IS there a reason why people need to have a busy life, to feel fullfilled?

@saralee1 (1983)
United States
July 2, 2007 3:19pm CST
Most of my life, I was going to school, working, hanging with friends, or doing something. I was busy all the time, and enjoyed it! I hated to be stuck at home doing nothing. I rarely was home, because there was so many things to do, shopping for clothes, books, paying bills, eating out, going to the movies, visiting friends, or relatives, or something just to keep moving. Then I changed. I became the exact opposite of what I used to do. now, I don't even like going places. it is a hassle. and, I just can't jump start myself into doing things again, because I just don't want to. even paying a bill is annoying, or doing taxes, or working. do you need a busy life?
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@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
actually being busy is far from being fulfilled... we dont have to be busy to be fulfilled if there is a small amount of things needed to be fulfilled. Sometimes busy life is because of the responsibility and task we have to finish. Like you as you have said you do lots of things before to keep you satisfied like shopping for clothes, books, paying bills, eating out, going to the movies, visiting friends or relatives... you have lots of things wanted to be done to be fulfilled... but if you have little aspiration or level of fulfillment then you will need less time to achieve fulfillment. Like me, I want to be fulfilled individual, mother and wife. I take care of the things for my family personally... our foods, clothes, household... its my fulfillment as a wife and mother. As for myself...I want to earn money so i have to find moneys online so that I wont have to sacrifice personally attending to my family needs... with my earnings... buy the things that I want and I think we need... I dont have that much busy schedule because I enjoy doing things as i fulfill my needs. I guess it depends on how we balance things.
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• Canada
4 Jul 07
I agree with your 'how we balance things.' It affects everything.
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@arcidy (5017)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Well I think the reason that people need to have a busy life to feel fullfilled is because if there are not doing anything then they think that there wasting there life like how I feel sometimes but if there working and are busy then they wont feeel that way and besides a lot of people love being busy and they love to work a lot which I dont like to work and would like to do nothing all day and every day lol.
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@saralee1 (1983)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Yeah. I understand. well, it is like my life just changed one day. And, I am really looking at the person I have become, so when I look at the mirror, I actually like what is staring back at me. I like the person who I've become. maybe sometimes we need to slow down to recognize who we truly are.
• Canada
4 Jul 07
Hi Saralee1 Thanks for your heartwreching sharing on my site. As I read your discussions and responses it is clear that you have gained much wisdom through all your ups and downs. The sensitivity and insight you share with fellow Mylotters reveals that you have integrated your experiences and gained much insight. I find this discussion most interesting because my hubby and I radically altered our lifestyle in the last few years. In the earlier part of our 17 year relationship we were 'change junkies.' We thrived on being busy, creating new projects for our business and moving every two years. It took us awhile to figure out that our chaotic and 'dysfunctional' upbringing showed us how to do upheaval...very well. The old..."do what you know syndrome." After we were able to comprehend that our outer busy-ness was symptomatic of unresolved family baggage we made a decision to look at the underlying patterns and transform them into something else. Thankfully our training within the self-development field assisted our ability to continue focusing on 'conscious living' and it was not too difficult a transition. Having the awareness was the first step and then we began to make other choices and slow down the pace. That allowed us to figure out who and what really mattered and we began living from a more centered place. I am happy to report we have been in the same home and community for 6 years and our lifestyle is much less frentic and we love it! In our experience being too busy and outwardly directed led to less fullfullment rather than more. In that phase of life we were too distracted to appreciate the many blessings we had. Now we do that. We strive to keep our wheel of life in balance and make sure not to 'live beyond our means' with our time, financially, energetically and socially. The choices and changes we made have brought a stability, fullfillment and sweetness to life we never had before. So not being overly busy has my vote...but that is just my perspective.
@deeeky (3669)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
4 Jul 07
There are many types of fullfillment throughout our lives. I feel fullfilled when I have helped someone to sort a problem out and have been given a thank you. Just watching the birds eating the scraps or nuts that I have placed for them in my garden is another fullfillment, knowing I am not only helping them but there young as well. Have a nice day from Deeeky.
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