter I can not rely on him to help...it sucks but that is just how it is...When my youngest one is out of diapers he will have NO excuse anymore.
• United States
1 Jul 07
Hi Sanell: Sounds like you need to get out of the "buzz" for at least a few minutes. Tt helpes me to go to a quite place and take a 20 or 30 minute nap. Just don't over do your self. Thats what I keep telling my son-in-law that stays on the run 8 hrs. Some times he gets called at off hrs. 5 & 6 days a week. Also, have a son that teaches school and goes from there to a retirement home and works in nursing 8 hrs. I keep after him for over working.Much of the time when he visits us, he falls to sleep while we are talking to him. Don't you think he needs to listen to his Dad and get more sleep? Well, I am sure we all need to take our own advice at times.