A Dying Person - Have you ever been a witness to one?

India
July 5, 2007 2:58am CST
I had twice witnessed a person dying in front of me. The first time, it was my close friend. We had gone to buy a football and after buying a football we were returning home. We were excited as we had planned to play football that evening. It was an afternoon when we were returning with our new football. We were passing through a busy street with heavy traffic of heavy vehicles (trucks and buses) and we all were riding our bicycles. I was just 14 years old that time. Suddenly a truck came and knocked down my close friend. I stood shocked as it was just moments before that I had spoken to him and now he was in front of me, lying in a pool of blood. He was bleeding profusely from his head and then he lost his life within moments. It was such a gloomy day. I kept crying for hours even after I returned home. I can never forget that incident. Then it was turn of my mother, who was suffering from cancer and was hospitalised. I used to be at her bed-side during the nights also. Doctors had already declared that she has very few days of her life. It was early morning one day, I noticed that the blood oxygen indicator attached to my mother's body was continuously showing a decreasing oxygen content. And it reached to a zero. There was a brief jerk to her body and I lost her in front of my eyes. I stood helpless and could not do anything. It all happened even before the doctor came after I raised an alarm. These two memories are such that they would never get erased from my memory till I am alive.
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25 responses
• India
5 Jul 07
oh thats really sad and i am damn lucky that i didnt have to witness such a thing yet i dont even want to its really hard to loose a very close friend of yours anyways i just have one small suggestion pls dont open topics like his which gives you post this way its really sad and i think you should not even talk about it. Cause if i would i would have a lot of pain to even think about it. Take care.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
I have too. the twin brother of my eldest daughter, unluckly he has a serious illnes when he reached one year and half years old he has lukemia. We already lived in the hospital for a month and before he reached there two year old b-day he is already gone. I saw the time when he almost reached his last breath and I feel like he hug me through his spirits and suddenly release into my body, I felt I'm going to fall when I felt that It's really weird but I know he hug me and say goodbye. Until now when I still remember that the feelings are still the same.
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
5 Jul 07
My heart goes out to you. It has to the most difficult experience to have to go through. That of losing a child.
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
It's hard to loose a child but if it is his destiny, I rather God take him to me, even I saw him suffer from illness, it seems my heart is breaking into pieces.
• United States
5 Jul 07
I am sorry on the loss of your son, I too have lost a daughter and I know the pain of that kind of loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
5 Jul 07
ranjeetkolarkar, dear friend, It is so sad that you had to witness the dying of your friend at such a young age. the age when you feel nothing can happen to you or your friends. It is also sad to lose one's mother. I have workued thhe the medical field as a nurses aide many years ago in both a hospital and a nursing home. But God was very good to me by not having any one die while I was on duty. They always passed before I came on duity or after wards. I have lost some loves one but did not witnes their passing. I'm suree that if I had seen such a thing I would never forget it ether.
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@deebomb (15323)
• United States
5 Jul 07
I was a very young woman at the time and I only worked in the hospital for about a year and the same with the nursing home.
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@ElicBxn (60762)
• United States
5 Jul 07
My former roommate's mother collapsed at my feet as I tried to help her one morning. I grabbed the phone & called 911 & tried to help her, but I lack the strength to pull her up or even straighten her. The emergency rescue people came & tried the shock to restart her heart, but she went. I may not have actually been in the room when she passed, but I was there for most of it & was sitting with her daughter when they came & told us. It was quite a shock.
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@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
yes, when i was 8 years old i had witnessed the last hours of my grand mother. its too painful at that time since she 's very close to us.
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6 Jul 07
Hey Ranjeet, sorry for the loss man. If your living in India which i guess you are incidents happen like that all the time. I have seen over 2 people dying when i visited India for about 2years. One incident was a man who i guess wanted to die because i was at the railway station and he even talked to me and said NAMA STAY but just a minute before the train stoped he jumped down to the ground and was run over by the train. I was shocked and at that time has to extend my stay at india were i went for 6months and i ended up staying for 2 years because of the trama of the incident. I do not remember much about the other incidents as crowds were gathered trying to help the dying people. Once again i'm sorry for your loss :( I know how much stress, and trama one receives after witnessing a dying person peace.......... MONEY-TALKS07GIVING THE WORLD FREE MONEY
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@bballpro (79)
• United States
5 Jul 07
I feel bad for you. I have never lost a family member or friend (well... I lost a friend by moving but not by dying in front of my face) I don't know what it feels like to have that happen to you. I hope you don't suffer anymore.
