Is cheating okay when you are unhappy with the relationship??

Cheater - Busted...
Saudi Arabia
July 7, 2007 6:58am CST
I was shocked when I heard from a friend I know, that he is in love with a married woman... When I told him this is wrong, he said NO it is not and asked me not to be judgmental... He said this woman is 23 and married to a 40 years old man who disrespect her and beat her.. I think if she is suffering from her husband she has to ask for a divorce not to continue in the relationship and go out with other men and sleep with them.. I think cheating can only make things worse.. I told this friend that who cheats with you cheats on you... Am I right?? Do you think being unhappy in the relationship makes it okay to cheat.. Please tell me what do you think??
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32 responses
@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
16 Jul 07
Cheating is NEVER okay in a relationship. I just think it is all really simple. Regardless of the circumstance, if you are not happy in your relationship, then leave it. Then you can decide who you want to date next. Your focus should be on yourslef and your own best interests anyway, not just constantly hopping from one relationship to another, like so many do! If you are in a relationship and you are being beaten, then cheating with someone else surely is not the answer. First and foremost, get away from there! Then call the police. Protect yourself. Later, when the relationship is legally dissolved, you can date someone else more suitable.
• Saudi Arabia
17 Jul 07
Thanks for the response.. For me cheating just makes everything worse, it can never help.. Plus, I don't know how can she cheat then get back to her husband as if nothing happened??? Really don't get it..
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
7 Jul 07
two wrongs never ever make a right. Of course it is not okay to cheat. And yes if she cheats with him there is a good chance she will later cheat on him. She has shown him her moral standards and it would appear that he is ok with this. All you can do is nothing. Don't judge him too harshly but just be there as his friend. Odds are he will be needing one soon. These things don't often turn out well for anyone involved.
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• Bahrain
8 Jul 07
right :)
• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Thanks for the response :)
@34momma (13918)
• United States
16 Jul 07
there is never a good reason to cheat on a spouse or mate. if this woman is getting beat by her husband do they understand what will happen if he finds out that she is having an affair? if he loved this woman, then he would be helping her to get out of this relationship, and then help her get a divorce.
• Saudi Arabia
17 Jul 07
Yeah I agree. Thanks a lot for the response :)
@yamskee (830)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
definitely not. if youre no longer happy in a relationship, then end it. you dont have to let the other person suffer from your cheating.
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• Saudi Arabia
16 Jul 07
Agree, Thanks for passing by and for the response :)
• Netherlands
8 Jul 07
Cheating i never okay is my opinion. If you are not happy in a relationship, you have to end it. Cheating will harm the other person in your relationship. Breaking up will do also, but that's always better than finding out that you boy/girlfriend cheats on you. So cheating is not the way.
• Saudi Arabia
10 Jul 07
Yup agree.. Thanks for your response :)
@homecafe (24)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
cheating will never be okay in a realtionship, I suggest that she go out of the relationship as early as possible so as not to add up more pains and sufferings to herself and to the relationship as well. Don't let the problem eats you, be a solution to your problem and not add up more to it. Cheating will never ease the pain it will just worsen the situation, one good thing to do is to get a divorce legally and live yourself at peace!!
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• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Agree.. Thanks for the response :)
@imalive (14)
• United States
7 Jul 07
hi this is really thinkable question, i dont know what others view but according to me if u r unhappy with the relation then u have to stop it. and after u can find new relation, if u r suffering for what reason, and u cant finish the relation, many people has external affair, one side they r little unhappy with their partner, but they dont want to leave them. we a talking on this topic that cheating is not good in relation, but we dont know what we have to face in future, u can write many things on many topics, but cant write exactly on feelings, feeling is different from all things, no body has control on it. it says na everything is fair in love but moral says seperation is better than suffering cheating can do those people who dont have dare might be they dont have dare.
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• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Thanks for the resopnse.
7 Jul 07
Hi, This is a very SILLY and stupid xcuse to sleep with someone!! Boo hoo I'm in a bad relationship, boo hoo he's not giving me attention!! Silly just W H A T E V E R!!! Being in a bad relation DOES NOT give you the right to f#ck somoene else WHILE your STILL in THAT relationship. He treats u bad, that's understandable, but DO NOT forget that this woman is MARRIED and within a WEDLOCK. How could people be so STUPID, silly and immoral???! She is making things worse! Am really pissed off @ this topis, because it seems it's a fashion these days..sorry, but I think it's wrong.
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• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Don't be sorry, I think this wrong as well... And you are right it's these days' fashion :s Sorry for pissing you off on 07/07/007 :)
@icedventi (156)
• United States
7 Jul 07
If you are unhappy in a relationship, you should get out of the relationship. Out of respect for the other person (because obviously at one point you really cared about the person) you should end it before you cheat. There's no reason to hurt the person anymore. (That was a general "you". It obviously wasn't directed at anyone.)
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• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Thanks for the response :)
@tsnadeer (89)
• India
7 Jul 07
He should help her to make divorse legally then after he can marriage her to real love and real life, the other things are wrong and immoral he may cheating that marriage woman and her husband
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• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Thanks for the response.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
7 Jul 07
"I think if she is suffering from her husband she has to ask for a divorce not to continue in the relationship and go out with other men and sleep with them.. I think cheating can only make things worse.. I told this friend that who cheats with you cheats on you... Am I right?? " I would be concerned that if hte husband REALLY IS abusive, should he find out about her infidelity she could very well find herself in an extremely violent situation for starters....Secondly, No cheating is never "ok" and thats coming from a woman who has been the mistress and the one cheated on.... Yes she should leave her hsuband if she is that unhappy and he is that cruel and abusive and she should have your friend help her do that... HOWEVER...I dont agree that "one who cheats with you will cheat on you".....I was my husbands mistress originally (mind you there marriage was basically over at the time) and he's never cheated on me in the near 10 yrs we've been together and I doubt he ever would...
