9 to 9

@Modestah (11192)
United States
July 2, 2007 12:22am CST
I was brought up with the guideline of "you do not call people before 9 in the morning, nor after 9 at night. Did you also learn this as part of telephone and social etiquette? I am beginning to wonder if anyone uses these guidelines anymore. I get calls all hours of the night, by people dialing the wrong number : / I often get calls between 7 and 8 am.
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@franxexces (1096)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
My mom would always complain if I get a phone call after nine.. but you know I like to have phone calls from this time up since at this time I have less things to do.. or I'm idle at this time just texting or surfing the net.
@callarse1 (4793)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Yes, I use that guideline, but it depends with your friends. Sometimes you KNOW they stay up really late, for example until 2 AM. They don't mind phone calls so I will definitely call them at a late time. Sometimes your friends stay up late as well, and you call them to help you out with something, perhaps a quiz, test, homework, or something challenging about your house or computer. As for wrong numbers, yea I have got them all hours of the day. It may be someone calling a friend or something. Well have a nice day. Pablo
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I do use those guidelines, as I was brought up that way as well. But if I am saying calling my sister, I may dial her before that if I know she is awake, etc. I know many teenagers call their friends at all hours, they do not even start to "go out" until midnight sometimes. I don't think in present time that many people are either taught this guidline or live by it. Especially not the younger generation.
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I know, and they have no consideration that their teen friend has family that may have to go to work~
@AmbiePam (50282)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I was brought up to follow that same rule unless it was an emergency. I practice it today, and I'm pretty sure others appreciate it. When I lived at home I was always awakened by the phone. My dad always left early in the morning, so to make sure they caught him, they would call at 5:30am. Never mind it woke everyone up, including my dad who was never gone by that time. Hey, I even get soliciters calling me on Sunday! I always tell them I'm on the Do Not Call list and they usually apologize.
@sunita64 (6473)
• India
3 Jul 07
Even I was brought up with this etiquette, but some times to disturb my friends I do call after 9 specially if it is their birthday so I call after 12. I do get scolding from my friends but that is for friends are.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I was brought up that way. No calls before 9 a.m. or after 9 p.m. My daughter is not allowed to take phone calls after 9. I have my cell phone by me at all times because my brother works late at night and sometimes would like to call me and I help keep him awake until he gets home. My husband is deployed and sometimes he will call me from Iraq. I also have wives within my husbands troop that may need help or an emergency might arise, so I make exceptions in t hose cases, but just social calls or telemarketers I adhere to the etiquette I was taught as a child.
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• United States
3 Jul 07
It's not a matter of people forgetting social etiquette. It's that society has been put on it's ear time wise with technology. We are now a so called "global" society where it may be 2:00 A.M. for you but it may be 3:00 P.M. for Susan who was told to call Jack who is waiting for her call who is on her region's schedule for business reasons. Susan makes the call, but is one number off in dialing and wakes you up by accident. That isn't rudeness on her part. You got kicked by "global business". With computers able to call regular phones, this is becoming more frequent as old style manners become victims of new realities and as region limitations disappear. Of course, when telemarketers do this, this is just plain rudeness on the behalf of business, in complete disregard for the wishes of the called. You can't even tell off the recordings.
• United States
2 Jul 07
that's the way i was told.i think telemarkets in particular aren't allowed to call before 9am and after 8pm,i had heard that was law,but occasionally we still get them after 9. i feel sorry for a company that calls me that late though,i sure ain't going to buy whatever they're selling.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I was raised with the same guidelines but when I got older I did receive calls as early as 6 a.m. - from my Grandmother, she would call just to chat and usually would say something like 'I knew you would be awake', she was right and we both knew no one else in the family was. I miss her early morning calls now she's gone. Most times with caller ID now if I don't know the name/number calling at odd hours I won't answer. If it's important they will leave a message on the answering machine and I'll call back!
