Something wrong?

@4cuteboys (4102)
United States
July 2, 2007 9:50pm CST
I was on myspace today, and I have no idea what possessed me but I looked up an ex and found his profile! Now he is married to some girl and living in another state. I was looking thru his photo gallery on there and I felt weird. Like I was invading his life or something even though I was just peeking. I have no interest in talking to him, have no clue what made me even think to look for his profile. We ended on terrible terms and never spoke again. Strange isnt it? Do you think I did something wrong looking at his profile? I felt like I was looking at a snapshot of his life, it was weird. What do you think?
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@babostwick (2037)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I wouldn't think so. Usually if it is just looking and nothing more, that's about it. Sometimes I look just to possibly add someone to my list of friends. I don't know if you did anything wrong but as long as nothing was messed with it on the account, then there is no harm. It goes like this, no harm, no foul.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
Nah, you were just curious what happened to that jerk. *LOL* It's not your fault you became curious. Maybe it's because you broke up at terrible terms and no one tried to patch things up and be friends. That's why you had the need to 'peek' into his life. Anyways, not a big deal. Unless you are lying and in reality you still feel something. *wink* *wink*
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
3 Jul 07
LOL nope, I can definatly say for sure I dont feel a thing! I am very happy with my hubby. lol. it's so strange!! I had my peek and never want one again..lol i saw enough haha
@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
Oh.. good that you are settled too. Maybe he did peek on you too. *LOL*
@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I have a friend that frequently searches for people they used to know on MySpace, including exes. I don't think it is all that weird unless you contact them. It's natural to be curious about people you used to know or date.
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
3 Jul 07
yes! its so strange feeling though. lol. i almost wish his profile was private so i couldnt see it. now i feel all nosy. lol!
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@AmbiePam (50398)
• United States
3 Jul 07
LOL, it can be your guilty pleasure, if you can call seeing how your hateful ex turned out a pleasure. : )
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
3 Jul 07
No i don't think it was wrong. I find myself on occasions taking a look at my ex's sister's pages just to see what he currently looks like and what he's up to. I think it's just out of curiosity to see what he is doing with his life now. Did you find anything interesting, or just the norm? lol
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
3 Jul 07
LMAO! Just normal stuff, he looked the same, his wife is normal looking..lol they live in florida now. hahaha. that's all I really saw then I had enough and quit looking, heehee
@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Don't feel bad...you were just curious about someone who has passed paths in your life. As for invading his space...he chose to put it on myspace and with that, must expect hundreds if not thousands to peruse it. Let it roll off...you did just fine.
@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Yeah, I feel better about it today but still feel slightly weird. LOL
@breepeace (3027)
• Canada
3 Jul 07
I've done it, too. I looked up a guy I used to date, and my ex fiance on FaceBook to see where they were and what they were doing now. I've been guilty of googling people's names to see what comes up there, too. Ex classmates, ex coworkers, my neighbour from when I first lived on my own, and the cute guy that I used to ride the bus with every morning (and consequently found out through a friend of a friend what his name was and that he was a horrible prospect for a relationship). We're curious.. it's human.
• United States
6 Jul 07
It seems perfectly natural to me. Most of us are curious about our past flames. What/where are they now.Sometimes I find that late night if I'm up I tend to think about the past. What I've learned from it. What I would change etc.. I don't believe in taking steps backwards so there really isn't any harm to me thinking about good times with old flames. We have memories for a reason. To look back on now and again. To reminence about good times and bad. Usually we learn from our past. If not at the time, then by looking back as you gain more life experience. Don't worry,You're normal.Just curious.
@goat6boy (314)
• United States
6 Jul 07
yeah that would be weird but theirs nothing wrong with that you were just looking him up to see how he was doing if he didnt want his life looked at he wouldent have puut it on myspace
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I totally understand what you mean. To me it's like I'm looking at the life that I wasn't supposed to be a part of. It's just a strange kind of feeling. Another thing that makes me feel weird like that though is when I'm looking at albums or videos of my s/o's from before we were together that have his ex's in them. That's the "other life" that he had but I wasn't a part of.
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
4 Jul 07
I do not ever go on myspace- but really what difference does it make- You were not actually contacting him- you don’t want to- It is not wrong to be curious what ex’s have done with their lives- If you 2 ended up bad- then I’m sure you didn’t wish the best for him- so tell us – did he turn out ok? Lol… I just heard that my first love- first everything- ex- is moving back to town- he cheated on his wife- go figure! : ) see I didn’t check out myspace- but I still checked him out!I do not ever go on myspace- but really what difference does it make- You were not actually contacting him- you don’t want to- It is not wrong to be curious what ex’s have done with their lives- If you 2 ended up bad- then I’m sure you didn’t wish the best for him- so tell us – did he turn out ok? Lol… I just heard that my first love- first everything- ex- is moving back to town- he cheated on his wife- go figure! : ) see I didn’t check out myspace- but I still checked him out!
• United States
4 Jul 07
No, I don't feel that you did anything wrong, and you never know he might have looked on your profile, too! I think we are all curious about friends and exes from the past. I am sure that it was kind of different looking at his pics and such, but at least you know that he has moved on. Don't feel bad, if he didn't want people to look into his life, he wouldn't have his profile open to the public.
@ivyoon (673)
• United States
4 Jul 07
I say that as long as you didn't do anything to directly affect his life in a negative way, then you had every right to look at his myspace page. People who don't want others to look at their page on myspace have the option of making their profile "private". If he was worried about you, or any of his other exes looking at his profile, then he should have marked it "private." You did nothing wrong.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
4 Jul 07
I like looking at how people have changed or what they have been up to since the last time I have seen them even if its an ex. I would of done the samething. lol
@meng7981 (13)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
I think the purpose of setting up these accounts is for that person to show to everybody how his life has been going.. I don't think they will mind nor anybody if you were just looking to see what had happened to him.. (These sites were created for that purpose also) Everybody who subscribes to these accounts either wants to meet friends or show to others what has been up with their lives.
@Calais (10900)
• Australia
3 Jul 07
You were probably only just curious anyway..But dont feel bad..If he has photos plastered on there for the whole world to see anyway..Why worry, theres no need to.
• United States
3 Jul 07
I don't think you did anything wrong. Perhaps despite your lack of interest in talking to him, & that you both ended things on terrible terms, you might still have a soft spot for him.
@sacmom (14314)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I don't think it's wrong since anyone can look at myspace profiles that are not set to private. So you were "possessed" for just one moment. Big deal. Now if you started stalking him or something, then you would have a problem! :P
@weemam (13377)
3 Jul 07
I don't think you did anything wrong , It was there for anyone to see , I can imagine how you must have felt , as if you were looking in a window at him , but that is what profiles are there for , as long as you didn't get upset and it brought back bad memories then I don't see what harm you can have done anyone , xxx
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
3 Jul 07
I think people do that all of the time. Just to see where these people are in their lives today. I have looked several times to see if any of my ex-boyfriends are on myspace or on the sheriffs website hahaha! To be truthful, I found three of my ex-boyfriends on the county sheriffs website under arrest inquiries. So, I am so glad that I moved onward and upward and left them in the dust. It just reaffirms my decision making skills. Nah, I don't think it is wrong to look at the profiles.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
3 Jul 07
i would have done the same thing. I think it is normal to wonder about your ex.even if it ended badly and maybe moreso if it did. closure is harder to come by if you end on bad terms. you did nothing wrong. curiosity killed the cat...satisfaction brought it back.