Will you stay in a marriage if your not happy with it?

Philippines
July 5, 2007 9:33pm CST
Some of my friends lost their love for their husband and wives, which is so sad. I asked them this question and they say they will just stay because of the kids, and some are hoping things will work out. How about, will you stay if your not happy?
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Jul 07
I would never stay in a marriage where I was not happy for an extended period of time. I do believe in trying to work things out if possible, and my husband and I have weathered some real storms together, which I'm glad we got through. However, if I were truly unhappy in my marriage and things just weren't getting better, I definitely wouldn't stay. I think staying together for the kids really only makes things worse as well. I can't count the number of people I know that grew up knowing that their parents were doing this, and hated it. Kids can tell when something is wrong, even when you don't fight in front of them, even when you try to keep it a secret. It only makes the kids feel that it's their fault their parents are unhappy, and makes them have a skewed idea of what relationships are supposed to be like. I am really glad that right now I don't have to worry about this issue, with my relationship with my husband being what it is. I hope the time never comes when I have to make such a decision, but if it did, I wouldn't be in a relationship that wasn't happy.
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• Philippines
6 Jul 07
You have a point. And yes, kids know what happens inside a house,even no one are having a fight. I think your right.
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• United States
6 Jul 07
My spouse and I have been together for awhile and one thing has remained true. We always love each other no matter what. Sometimes our love burns brighter than other times. But we always find our way back to each other. That's what happens when you are really in love. However, if you were never really in love with your spouse it would make sense that you could fall out of love so easily. My best wishes to your friends. Perhaps they will find the true love they deserve.
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
I will share your thoughts to my friends. You are truly blessed with your marriage and i wish is for forever.God Bless you.
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
most of the people nowadays just simply gave up on relationship because the other party just also gave up on being the husband or the wife to the other.splitting up is just the most convenient way.but we all have to understand that happiness comes from within one's self and should not be dependent of the outside forces.we have to keep it loose and do not think about separation,annulment or divorce these are poison to the mind.remember, anything your mind can concieve , it will come true even if you say you didn't want it. the thought of it simply triggers a certain wave of "you are expecting it to happen".like " i hope that we won't split up" or "what if this would not work", these are negative thoughts even though it sounded like a precautionary measure.think of working things out and know in life that there are more shortcomings than being successful, it is how we fight for it and how we stand and stand for it.just simply be affirmative.
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• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Thats a great response. I will try to explain your point to them. Thanks.
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@mschiqui (1284)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
if there are things that needed to do to make our marriage stay i will..i will stay and make our marriage happy and stay long, for we have promised it in the eyes of the people and with the Lord..