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@ssh123 (31100)
• India
2 Jul 07
Yes, I am aware of this etiquette. But with a few exception, that some people are allowed to call me after 9 p.m. and most calls I have before 8 a.m. since I go off at 9 a.m. and I do not receive personal calls at office.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I have had people call me as early as 6:30 AM to talk...she has had her kids call me, to talk. We are talking 5 or 6 year olds leaving me messages. First I work 2nd shift, so I am not awake and if I worked 1st shift, I would be getting ready to go to work and not want to talk. What amazes me are the people who get angry when you don't answer their phone calls.
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
3 Jul 07
This may sound selfish, but I pay for the phone, it is there for my convenience, not the callers convenience.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I think that is a very valid point!
• United States
2 Aug 07
MY stepmom taught me the 9 to 9 rule and I still go by it unless I'm calling family and I know that they are up. I do tell people to call me until a certain late time if I need to know something from them that day. We only have cell phones so I don't normally get calls at weird hours. And if I do it's usually at 1 or 2 am. Nice! These days I'm so tired I just turn off the phone and don't remember it ever ringing.
@thefuture (1750)
• Nigeria
15 Jul 07
I have never heard of such guidlines of making calls. I have never had call from a wrong number, but I have had calls from people whom my number was given to them by friends in order to call them through me. Thanks
@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
10 Jul 07
I've gotten plenty of wrong numbers around 2 o'clock in the morning. I turned the ringer off on the phone in my bedroom, but sometimes I'll get a wrong number call on my cell phone. Many times, I'll answer it, tell them they have the wrong number, and they'll call back again. I think there is a law that solicitors aren't supposed to call before 9am or after 9pm, but I get calls from charities begging donations before 9.
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
Yes indeed. I had learned that etiquette because I had worked as a telephone operator for 9 years. I had noticed too that I do not appreciate calls that come to me (I was talking about my personal call) before 9 am and after 9 pm. That is why I practiced this proper doing.
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
5 Jul 07
Oh you hit on another of my pet peeves! I too, was brought up not to call before 9 AM or after 9 PM. Sadly, it seems many were not brought up with the same guidelines! I get so angry when I get a day off work (on work days I am up by 5:30 AM!!!!) and get a chance to 'sleep in' and some moron calls at 7AM!!! I feel the need to answer the phone as I have children who are on the road to school at that hour. Once I am assured the call is not related to any type of family emrgency, I tell the caller off! I politely inform them that they are very rude and inconsiderate to call someone at that hour of the morning! If they are selling somthing, I tell them that they have now turned me off so badly that I'd never buy their product! I also have a problem with my childrren's teen freiends calling at 11 and 12 at night! I make it a point to answer the phone and tell them very sternly that my chldren do not use the phone after 9-10 PM, and that I would appreciate their not calling again after 9-10PM. (again, because I am up at 5:30, I am often in bed by 10PM)
@Rickrocks8 (1751)
• United States
4 Jul 07
Well if they were to call my parents I bet my Dad could train them really fast! LOL It always scares the crap out of me when someone calls late and if I am sleeping my heart will about pound out of my chest. Then who can go back to sleep right after that? We had a hotel call us at 3:00am (night audit shift) they never checked my hubby out of the room he checked into @@.3.00 AM! People are crazy!
@phon4u (2217)
• Laos
3 Jul 07
It sounds interesting! . I have never used that guideline tip in my life. People miscall after 9 p.m or before 9 a.m, I think they must get drunk so they dial wrong number.
• Canada
3 Jul 07
Yes actually I did too. I use to say when I was younger; will why? What does it matter if we are up anyway? My mother would just say you just don't do that! I never did get a good reason but now that I am older I understand it, I think? For one people need there down time to relax before bed! Family time could be another do you think? I am not sure really and I do have a friend that will call 10 o'clock at night sometimes! I don't mind!
@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
I was never introduced to this telephone etiquette but I have been practicing it ever since. For me it is common courtesy. A part of my job is to call clients regarding collections. But even if our official time starts at 8.30am, I ring up my clients starting at 9am. As I have said, it is common courtesy. Since I do not like people calling me early in the morning and late at night, I do not do this too on other people. LOL! Guess, that is the application of 'The Golden Rule'. Also, I respect other peoples lunch break.