When do you think is the best time to pick a best response?

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United States
July 8, 2007 7:53am CST
I have such a problem with this! I do read every one of the responses to my discussions and think about what the writer had to say. Sometimes I will even check their profile for things like age and their discussions to see if they may have had experience in the same thing I'm talking about. So many times I've picked what I thought was the best only to have someone come in later and I wish I had chosen theirs. I've waited as long as 7 days before choosing and then a new member will see the discussion and respond with something great!Do you have a system for choosing the best response? Are there times when you have been sorry you chose because someone came in at the end and gave you some really good advice?
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@UDDERONES (888)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Yes this happens to me all the time. I am like you I wait for about a week (and sometimes longer if not many responses) to chose the best response. They way I pick the best response is I want to see if the person responding is answering all my questions and adding to the discussion. I guess it really is just personal preference, but I read all my responses also. I have had people come in later I wish I could have chosen but I had already picked someone.
• United States
8 Jul 07
I think it's usually a newer member that responds after a best has been chosen and I always feel bad because I like to help the newer people.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
8 Jul 07
does anyone know the advantage of getting a best response?
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• United States
8 Jul 07
I don't think there is an advantage. Of course I could be wrong. I often am...lol
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
8 Jul 07
well i have a rule. I dont award best response until one week has gone by from the last response. This seems to give everyone an equal chance blessed be
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• United States
8 Jul 07
I'm always coming up with rules and systems for myself but something always throws me off. It's usually a discussion that I feel I have to answer.
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
8 Jul 07
i know what you mean, i guess rules are made to be broken blessed be
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• United States
8 Jul 07
Yes, and I am well known for breaking rules....ha ha!
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• Philippines
8 Jul 07
for me, i really as in really have a very hard time choosing, some of my discussion or MOST of my discussions are unsolved, i think out of many discussions i made less than a five i gave the best response, maybe i will find a day in which i will not have many bothering, maybe weekends, i feel very guilty of not giving the best response, I have that thinking also what if someone just passed on my discussion and give the response i am waiting for, what if, so still i am not giving any of my best responses more often, and also often i have the hard time choosing, as in, ll are good or best, so really difficult s what i do is this, for i not to have big guilt i respond as much as possible to all, but past days or weeks responding to all the responses i get is hard too, but i try, i check all of my discussions, but since i have to increase my response ranking cause imagine for a month of staying here i just got 200+ posting rank, thanks, i hope it helps, even thought, it's a bit puzzling,!!^^
• United States
8 Jul 07
I don't know how true it is but I was told that having less unresolved discussion is better in regards to earnings. You should try to pick the best to see if your earnings go up any.
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• Philippines
8 Jul 07
oh really, after i responded in this discussion i did choose my best responder, and I think I still get quite amount, I don't know if that increases my earning or not, I just want it because I feel guilty of not giving any best responder and it took me a month, thanks!!^^
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• Philippines
8 Jul 07
I still don't know if that will increase or decrease your earning, even if it may decrease my earning I will still give my best response, even it takes me month, haha, lol, thanks,!!^^
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@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
hmmm...I pick my best response, when I could totally relate to whatever the member responded...uhm, I don't really feel sorry if someone else gives out a better response. hehe.
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• United States
8 Jul 07
So, does that mean even if you only have a couple of responses you will pick one?
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@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
uhm yeah, as long as I feel like its a great response.
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@123456_ (1053)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
well congratulations. i guess your topics are really that assertive and is worthwile to be answered. and yes it also happens to me at times. well i got this habit of choosing the best answer so soon as long as i felt that this person was able to give all the things that i needed for the query. and there would be some who would come up with almost the same and better. but i made my choice already. first and foremost we need not regret because the FIRST person who came up with an assertive answer deserves to have the best response title. what i to to other is to rate them positively and say some remarks for them. in that way they'll know that i accept their answers positively
• United States
8 Jul 07
I think it's always good to let members know we appreciate their response by saying a few nice words. Rating them a plus is another way of doing that.
