Is boyfriend important for life?

Vietnam
July 8, 2007 3:36am CST
I'm 20 years old, but I still not have the first lover. In fact, I's never told someone: "I love u". Perhap, I scare to say these words. I don't know. Once time I fall in the love with a guys, "fall" means exactly fall down in mind. I cannot study well, cannot do anything without thinking about him. These days, I like a day dreamer. After a long dream, I wake up, fall down again because the disapointed because love a person who didn't really love me. Then, after another long time to cure my hurt by myself, I gain my strength to study, do everything except love. He came back, I saw he was not important to me anymore. In addition, the word "boyfriend" don't have any meanings to me anymore. I can live well without boyfriend.
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@saintz87 (439)
• Singapore
8 Jul 07
Well, I am glad that you have came out of this relationship issue, living without boyfriend sounds perfectly fine. But living without boyfriend resulting in looking for other ways to fill that gap would result in other problems. I am 20 as well, but I do not need a GF, or any sort at this point of time. I believe I should focus on other more important issues before coming to relationships. My goal is to have 1, and only 1 marrige which will work out perfectly fine. This goals seems kind of conservative, but its just me, I really hope to do greater things than looking for love of my life now. Well, at least I won't look for anyone until 4 years later, after serving my national service which is compulsory.
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• Vietnam
9 Jul 07
yeah! I'm too. Now I don't worry about how to have bf. I study for my major, my future. I think that's enought!
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
hahahaha sounds good! I did that too^^
@abiesm (376)
• Vietnam
8 Jul 07
I also don't have a boyfriend ^^ . At my ages, most of my friends have a bf , but I don't know why with me, all guys near me are just my friends
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• Vietnam
9 Jul 07
Don't worry about what others say. You do what you think it right, don't you?
@anonymili (3138)
8 Jul 07
Hi there, don't be in a rush to have your first lover or find someone to say "I love you" to. There are way too many that think you have to have a partner as early as possible in life when in fact as you get older you realise that it's hype because everyone thinks it's the done thing and just because your friends might have boyfriends, it really doesn't mean that you need to have them too. Take your time with life, study hard, get a good career, there is plenty of time for love later on. There is no perfect age to find the man you want to love forever but believe me, you'll know if when it happens, so don't be in a rush, just let life and love take its natural course. Good luck. x
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• Vietnam
9 Jul 07
Yes, I agree with you, my friend! ^^
@sarry81 (84)
• Malaysia
8 Jul 07
A saying words "I love you" is not only for boyfriend or girlfriend. It was for all entire person that we love in our life especially our family. Please don't think having a boyfriend is important. When somebody want to hang with a boy they will need that words. Why?
@jaichen (142)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
hi there.. i am 22yrs old, before i also felt that way, i am even disappointed and felt really ugly. but i just waited cause i believe love is worth waiting for.. you will then realize that you have your friends with you, concentrate with them first and always remember to be happy and friendly.. but be cautious with boys.. :D
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• Vietnam
9 Jul 07
yeah, be careful with the boys. I think so!
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@jaichen (142)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
yeah, always be careful and stay away from maniacs.. make sure that you are respected by boys, that way, only good boys will notice you.. it is hard to deal with wild boys... take care girl!
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
10 Jul 07
U noe what? I salute u... I mean its very good to be independent and can live without a guy... For me, i started dating during 16 and im 21 now... Yet, i have got 5 heartbreaks... Very bad ones... I always said i dun wanna get into a new relationship... But i failed myself so badly everytime... I mean, its not that all the guys are that bad, but sometimes, the heart aches causes by these guys are terrible... So pain, i wished i hasnt met them before... Actually, it doesnt matters what age u get into a relationship? I frankly think, if ur first bf is ur husband, isnt that better? So much cooler... But too bad, nowadays, noone does that anymore... Everyone has got tones of ex gfs/bfs and they forget bout how to treasure people around them... I dun used to say i love u too... Until i met my current bf... hes really nice and i guess when it comes, it comes... When the time for u to say the three magical words, u will eventually do so... =)
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• Vietnam
10 Jul 07
You're happy now, aren't you? I like this sound
• India
9 Jul 07
Your "age" makes and gives you all confused ideas about love. Friends-what i mean is good friends are important in life, no matter its a boy or girl. If you term a "boyfriend" as a closest person to your heart who can in future share your life as a life partner or that he remains as a too good friend is also important, but you need not stick around of thinking of anyone all the minutes of your life, you need to be balanced. You should know when to concentrate on studies, in your other duties and time to allocate for friendship, the care and share. You will believe me and my words once you are clear in your mind and then search a person, move with him, observe him, you be free and open, share by this time you can judge how good or bad he is. So its upto you to select a good friend. And sharing and the cushion factor of being cared is a nice feeling to be felt. So dont have a preoccupied thought, just be free and accept new friendship if someone is coming forward or you go if you like a person,move with him study him just enjoy friendship. I'm sure he will be at the back of you on all your success and will give a lending shoulder on your failures and saddest moment. Just experiment. Be happy.
