Would you let 2 girls ages 15 & 16 fly by themselves when they have never been

@sodapop (977)
United States
July 7, 2007 11:47pm CST
on a airplane? I know I'm an over-protective mother, but I'm a nervous wreck about it. They are boarding the plane in a small airport...they have two gates..lol..and grandparents are going to take them there and make sure they get to where they need to be. It's a non-stop flight straight to where I am going to be waiting for them. I know, my daughter will be 17 in September, but she's still my baby. Would you let your daughter and her friend fly alone...by the way, the friend hasn't flown yet either.
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@icedventi (155)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I think they would be fine especially since it's a nonstop flight. I flew on my own for the first time at 15 and had two stops to make. It made me feel like an adult. I think it was really good for me. As long as someone is there to make sure they get on the plane and off the plane, everything will be fine.
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Well, my mom and dad are putting them on the plane....and I will be there waiting for them probably about 2 hours early...LOL...I'm just so glad it's a non-stop flight.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
8 Jul 07
I think I would, but I'd be nervous too. You know that they'll be fine, but until it has actually happened, it's nerve wracking.
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Ok cutepenguin, you just stated exactly how I feel in two sentences. You'r good!
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I realize kids grow fast, and they are still our babies even as teens. However, I probably would allow it. Normally kids at that age are mature enough to handle that sort of thing. After all, they are only a few short years away from going off to college by themselves, and this might actually be a good way to test their self-reliance. And on top of that, they have each other, so I don't think it's terrible risky.
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
You are so right. This will be a good way to test her self-reliance before going off to college. She has already informed me she wants to go to college out of state. I keep telling myself it's not risky...now if I would just believe it...LOL
@maumbi (2570)
• Indonesia
8 Jul 07
is some condition i will do, and trust my kids to the air plane crew, i see some people at my country do and a lone never have friend just tell or speak to the crew help and take care my kids till landing.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I would. You just have to make sure that the crew members realize that they are flying alone. They should assign a crew member to them until they are picked up safely by thier grandparents. My sisters step kids do this every year and they have always been assigned to a crew member and it works out fine.
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I never thought about having a crew member look after them. Thats a good idea. Thanks for the suggestion!
@us2owls (1681)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I don't think you have a worry. My grandaughter is 15 - her Mother is in Illinois and her Father is in Atlanta. She has been flying on her own for about 3 years now. When she first flew her Mother told them it was her first time flying alone and they kept an eye on her. She will be flying home from Atlanta on the 16th of July. I don't think you have any worries at all.
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Thanks for your comments. She is flying straight from Springfield, IL to Washington, D.C. non-stop. I'm not worried about the Springfield airport...it's the Washington airport I'm worried about...but I will be there very early waiting for them. I wish I could get rid of my worries....LOL
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Absolutely. Let the airline know they are first-time fliers and they will look after them. And without having to change planes it will be a snap. They will have a great time and feel more responsible by the time they get home. The momma bird sometimes has to push the baby bird out of the nest so they learn to fly on their own. It's time.
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I know it's time...but this is momma bird's last child, and momma bird doesn't want it to be time. Time went by to quick! I'll push from behind as I cry.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
9 Jul 07
I 'll be worried sick! As I am a worried mother. I know that you trust your daughters but I am too over protective with my daughter. She turned out fine but no matter what, where and when you'll always worry that's just being a mom thing. Ireally don't know about going by theirselves. That's a big dissions to make there.
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@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
11 Jul 07
LOL..I am sure they will be fine :-)
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Gee, aprilgirl, you made me feel so much...undecided...LOL...I will be worried sick, but I trust them, and it's a non-stop plane, and my dad works as a big wig at this airport, so he will walk them on the plane and make sure they are all settled. And I will be waiting for them about 5 or 6 hours early...LOL.
@xfahctor (14118)
• Lancaster, New Hampshire
8 Jul 07
I've sent my teen daughters off like that before to their mothers. Airlines will insist since they are minors thatthey go escorted and will provide (for a fee) an escortthatwill getthem to gates and on to the plane and then when the flight lands, they will only release the kids to an adult who shows proper Id. you have nothing to worry about.
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Thanks for all your knowledge on the subject. I will just keep telling myself I have nothing to worry about...
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jul 07
All I can say is that no doubt my mother was a nervous wreck when I first flew, and yes at age 16...You see she had a deathly fear of flying....so up until 16 I never flew. Well when Disneyworld first opened, I suggested the idea that we go there...but the very first time we went we did so by Amtrack train, since like I said my mother had a real terror about flying....well to be honest I was miserable the trip down..26 hours on a train...drove me batty...So after our trip my mother made arrangements for us to go back the next year, but when I found out it only took two hours to fly down I said this is for me, and wanted then to fly down. Now with all the horror stories my mom had told me about flying you'd think I'd be the nervous wreck, but I loved it...but like I said, my poor mother was probably a basket case, as no doubt you're feeling..Is your daughter and her friend responsible kids? I really don't see then why they shouldn't...they're going to want to sooner or later
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Like I said --I can only imagine what my mother thought!