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• Philippines
8 Jul 07
well i had settled rules with regards to awarding best response..i let one month to pass before doing so, to give chance for others to give their best shot on my discussion..i dont wanna regret things when awarding it because sometimes there would come a user who pops up responding the best answer and it will be a big regret if you had marked someone the best response already..
• United States
8 Jul 07
I'm trying to keep my list of unresolved discussions down because I heard it has an effect on our earnings. Not to mention if I wait too long it seems to get out of hand.
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@sunshinecup (7881)
8 Jul 07
Yes so many times I wish I could pick more than one. It's so hard. I try to waite for the discussion to die out. This could be a week to a month. I am now going to just wait a month to be sure I am giving everyone time to make a response.
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• United States
8 Jul 07
I know what you mean. If we could pick two that would make it so much easier. There are so many people who give good advice.
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@WebMann (4732)
• Canada
8 Jul 07
I don't like to give out best response until a few days have gone by without a new response. This gives those people that don't get logged in every single day the opportunity to take a break and not really miss anything. I bugs me when I see people give out best response after two responses because a friend responded.
• United States
8 Jul 07
I have noticed the same thing. Some members will only give their friends a best response even though I've seen some better ones.
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• India
8 Jul 07
Well, I am new here and I don't know why my discussions are not generating good number of responses. I don't think my discussions are meaningless or of mediocre quality. They are good one and worth to discuss. I think I would give best response after 7 days of posting that discussion. If that discussion and not generating any good number of responses then I would wait for some more responses. I think many good quality discussions are lying here without any responses. And many stupid discussion are earning good number of responses. I think number of responses depends upon number of friends you have. I always start posting by responding to my friend's discussion, but unfortunately I don't even get responses by them. So sad. Let's wait for some days.
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• United States
8 Jul 07
I've noticed that the discussions with a lot of responses are usually done by the writers friends. As for your discussions not getting a good number of responses maybe you should look at them and try to figure out what your doing wrong...if anything. Do you have many friends? Are you being as descriptive as possible? Is the discussion interesting to a lot of people or a handful? There is a lot to think about before starting a discussion. Good luck on mylot. I'm sure you will do well.
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• India
8 Jul 07
I think my discussions are good and interesting to respond. But, I don't have many friends as if now. That may the main reason behind it.
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• Kottayam, India
8 Jul 07
I normally give first come first served, at the same time some cases I will wait for right response tallying to the points I have in mind.You have to make right judgment.
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• United States
8 Jul 07
Yes, we all have the right to make a judgment. My problem is trusting my judgment. I've been wrong many times before.
• Kottayam, India
9 Jul 07
There needs courage what about life's decisions.? Take courage and act wisely taking into consideration pro-cons
@matte5 (1913)
• Sweden
8 Jul 07
Hello. This is wery hard to answer to I hawe started to them once a week and thats why I think its hard to waite to long and its nice to them who has maid a respond to get the best response. And it will always bee times when you shose the wrong one. Hawe a nice day.
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• United States
8 Jul 07
You are so right. There are always times I feel I picked the wrong one. Maybe one day I'll get it right...lol...
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@matte5 (1913)
• Sweden
8 Jul 07
We can hope that day come son so you knowe howe to choice the next time.lol
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• United States
8 Jul 07
I'm glad you asked this...yes, I have had trouble with this too. I tend to respond to the posts of others rather than starting many of my own...and those that I do start usually do not get many messages. Anyway, I have not regretted giving BR when another comes along later that is equal to or better - although I do wish I could give more than one BR sometimes. I try to give BR to the one who has offered an objective answer, that is helpful to many, EVEN if it differs from my own opinion on a subject or issue.
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• United States
9 Jul 07
Personally, I appreciate opinions that differ from mine. They always give me a new view of the subject to think about.
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
I pick the best response NOT because it's the response that I WOULD like to have, but because the content is meaty. If that person presented his idea in a way that adds another 'twist' to that discussion, then I'm picking that ONE. ;p
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• United States
8 Jul 07
I think that's the way we should pick them. We're only here to get opinions after all. So we're picking the best opinion. If members go into their idea in detail it's always easier to realize what their thinking.