• Vietnam
9 Jul 07
You're right! Now, I overcome the bad feeling of failure. I'm trying to be friendly person because that previous time made me become an unbeliever in love. But I'm ok now, I won that feeling already!
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
It's not important any way, what is important is your career, your future, and your family. You have to focus first in your education, and in that manner, you can help your parents and make them proud that you have succeed in your dream. Every thing that is happening in our life has its own purpose and reason, so dont worry about that. Love can wait and it will come in a right time and a right place. It's nice to be prepared than to be unprepared when in comes to relationship. Actually, some people prefer to be single for some reason. Just keep going. I admire you because you have this courage to overcome your feelings with him. Take care and God bless.
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• Vietnam
9 Jul 07
Thanks, my friends! I'll do my work while waiting a right time, a right place for a true love! ^_^
• United States
9 Jul 07
You are wise to recognize that "falling" in love is often based on attraction and want. It takes to time for a person to "actualize" into the person they are meant to be. This is that time for you. Your self-actualization will attract similarly minded, healthy and happy people into your life. There is no need to pressure yourself to have your identity and happiness based on having a boyfriend. Many people fool themselves into relationships thinking they will be complete or happier if they are in love. Give yourself what you want and need from others. May you have peace, love, understanding and self-acceptance
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• Vietnam
9 Jul 07
yes, thanks for your sharing opinion. It's really useful to me
@lani0529 (1726)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
Hello gemmomey!(",) I understand how you feel because I am at the same boat as you are.(",) Don't rush into falling inlove because it will just come at the right time when the right man comes along. I guess, its just normal for you to ask about this kind of questions because its part of your developmental tasks in which you are trying to decide whether to have someone to spend with or not. I think you have to focus your mind into something that are more important like your studies, finish it first. Love will just come when you are ready and when you least expect it to come. Have your time and enjoy your singleness! Have a great day!(",)
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• Vietnam
9 Jul 07
Now I feel single equal to freedom ^o^
• India
9 Jul 07
There are two types of boy friends one is Childhood friend and another is Classmate. Just differentiate and tell me. Most of them will be near to you child hood friends they can share secrets that they dont want to tell others.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 07
No, a boyfriend is not important. We can live this world without boyfriends but this would differ for every person. Some people feel like they cannot live without a boyfriend. But since you feel that you can live without them, then maybe you are one of the people who can live without them. I know I can live without one but God gave me a really good one so Ill just accept it and cherish it. Its up to you really.
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• India
9 Jul 07
i believe that having someone to say i love u to is not that necessary but u need someone who is urs at some point in ur life.at ur age u could probably take it easy concentrate on ur studies and then get up to a good position in ur life and then think about life because when u r happy love and luck comes naturally to u and thats my motoo.okay i have a gf but its a kinda stable relationship and with whom i have been 4 the past 4 years and i am only 20 and i know its not infactuation.
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@nandans (1161)
• India
9 Jul 07
I don't think so.. A bf is not everything in life
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• India
9 Jul 07
Its a personal choice. Also,nowhere it is written that ..this is the age by which you should find your soulmate. Some may find him/her at an age of 16 while some might find it on 30 or 40 or maybe never.Its not that if some1 else is in love that means you should be in love too. Doesn't mean that some one has a boyfriend so you should have a boyfriend too. You should decide what your priorities in life are and hence decide.As far as getting heart broken in love,tell me who isn't.Every one who has loved has to go through pain.Love doesn't come pain-free.Its all in the package baby. :)
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• United States
9 Jul 07
No boyfriend is not Important in your life at all, first thing important in your life is your education .
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13 Aug 07
you're absolutely right !!!! actually i don't beleive that boyfrineds are really that important in our lives.. shoud'nt we say that they need us more than we need them? hehe.. many women nowadays think that men are their greatest possesions...i think differently.. men need women... no further questions asked... ^_^
@tantal25 (839)
• United States
30 Jul 07
seriously, for me, my boyfriend is really important in my life.. i dunno.. maybe because i am having a hard time to get well with my family because my family is broken... yeah i do have a brother and a sister but they're married now and have their own family, my dad has his own house, and i am living with my mother right now, whom i really don't get along well... well, in that case, i felt my siblings and my dad who i get well mostly are really far away from me, i felt alone... so i felt like my bf is the only nearest family i ever had aside from mom coz i do talk to him about my problems, and stuffs, and i get along with my bf compared to my mom...
@xiuluoelly (1225)
• China
16 Jul 07
No boyfriend for me, it isn't a very important matter,life there are many ipmortant things than love, and stive to life , Don't waste time, the fate of naturally have a love for your people waiting for u.
• Singapore
15 Jul 07
I dont think having a partner will be better. I've a few boyfriends before and due to different lifestyle that we couldnt accomodate, we split up. I've been single for a year plus. And i've been living a life freely. I think the time that I should have a partner, is the time that i'm able to get things straightened in my life. Life is pre-planned. So let it be... c",)