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@kenny936 (17)
• Canada
5 Jul 07
yeah i had seen my grandpa die
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@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
5 Jul 07
As for me . I would never go anywhere near a dying man or a woman. ...for that matter even a severely ailing patient in a hospital though he/she is a close relative of mine . I just cannot watch the suffering of people ,young or old .
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@kishchun (497)
• Oman
5 Jul 07
it's all so tragic, am so sorry,ranjeet.
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@JL1960 (7)
• United States
5 Jul 07
I was by my father's side when he passed away 3 years ago. It was very difficult as he was in an incredible amount of pain. At that point, I just prayed that he go. But the last few hours were extremely peaceful..almost beautiful...like he was seeing something wonderful. The painful part hurts but I know he is in a better place now.
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@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
That's a really sad memory, but cheer up my friend I've heard from the old folks in my place that being a witness to such situations is a blessing, I'm not sure why coz it kind of ironic but it is their belief.
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@pendragon (3354)
• United States
5 Jul 07
I am very sorry for your traumatic losses. I have seen my father pass from cancer, and a man at a war protest that immolated himself.
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• Philippines
5 Jul 07
i had one experince, that was started when i gas going home from my school, then what happen is that when i am walking in a pedesrian walkway, i seen a young boy crossing the street opposite from my direction. then i coudnt expect that there was a jeepney in front of him which ive seen stop that time and then when he was going to cross the road that jeepney started to move, then i see the boy full of blood in his body and dying. its been my first time to see a person full of blood and dying. its very screaming because later on i found out that the boy is my dad's officemate.
@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
5 Jul 07
I have witnessed helping a dying person to breathe using a manual respirator, you have to use your hands to push the air so that he can breathe and still live. He was my best friend's father, he was suffering from hypertension. He was admitted in a public hospital with no enough facilities and with many patients in a gloomy room. It was my support for my firned, being at her side at the times of need and taking turns with her to extend her father's life.
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• Malaysia
5 Jul 07
My grandfather passed away in front of my eyes about three years ago. It was during my college midweek break, and he had been sick for about two weeks. I remember it clearly. My grandmother was sitting by his side in her wheelchair while my aunt was keeping vigil outside the hospital. We all knew that he was going to go, it was just a matter of time. I sat there writing a poem as a tribute to him, but I doubted that the relative reading the Eulogy would ask for contributions. In any case, my grandmother asked me to wet my grandfather's lips and I got up to do so. After I did, I noticed his breath was getting shallower. I told my aunt, who began calling the rest of the family. Each time he breathed, I was afraid that it was going to be his last. When he finally let out a long, tired sigh, he stopped breathing. I was never close to my grandfather, but tears stung my eyes. He was gone.
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@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I am so sorry to hear about your friend and your mom. I am sure that they are in a better place and you'll get to see them someday. I thankfully, never had that happen to me before. I don't think that I would take it at all.
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@webacid (15)
• United States
6 Jul 07
wow i feel sorry for you lost
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@vanities (11343)
• Davao, Philippines
6 Jul 07
ohhh..that was sad!! luckily i havent witnessed one yet and hope i wont...
• United States
6 Jul 07
Unfortunately I sat with my ex-husband's dying grandmother when she passed. She was 98 and asked for me. We drove 45 minutes to see her and be with her. She went into a coma state and her breathing shallowed. As I held her hand, I talked to her and told her how much we loved her and that it was okay to leave us to go with God. Within seconds of me telling her everyone was around and she would be ok to leave us, she took her final breath. It was hard, yet very good to be able to be there for her. A part of me says it's good to be able to be there, while another part of me says it has to be the most traumatic thing we will ever go through. In some ways I want to say I'm sorry you had to go through it, yet in others I want to say how lucky you were to have that closure and let your loved ones know that you were there.