Prove your feelings

@magica (3710)
Bulgaria
July 8, 2007 3:55pm CST
Well...all of us use phrases like this: you must DESERVE my love...you must PROVE your feelings... But actually what do we mean? What are our expectations, what will we accept as solide proof that somebody really loves us?
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7 responses
• Italy
9 Jul 07
Hi, to love somebody means to offer your thought without necessarily to get something in exchange. if you love to play a guitar, painting and so on, you spend all your time to make it, without to think how many time i spend to do my painting or my music. you make it, stop. in the some way you loves somebody when you offer it your heart and you understand that is the same way when your satisfaction is complete. Sorry for my english, and i give thanks for your answer for my question about english language Vs italian language. If you want any lessons to italian language i'm at your beck and call amd you teach me english. bye see you next time
@kel12347 (33)
• United States
8 Jul 07
People should not have to prove their love to one another. The proof, however, happens without effort, each and every day. For example, my husband cooks dinner for us each night, because I can't cook. Because he's willing to take over that chore and perform it faithfully (we still get pizza on occasion, nothing wrong with that), it shows the commitment and love he has toward me. Similarly, when his father was sick, I camped out in the hospital with him for days. I didn't do it to prove anything, nor did my husband ask me do prove anything. I did it because I love him, and that's enough.
@shelby94 (17)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Hello magica, this question is actually what a lot of us would ask ourselves especially if we're looking for a meaningful relationship. The truth of the matter is only the giver (of love)has control as to how much he/she is willing to put into the relationship.When we love someone,we don't just love one thing about that person.We love everything about him/her. A person can prove his love by his constant show of affection or his motherlly way of taking care of you and making sure you're safe and vice versa. We can't always pinpoint what it is that made us fall in love...and there is no one way a person can prove his/her love. Only you can truly answer what it is that you want out of the relationship and how much of yourself you are willing to give.Some relationships have failed because the people involve expect too much of each other and their expectations are too high.Needless to say,when those expectations aren't met,you have nothing but conflict. Eventually both will give up trying to make each other happy becuase they get the feeling that nothing they do is good enough to deserve his or her love.
@Phlamingho (7831)
• Denmark
8 Jul 07
I don't think I've ever used words like that. I know my gf love me, she dosen't have to prove anything.
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• Philippines
15 Jul 07
That is something that I would not utter to the person I like. If he loves me, that would be enough. Time will show anyway the truthfulness to that. I also would not like it when someone asks me that so I will have to myself into other people's shoes. I really think it sounds offending.
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
15 Jul 07
When people say things like this it is probably because they are feeling insecure. They need another person to show that they are important. Maybe if someone else "proves" their feelings then they will feel like they are worth something. It goes along with the saying, "If you loved me you would _____." It's a way of making people do what you want. I don't expect my boyfriend to "prove" anything to me. I know that he loves me and he knows I love him. As long as we are honest, there are no problems there.
@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
15 Jul 07
If they can't tell me the love me, I just pay attention to their actions and that sometimes speak more than the words.