Should I give him a second chance?

Philippines
July 8, 2007 6:59pm CST
There's this guy I used to date who broke up with me and hurt me really bad because he accused me of cheating on him. Now we're talking about going out again. I'm in love with him, but I don't want him to hurt me again. Do you think I should give him a second chance? Everyone deserves a second chance, right?
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@drannhh (15240)
• United States
9 Jul 07
No! You are at risk of making a serious mistake, but there is still time to stop and drive with your head instead of your heart. It is said that Shakespeare added more phrases to the English language than any other person. The expression "Love is Blind" comes from The Merchant of Venice, which is a delightful story.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 07
thank you for that elaborative response . . and takiing something from shakespeare . . love is very blind some people doesnt know what the phrase really means
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Hi there! If you love somebody show it thats the old saying says. If you love him i think you can give a second chance but all the decisions is all up to you. If he deserve to have his second chance why you wait just give it a try if it will not work go on with life, you know what i mean.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 07
but what if i get hurt?!
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• United States
10 Jul 07
He hurt you once before because your heart was open to him. So, you were vulnerable. I would think it would be harder for him to hurt you now because you know what a stinker he can be. If he knew you at all, then he wouldn't have accused you of infidelity. It's his loss. If you take him back then at least you will have the upper hand knowing what he is capable of. Perhaps you will take him back, cheat on him and make sure he finds out. Then dump him first. He won't be expecting that! Vengence is a dish best served cold!
• United States
10 Jul 07
The most important thing in a relationship is TRUST so if he cannot trust you then there is no point on working on that relationship. With that said, I do not know your situation or what this guy is like... Everyone makes mistakes so if you truly think he has changed then you might want to give him a chance but be CAREFUL.
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
Yes girl, eveyone deserve a second chance, however, don't rush things. Try to study the situation by just being friends with him. Maybe he has changed or maybe not, if he's really changed he will understand you, but if not, then i think its about time to forget him :)
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 07
Hello ifinallyfoundmybaby, You are right when you say that everyone deserves a second chance but you must know when to give others a second chance. If that person really hurt you before, and you think you can forgive and forget what he had done to you, you can give him another big and last chance to give him the chance to show that he really thinks that you are such a 'precious diamond' in his life. If he still do the same, I bet you better forgive and forget and let him go forever! As for me, I always give others three chances and after the last chance, and he still hurt me so much that I lose all my strength to stand up and face the challenges of my life,I will definitely forgive and forget him forever and never will let him comes near me for whatever reason! We must know when enough is enough and when to really give people another chance. Yes, sometimes we love that person so much that we don't want to let him go but the problem is, some people never appreciate the love that we have for them and totally become an ignorant.
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
Well,the choice is yours and thats true that everyone deserve a second chance.But the possiblity of getting hurt is always there.You must expect the unexpected.Because im sure it will hurt more if ever he will do that again to you.goodluck...
@Lady_Yeng (102)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
Yes, if you love him that badly you cant afford of losing him again. The next thing you should do is to make sure that he also feels the same way the way you do. You should also be rationalize with your feeling cause if you only listen to your heart you cant be sure that he also feels the same way too.