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• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
I think your situation is an exceptional case, and I hope he never will cheat on you :) Thanks for the response...
@melanie652 (2526)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I don't think cheating is *ever* okay. All it does is create more problems and more heartache. If the woman is that unhappy she needs to leave her husband and file for divorce. Your friend is just adding to the problem by having an affair with her. He needs to step back away from the relationship and leave her alone to make her own decision. Being unhappy in a relationship is why she should either work on her marriage to make it better or to get out of the relationship.
• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Thanks for the response.. I already did advice him to get out of it... But he said he is in love with her and she loves him. He doesn't seem to understnad :s
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
The golden rule says, do not do unto others if you do not want things to do unto you. There are people who justifies cheating because they are unhappy with their present relationship. A problem could not be resolved with another problem. He can get separation from his partner if he is unhappy, i think he just want to get even or shall i say that he is the problem.
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• Saudi Arabia
7 Jul 07
Thanks for the response.. Like the rule actually :)
@ESKARENA1 (18304)
7 Jul 07
well i think its never ok to cheat at all. If you are unhappy in a relationship, get out of it before starting another one blessed be
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• Saudi Arabia
7 Jul 07
Hi, Exactly, I think if a person is unhappy with the relationship he is in he/she has to get out of it then do whatever he/she wants in their lives.. Thanks for the response :)
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• India
8 Jul 07
There is nothing wrong to fall in love with any one.....love can occur at any age betwwen people of any age but the only thing tat matters is the understanding......if tat lady truly loves the guy she will never leave him...n wat the guy is doin is a gud thing tat is to get this lady out of the mess tat she is in......she deserves to get the respect n wat her husband is doin is absolutely wrong......but the whole thing is that wen you are not happy in the relationship you should not lie.....it makes things worse....it jus keeps gettin bad n bad.......so never shud one lie...n shud get thru with things and matters n shud solve it out.
• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Thanks for the response.. I agree that there is nothing wrong with falling in love, but not with a married person. And if it happened I think they both should wait until the marriage is over then start dating and going out together...
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• India
8 Jul 07
see theres nothin wrong if the person is married or not....but the thing is that if they had not fallen in love then the guy will not be able to help the lady out of her troubles.......n only wen he helps her out of it.....then only will the be able to get together,.....i hope u understand as to wat i'm tryin to explain.....so the whole thing is tat its not wrong wat the guy did by falling in love with tat married woman.
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Jul 07
I don't think it is right. If someone is unhappy they should let that person know so they can get on with their life and they can seprate. Like my ex husband I wish he would of been more truthful instead of cheating on me things wouldn't of been as bad in the end but that is usally how it works out.
• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Sorry for being in that situation.. Hope your coming days are better.. Thanks for the response :)
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
8 Jul 07
Your welcome it's alright I figure all things will come back around eventully.
@senna9 (1671)
• Netherlands
7 Jul 07
no it is never ok to cheat in a relationship. i can really angry if i hear that someone is cheating on their wife or husband.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
8 Jul 07
yup. it's never right to cheat. it's not reasonable. so, if one is in an abusive relationship, better get separated first before getting into a new relationship. less guilt and you will be happier about it.. anne
• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Agree.. Thanks for the respose :)
@anonymili (3140)
28 Jul 07
This is 2007, if your husband is beating you and you don't like it (I say this because there are actually some women who like it - WHATEVER) you should get out of that marriage. Using that as an excuse to cheat is just pathetic. Why did a 23 year old marry a 40 year old if they're not in love? That's just sick, really sick! I know a 23 year old married to a 40 year old and they are totally in love and he worships the ground she walks on and they have a loving relationship. Your friend is kidding himself if he thinks this relationship with this woman is healthy - how would he feel if years down the line he was married and his wife was cheating on him? At the end of the day he only knows about her marriage problems because she told him them, it might all be lies and the tears might all be just to get his sympathy. We don't know, he can't know for sure but even if he did, it's not excuse. Divorce is legal, if her marriage is that bad, she should get divorced. Your friend sounds rather weak himself if he thinks his relationship with this woman is real. He told you not to be judgemental because he knows DEEP DOWN that he is in the wrong. The person who is cheating on their spouse is in the wrong and the person they are cheating with is in the wrong too. Being so unhappy in a relationship that you feel the need to cheat only shows that you shouldn't be in that relationship in the first place.
• Saudi Arabia
31 Jul 07
He anonymili.. I think you are right my friend is really fooling himself and this woman is either lying -I mean she is just a cheater- or she is weak as well.. I can't understand women who can go out with someone sleep with them and at the end of the day go sleep in another man's lap... this is disgusting.. Thanks for your response and sorry for the delayed reply :)
@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
Cheating will never be okey. If you are unhappy with the relationship why not brought it up to your partner, you have to speak up in a nice way. In that way, your partner will not blame you for any fault you made on the relationship's failure. Have a good conversation, so if ever both of you will separate, there is a less pain and bitterness from both sides. That is just my opinion.
• Saudi Arabia
17 Jul 07
Thanks for the response.. I totally agree with you.. I don't think there should be any secrets in the relationship.
8 Jul 07
hii .. Ya what ur doin is completely correct. If she really loves u then ask her to give divorce to her husband. But u don't continue thz relationship without marryin her, then u'll be cheating urself. Marry her and keep her happy. bye
• Saudi Arabia
8 Jul 07
Hey.. It's not me.. he is a friend of mine I'm a girl :p Thanks for the response...