I have been feeling really blue lately

@student7 (1002)
United States
July 2, 2007 3:23am CST
I have been feeling really blue lately. I think it all has to do with PMS. I don't want to do anything. I don't feel like going to work. I hate feeling like this. I always end up agruing with my husband. He and I haven't talked to each other at all today. I was so upset that he didn't bother to hug me as I left for work. Yesterday, he told me he was glad that I was going to work. That hurt me and I told him, and he said some dumb male thing. I have cried on the way to work the last two nights. I just want to crawl in a hole and forget the world. I don't have any desire to die. I just get these funks from time to time. I also am thinking about my health, especially the womanly aspect of it. I am so tired of being overweight and not being "cute" I wish that I was cuter looking and that guys would drool like I have seen them do over other girls. I just feel like I am not marching with the rest of the band, I want to be like the rest of the population. I want to be cute thin and a size 6. I feel like my life is gone down the toilet and I am barely able to hold on.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I feel like this from time to time and hate that I do feel sorry for myself. I have weight issues too and am trying to deal with it by cutting down on fatty foods and beginning to eat a healthier and smaller portions. I am also walking about 30 minutes every other day and I do feel a whole lot better now that I am doing something about it. A little bit counts so i try to take each day as it comes and make it a little better for myself. Your husband should be more supportive and if he isn't then you need to be strong for yourself and get yourself up and moving. It doesn't work for everyone but it has for me, sooner or later when you start feeling good about yourself and start loving you for you, everything else should fall into place. You will have a more positive outcome to life too I think. Letting it all out here is a good start too. Now you just need to start thinking how to make you feel better about yourself by finding something to get you started. Are you able to take 20-30 minute walk a day by yourself around the block, to the park? do you have a ipod or walkman you can listen to with some soothing music or pumped up music to get you going? Try that for a wee bit and see how you feel after a week. If that doesn't work, find something else that does and that you enjoy doing. Good luck my friend!
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@student7 (1002)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I think I will do that. I am in a gated community and taking a walk with my kids will help my funk as well. Thank you thank you.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Thanks Dane I was going to reply to your second post regarding your daughter but i could not have put it any better than what student7 said. Thank you so much for the compliments, and student7, your going to be just fine! We are here if you need to talk some more :) take care!
• United States
2 Jul 07
*hugs* Sorry to hear that you are feeling down. I hope you get feeling better soon. Please don't be so down on yourself, everyone is beautiful in their own way. Being "cuter" and having men drool over you won't really make the situation better for you, unless you are happy with yourself first. Besides I find that kind of creepy when guys (other than my husband) stare at me and start to drool. Most likely I would think they had some sort of problem they needed to be checked out for lol. As for what your husband did, well I believe he is being a bit childish in the way he is treating you. I feel that he needs to stop being so sour towards you, before he ends losing the best thing in his life. Well I hope things get better for you soon. *hugs*
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@student7 (1002)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Thank you. You made me feel a bit better. I know that his "silent treatment" will end soon. He is just upset at me at the moment.
• United States
2 Jul 07
You're welcome. I do truly hope things get worked out between the two of you. So you can go back to living a happy life together. I've never really believed in the silent treatment. I've always believed it is better to talk out certain things, no matter how upset one is, things can still be talked out in an adult manner. Not talking in some instances can make things worse instead of better. In any case, I hope things get better for you, and things between you and your husband get patched up.
@rdougl (469)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Sorry to hear this. I try to do as much as I can for my wife when these times come. I supply plenty of hugs and stay out of her way. As I too like to argue.
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@rdougl (469)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Yes I would agree. Showing some understanding goes a long way. It's already a difficult situation. Letting my emotions fly off only complicates things. We are both upset and on bad terms well after the week or so is over. I had to learn this the hard way.
@jolly223 (73)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I have really bad days too. don't let your size get you down though if this is what's bothering you...... not everyone can be a healthy size 6. ..... main thing is your health, do what is good for your body and soul.
@student7 (1002)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Thank you I really need to stop and think that the media is making feel like a huge whale and I should stop stressing about it.
• China
2 Jul 07
I am alway in the condition that you described,when it comes,i just want to kill myself,i don't want do anything,at last i must see a doctor,he gave me a prescription,and told me to do more exercise after work.a month later,i feel better than before,so i suggest you should do more exercise,maybe you can feel better.
@student7 (1002)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I am going see a doctor for this. I just don't like the fact that I just don't want to do anything.
• China
2 Jul 07
So bad feeling.what is your job please? Hope you feel better.
@student7 (1002)
• United States
2 Jul 07
I don't see what my job has to do with it. But if you must know, I am a hotel night auditor.
@mandala100 (39200)
• Hong Kong
11 May 17
Hey just take a deep breath, sit back and relax ok?
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
I truly understand how you feel.Once in my life i had experienced that kind of situation.But i had already through that feelings of being blue.Just keep going on,do what is right and take care of him as he is your husband and its your responsibility to be a good wife.In the other hand,love yourself.Exercise or go to gym to make your health more great.It is for yourself and for your health.No matter what,he cant deny the fact that you are married.There is no such thing as perfect marriage.But having a brken family,is pretty much harder especially if you have kids.As long as you can stand what is going on inside your home,then stay strong and have faith in yourself...