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Yes, they are very responsible kids. Good students, cheerleaders, on student council, and many other school clubs. They go to youth group at church together, so I know I can trust them. I grew up flying my whole life because my dad is a big wig with the airlines and we could fly for free. I have been all around the world, but this is my baby...LOL. I'll just be a nervous wreck...LOL
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I have twins, a boy and a girl, who just turned 12 in May. I am looking into how much it would cost to fly from their home to my home and back (I'm a divorced father living 600 miles away). I get them during the summer and at christmas, with flying instead of a day on the road, it becomes a day or two more of visiting. My daughter is more mature right now, so I would make sure that even though both would get instructions, she would be the one I count on more. They know to be together when not with me or their mother. I plan on being there until the flight is in the air, and right at the gates when they arrive. So with my thoughts I would say yes, I would let them go on a flight and experience it for themselves. Also since she is your baby, you want her back as soon as you can get them back.
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Yep, she's my baby...maybe that is why I'm having so much trouble with this decision. I trust her completely...it's other people I don't trust.
@sakana (260)
• Singapore
8 Jul 07
I don't think it's a matter of age as much as maturity and independence. Since they will be guided by people before and after the flight I think it should be okay unless they can't follow instructions or break down easily in nervous situations. Don't worry so much about it! :)
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
My daughter is very indepenant and veryy mature for her age. She attends college classes as a junior in high school and kids think she is of college age. She is so responsible I always say she's 16 going on 35.
@sakana (260)
• Singapore
11 Jul 07
Wow you're one lucky mom! I think your daughter should be fine since she's so mature and responsible :)
@4xmyworld (182)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 07
For me, if it is the best arrangement then it should be OK. 15 and 16 is an OK age. Furthermore, travelling in 2 is better than alone. But make sure that once the plane landed, the person/people who receive them are there to pick them up soon after they come out of the arrival gate.
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
It's the best I could do...and I will be there at the gate to meet them. Thanks for your comments.
• United States
9 Jul 07
I actually would because if you dont let them then they will reject you plus if you do let them they will trust you more
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
You are the only one to bring it up that if I don't let her go, she will reject me for not trusting her, and I really trust her. Thanks for making me see the light.
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I think I would be more nervous if my daughter were to be flying all by herself. At least your daughter has her friend with her and isn't alone on the flight, even though neither has flown. They can look out for each other. But you know...I think I would be a nervous wreck myself, cuz I'm the over protective mom too. Just make sure that they both call you when they get to their destination, to give you some relief for the nervous butterflies in your tummy.
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I am going to be there at their destination, waiting for them, bitting my nails, and pulling my hair out. Other than that, I'll be fine.
@xelissa (776)
• New Zealand
8 Jul 07
I've traveled by myself on a plane across the world from one side to another literally at 13. My board made sure someone escorted me to catch the right plane, get my baggage and tickets checked out, then it was all on me. It was an enjoyable time and an interesting lesson to learn of independence. When the plane landed the flight attendants would be very helpful if you do not know what to do, or you can just follow the crowd to get checked out. Make sure they call you when they arrive, and that they're okay to put your mind at rest. But really flying is an amazing thing and has me wanting to pursue a career in flying for a very long time. There are usually some program, or you can organize with the flight attendants/ some people at the airport to help them on their way. But seriously, I think you got nothing to be worried about. All the best -Regards Hayley
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I am going to be waiting to pick them up...my mom and dad are sending them to me. I'm sure I have nothing to worry about...all I can say is I'm a mom and she's my baby...LOL
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
8 Jul 07
My mom has been in a similar situation when my sister and I were teenagers. My dad was getting remarried and wanted my sister (then 16, almost 17) and I (then 14) to fly from California to Reno so that he wouldn't have to make an extra 2+ hour drive to pick us up along the way. My mom put her foot down and told him that there was no way she'd let her two teenage daughters fly all by themselves, especially to Las Vegas! LOL My sister and I have only flown once before (round trip) when we were little (about 7 and 9), but we were with our mom and grandmother then. I personally don't know if I would let my kids fly by themselves.
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Well, since my mom and dad are putting them on the plane, and my dad is a big wig at the airport, so he will walk them on and get them settled, and it's a non-stop flight, and I'm on the other end waiting for them, I think they will be ok. It's only an hour and a half plane ride. She will be 17 in two months, a junior in high school and she attends our community college because she is so smart. I trust her. I just feel sorry for the airport when I am there waiting for her to land...LOL.
@dlkuku (1935)
• United States
8 Jul 07
My youngest daughter who is 17 flew by herself this past Spring. She flew from N. Carolina to Chicago then Pennsylvania and then back. I understand your nervousness, I was too since it was her first time, but I had to realize she isn't a baby anymore, and she did just fine. It's hard to let go of our babies though, isn't it?
@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Yes, it's hard to let go...she is my youngest child, my only daughter, and will always be my baby...I feel the apron string getting very loose...LOL
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
i guess it ok, they sure know how to read and ask for direction, i wont be afraid of them getting lost, and since they seems ok with the idea of them flying alone, you should not worry much
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
I'm sure I wouldn't let them fly if it wasn't a non-stop flight...and I'll be there very early waiting for them.
• India
8 Jul 07
Yes it's abs. safe coz when I was myself 13-14 I had travelled alone in the plane .... The crew helps a child who is travelling alone so please do not hesitate in sending them alone.....
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@sodapop (977)
• United States
11 Jul 07
Thanks for your comment and your reasurance!