wife hurting

United States
July 7, 2007 12:43pm CST
Im new on here so im not sure how much i should share but im going to tell everyone im hurting..My husband is probable going to die soon. to make a long story short.hes addicted to pain meds ive cried to him, i yelled at him ,ive went as far as trying to dispense the meds for him ,baker act him, i have talked to his doctor...he manages ways to get around things...the hospital and even his doctor cut him off.. hes always messed up they says there is nothing else i can do for him (pretty much watch him die).....what would you do next? i cant and will not leave him.......hes also had his stomach pumped twice and he manages to get out of the hospital without treatment for his addiction.
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@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
7 Jul 07
This is the sadness thing I ever read. I am so sorry to hear that... no one want to let someone that you love go.It is hard to deal with and it will the worst thing to handle. But life is go around, so you have to prepare yourself. I dont want to see thing go like this and I dont want to loose anything that I love. No one wants to let love one go, No ONE. So, you have to be strong and give all the love you have to your husband and make this best time for him. Make him think that this is the best time ever and mean to him the most. I am so sorry to hear that
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
7 Jul 07
I am so sorry for your pain. I am a recovering addict myself and only changed because I wanted to. I was pregnant and still it didn't matter. But finally I had a wake up call and just started to stop each addiction one at a time. Well I still drink WAY to much coffee but at least the kids can tell their friends that. Be strong, the best thing you can do is be there for him. Hopefully he will deside to get treatment but it can't be forced and successful. Good Luck and my prayers are with you. :)
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I think the best thing you can do would be to tell him to get help or you are leaving. Where is he getting these prescriptions. Could you turn in the doctor for over prescribing?
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
Dont lose hope. Everything has a reason why that had happened to you. You just need to be strong. Try to think that all of these are only trials in your life. God has a purpose why these things had happened, but Im pretty sure, he will not leave you with this problem you are facing right now. God bless!
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@rusty2rusty (6769)
• Defiance, Ohio
7 Jul 07
I am sorry to say but he will not change. Until he truely wants to change. Right now he sees no reason to change. he is addicted and with any addict. Until he is ready he will continue to do what he is doing. So you have to accept him as he is..or leave him. I know a tough choice to make. I have been there and choose to leave my ex for that reason. It was a godo thing to. Because in all these years. he still hasn't changed any.
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@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I am very sorry to hear of the pain and anguish you are going throgh with your husbands addiction. There are so many people today that are addicted to pain medication. And the sad thing about it is that even if the doctors will not prescribe it any longer, these people can go out on the streets and buy the pills illigaly. I hate to say but with you sticking by your husband you are sort of enabaling him to stay addicted, he knows you will always be there for him, to pick up the pices.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
8 Jul 07
My father was addicted to painkillers. They dont realize they have a problem until it is too late most often. It sounds like your husband is much more advanced than was my father. If he has had his stomach pumped twice then he should realize he has a problem. I know you are hurting and I feel your pain. It is painful to watch a loved one throw their life away and take pills upon pills. You have obviously done all you can to get him to stop and see the light. You may have to leave to get him to make that decision. Because by staying your saying regardless of what you do, I will stay. Take care and I hope it works out for you.