• United States
8 Jul 07
I used to give BRs practically the same day when I was a newbie, until a discussion I read changed my mind. Right now I wait a week by default. But if your discussion is moving along - lets say it's getting at least 1 or 2 new replies after the 7 days, I would probably give it 2 weeks then. I would let the discussion itself determine how much longer after 7 days I need to keep it open. But we just never know when someone is going to pop in and give a best answer after BR is already chosen. Some of us bump really old discussion that become very active again and that pretty much moots the entire waiting process...so just do your best with what you have, people understand. Sometimes I think myLot should provide us with a crystal ball, heh!
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• United States
8 Jul 07
I always forget that replying to my discussions from days or weeks ago will bump it up. I need to start doing that more often. That way I might find better responses to choose from.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I usually give it a day or two and if no-one happens to answer after that then I select best response. I just did that yesterday when I gave a BR and then to find later on someones else comment was a lot more informative - oh well i suppose i wont always get it right.
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• United States
8 Jul 07
lol...I said that earlier. Some day I will get it right. I always find a better response after I've picked one.
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@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Yes, I have and it seems the best advice comes one or two months after I have posted the discussion. Then it is too late to change the best response.
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• United States
8 Jul 07
And the worst part is that advice sometimes comes from a new member who we would like to help out by giving them the best response. I find that happens very often.
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@cynddvs (2950)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I normally wait about a week or longer to choose a best response on my discussions. I like to try to give everyone a chance to respond. Once I see I'm not really getting anymore responses then I'll pick a best response. When I first started on here I was really bad about forgetting to pick a best response so I've been playing catch up there. Here lately I've been picking best responses from my discussions as far as 4 months ago. I normally go by who gave the most thought out andbest advice. Sometimes it's really hard to pick just one.
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• United States
8 Jul 07
Don't you hate it when someone responds with one word or just a sentence? Sometimes I think they don't realize there is a best response to be chosen.
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• United States
9 Jul 07
I usually try to wait a month, & when there are sufficient responses. I have not started many discussions, but I have gotten at least one comment saying that they wished they could re-select the best response.
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• United States
9 Jul 07
I think that's nice that someone would tell you that. Sometimes we feel we gave great advice only to see someone else got best response. Usually it is the friend of the writer.
• United States
10 Jul 07
In one instance, yeah - the best response was given to a friend, even though it was the worst response that was posted a few minutes later. Several of us reported it for being all caps, & delted by MyLot. Being that someone else gave sound advice to a problem, I actually said in my response that the other guy is the best response. Sure enough, when that other person re-responded, that response was chosen again when it still was not even a good response.
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• United States
9 Jul 07
First off , I love Country Music too. Okay. I read all the responses I get to a discussion.Sometimes the first response is the best response is the best but I don't mark it until the discussion is at least one week old.And some discussions I don't mark a best response because there is no best response, there is no right or wrong answer.Sometimes it takes me longer than a week to mark a best response because I have forgotten to go back and mark it.
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• United States
9 Jul 07
I have been checking mine this morning and it is very seldom that the first response has been the best. I think once people start responding that gives others something to think about and they come up with something even better.
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• United States
10 Jul 07
True. I have discussions where the responses got better and better.And I have discussions where there was only one response that was great, the others were just okay.
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@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
I consider all response in my discussion as best responses. I don't think on how many number of people of who will response so if I found a response very good and agreeable by my standard I choose it as the best response.
• Australia
9 Jul 07
I disagree with you... not all responses are "best responses" and some definitely do not deserve it! There are many spammers and people who abuse myLot should not only not deserve best response, but should be punished. Also, i disagree with another thing you use to judge which one is the best response. because you said "if i found a response very good and agreeable by my standard i choose it as the best response" which is quite unfair for other users because they do not get a chance at the best response mark just because you are biased by your own opinions. I think best responses should be informative and present THEIR OWN OPINION and not someone else's! Otherwise everyone will just try to please another by saying what they like to hear, that is no good...
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• United States
9 Jul 07
I agree with mini...I seldom chose the response that is "agreeable" to my standards. There are always people who have had more experience than I have and getting their opinions means a lot to me.