Choosing Our Parents

@birthlady (5613)
United States
October 25, 2006 2:18am CST
Some people believe that babies choose their parents. If you have children, why did your baby choose you? If you plan to have children, why would your child choose you?
9 responses
@pisshole (493)
• New Zealand
1 Nov 06
It doesn't really make sense though, does it. I can see how some people would like to believe that, but how would you know?
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
1 Nov 06
Is your avatar a uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries? Back to topic: I think the way to know is if one believes all aspects of life are for a reason, rather than a random biologic function of physiology.
@pisshole (493)
• New Zealand
1 Nov 06
Fair enough, but even if you think that things happen for a reason (predetermined by fate) there are still a lot of reasons to explain everything, how do you go about picking this one explanation out of all of the possible ideas that there are? Because you like the sound of it?
@pisshole (493)
• New Zealand
1 Nov 06
Yes, that is what my avatar represents.
@april444 (1341)
• United States
2 Nov 06
hellllllllllllll no i did not choose my parents . Who wants dug addicted parents that just use you for a freakin wefare check and give a sh#t less.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Thank you for responding. I'm sorry for your pain.
• United States
2 Nov 06
I always used to apolozied to my daughter because the way she was born. She was beautiful. Dont get me wrong, I love her with all my heart. But having her brain missing, didnt get to do things other children at her age, I felt so guilty, and I thought if she was born to someone else, she chould have been running, walking, playing around. But people told me that my daughter to choose to born to me because she knew that she will be taken care of and she knew that I was able to handle her situation better than anyone in this earth.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Thank you for your responce. Unconditional love is a blessing...
• United States
2 Nov 06
how does a baby choose its parents when it comes from an egg and sperm coming together... for that to happen the baby would have to exist first and then decide which woman it wants to house the egg it comes from and which man it wants the sperm that fertalizes said egg to come from and then it has to have control over this man and woman coming together to create said baby...none of which make any sense since the entire thing requires the child to exist first....Phsically IMPOSSIBLE!
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
2 Nov 06
LOL! Thank you for your responce!
@sherinek (3323)
• United States
2 Nov 06
Thanks for this very good discussion. This gives me time to think about myself. I think my first born chose me cos he knew that I'd definitely take very good care of him. He was having a congenital heart deffect and we were running in circles when he was small. He had to undergo two surgeries before he was 3 yrs. Now he is a very lively boy of 8 yrs. My daughter, who'll be 4 yrs this 28th, might have chosen me cos she knew I'd do anything to keep her with me. I had placenta previa when I was pregnant with her and had to be in the hospital for 1 month. Anyway, I stayed and had her in the 32nd week. She was so small and still she's 2 kg underweight but very naughty. So I am a really proud parent. Thanks.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
2 Nov 06
You are welcome! Thank you for responding.
@sanell (2114)
• United States
1 Nov 06
I do not believe that children choose parents I think God chooses the child for us...but basically it is really all science and biology. It is a miracle of life of course but it is amazing how part of our DNA and part of our spouses DNA can make up a child's DNA and make them into a human. IT is truly a fascinating thing.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
1 Nov 06
I like your interpretation.
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
1 Nov 06
That's an interesting viewpoint. I have heard that some people believe that children are spirits that are floating around and they choose the parents they will be born to. I don't necessarily believe that, but still think it's interesting.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Yes, it is interesting...
@Duvessa (913)
• United States
31 Oct 06
I believe that babies choose their parents. I've been reading alot of Sylvia Brown's books lately and most everything that she says makes perfect sense to me. I believe that we choose our parents, our freinds, our lovers, our jobs, our joys and our sorrows before we incarnate into a mothers womb just before birth. It's all part of the learning and growth process for our spirits.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
31 Oct 06
That's what I'm talking about...thank you.
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
25 Oct 06
No,I think thats is a fact that for me to have kids and the same goes to my kids.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Your responce confuses me. Do you mean no, that you don't think you chose your parents, and no, you don't think any children you may have would "choose" you? Thank you.