Mylot opinions about me?

@Fishmomma (11452)
United States
July 1, 2007 1:18pm CST
I receive many friend requests from people under 20 and I'm over 45. Do my discussions lead people to think I'm young? I'm asking because my daughter and husband think I'm out of touch with young people on many subjects. I don't accept all friend requests, as feel its important that I understand some of the questions that are asked by each of my friend requests. Do I have anything to add to a discussion posted by a 17 year old that the other members will not think is outdated? I am looking forward to hearing from many of you, as have several pending friend requests and want to let them know whether I'm gaining more friends.
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10 responses
@anonymili (3138)
2 Jul 07
I don't think people who choose to add friends here always even bother looking at their profile. I've had so many add requests from people who have no interests in common with me, who haven't responded to a single one of my discussions and I haven't responded to any of theirs but I rarely decline anyone out of hand. I tend to go to their profile and check out their discussions and see if we at least have interests in common, be it food, music tastes, type of books we read and TV shows, etc, but often it's because they've got the idea in their head that the more people they add as a friend the higher earnings they will get here. There are a few people who've started discussions advising people to just randomly add friends all over the place and they're actually quite annoying as people follow this advice. There are a couple of members who have tried to add me as a friend every time I decline them and I know it's because they want to appear on the "discussions my friends started" list - so I make a point of not adding them. I have no problem with adding people who are 18 or 68 as long as they write quality discussions or responses and/or we have various interests in common :)
@Fishmomma (11452)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Thank you for the reply. I have no problem with adding young people and added all of them. I'm hoping that I'll not regret all these adds, as I try to answer just as many discussions on my friends list, as I can each month. I don't want any of my friends list members to feel they are now going to receive a poor quality response from me in the future.
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@anonymili (3138)
3 Jul 07
Thanks for the BR on my response. As you know it's difficult to keep up with so many friends on here. I have my alerts turned off now for all friends as I was just getting 50 or 60 emails a day with discussions being started and if certain friends are starting 3 or 4 or 15 discussions a day and you try to keep up, it gets nigh impossible to share your time out on this site. I just do what I can now and hope people understand I cannot spend the whole day logged onto the site as I have a full time job, a husband AND a life outside of mylot :)
@jennybianca (12914)
• Australia
2 Jul 07
I am 49 years, & I receive friends requests from very young adults. I give everyone a chance, & approve every request. If I receive way too many notifications, or a friend starts unsiutable discussions, or they nev er res[pond to kine, I delete them. Age usully doesn't come into it. Although I guess if I examine who have kept as friends in the long term, there are a lot my age.
@Fishmomma (11452)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I use to approve every request and had them all set to e-mail me. Three people made sure that I would have to be selective, as I received over 100 e-mails in one day from them. They never posted on any of my discussions and spent a lot of time telling me how many responses they received to each of their topics. There was another person that used language that isn't acceptable to use when sending me a message. I have several young people on my friend list just trying to find out why I have received quite a few recent requests.
@Fishmomma (11452)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Sorry I didn't post thank you as I just read the post again. I have deleted people that haven't been on mylot in a long time and recently looked at my friends list and see people from many different countries and are wide range of ages.
• Australia
3 Jul 07
I think that maybe it a motherly thing? no offence lol but sometimes its nice to have a wiser perspective and a "motherly figure" from someone who isnt actually your mum? lol plus i think you a very nice lady and enjoy reading your awsome responses :)
• Australia
3 Jul 07
oh and my best friend not on the net is actually 33 lol :) i tend to get on really well with people older than me rather than people my age
@pillusch (1149)
• Mexico
2 Jul 07
You are a very lucky lady, I am 48 and I don't get very many friend requests at all. I don't know why, must be the way I'm writing. Maybe my age shows LOL, or whatever I write people don't identify with. Good luck to you with your many friends.
@Fishmomma (11452)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Thank you for the reply. I just added you to my friend list. One thing we certainly have in common is we are serious. Some people think I'm to serious, but I do try to relax and take a break every day.
@mrsbrian (1951)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Im not sure why you think you cant respond to a 17 year olds post. just because your older im sure your not living in the stone ages and have thoughts and ideas about todays life. why be so uptight about things this is just a fun site with people of all ages responding to all discussions. Sometimes younger people are looking for older peoples advice on something. your a mother and a wife so im sure you have some good advice about raising children, or how things in a marriage work. relax and add the friends you may be surpirsed how well all age groups fit in to your daily life.
@Fishmomma (11452)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Actually, I am certain that responding to a 17 year old post is possible, but want to add people that I can add something to the discussion. I have already received requests from members talking about new music; specially, rap and hip hop and didn't add them to my friend list. I don't know anything about these subjects and one of my neighbors plays it so loud that it can be heard for miles around. Sorry if I appear uptight, but really I'm just trying to learn more about mylot members. I would rather have a small group of friends than 100's that have me wanting to visit the board less often. Some people just add everyone and the last thing I want to become is a number. I know there are people in the group that add everyone. Yes, I realize teenagers are not the only people that add 100's of people just to send one line questions.
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@casinocat (284)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Perhaps these people have been impressed by something you have said in a past discussion. Perhaps you share similar interests. Perhaps they want to add you as a friend because you are intelligent and literate. Then, perhaps, there are those who just want to accumulate as many friends as possible. Hope you can weed them out!
@Fishmomma (11452)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Thanks for the reply. I'm concerned that some people are just adding everybody. Thanks for pointing out they may share my interests.
1 Jul 07
i dunno..you cant really tell anyones age on here.. because it;s the internet... you can sometimes..but it might be wrong :P
@Fishmomma (11452)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Thank you for the reply. You can check how old a member is by looking at their profile.
@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
2 Jul 07
I am 68 years old and get all kinds of friends requests from young people. I used to approve averybody. Now I leave them in pending until I see if I could ever contribute to any of their discussions. I think a lot of people collect friends when they first join Mylot. People deal in different ways with friends. Some take this very seriously and treat their virtual friends as if they were real life friends. Some people keep their distance and respond to discussions that interest them whether or not they are asked by friends or not. It also depends on whether or not the money is important. Myself I am on Mylot because there are many discussions that interest me and because I am learning a lot. The pennies are like the icing on a cake.
• India
2 Jul 07
I think you find yourself in an ideal situation. Let me explain…since Mylot is a platform for virtual friendship, difference in age matters very little. Friendship with someone 20/25yrs younger to you is very much plausible as you don’t have to undertake the physical strains involved in befriending teenagers (like going out frequently, hanging out at malls etc). instead, keeping in touch with them, gives you a peep into their world and keeps you mentally young and agile. They, on the other hand, are enriched by your knowledge of life under various circumstances. I mean you will obviously not preach them like a parent while on the other hand you, with you rich repertoire of experiences under varied circumstances, you can be an invaluable friend and confidant.
@sacrg793 (429)
• China
2 Jul 07
i think you shouldn't have opinions about yourself, just accept and talk to them, when you are talking to young people , you will feel younger yourself, it is good to keep your mind young and alive, you know.