I say she STILL loves him. what do you think???

@secretbear (19466)
Philippines
July 10, 2007 8:08am CST
my friend just broke up with her boyfriend and she keeps saying she hates him. but i just cant believe it. they had an off-and-on relationship and it just annoys me everytime she tells me that "this is really it", the final straw. because a few days would past and they would be together again! now they just broke up and she hates him like she says and the guy keeps texting her and she said she replies with a lot of curse words. i told her she just should've had ignore all his text messages. she said she has nothing to do then and she had no one to text with aside from him. stubborn girl. geez... i say, she still loves him. what do do you say??
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@jsumbing (155)
• Philippines
11 Jul 07
Yeah I thought so...that is if you're talikng about the oune I was referring to...huh?
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
if you think that I just replaced the "she" into a "he", then yes, we're talking about the same person. hehe... ^__^;; I had her permission before making this discussion! LOL
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@jsumbing (155)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
and she agreed? hmmmm...
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
well.. she didnt exactly say "sure" or "ok"... but she neither said "no" or "dont". LOL she just said "walanghiya ka pati lovelife ko pagkakakuwartahan mo" and then she laughed. ^__^;; the laugh told me it was okay for her. hehe..
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@symon_08 (40)
• Singapore
12 Jul 07
yep, i think they still have feelings for each others. maybe they have grown too dependent together. it sort of developed into a kind of way and its hard to get by without each other.
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
I wish they didn't get too dependent to each other. it will really be hard to get by for each of them if they finally break up.
• Singapore
13 Jul 07
i also hope so. no point dragging on if its only a habit to see one another and its become habit or norm rather than love.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
it would really be pathetic if it would come into that point.
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
well that sounds like she is crazy...lol. well thats love... strange but it is true. sometimes when you are inlove you say a lot oft hings that you yourself find it breaking. bear with her... you might find yourself in the same situation and i know she will understand you
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
she's crazy alright. but we're different. I may still love a guy but the moment I feel that I'm not happy anymore and he's hurtng me too much, i'd break up with him instantly. it had happened to me in the past. and i 'll start to look for a new love or focus on other things rather than think about it over and over again. I may distance myself from the guy but that would only be for a while, just to allow myself to 'heal'. ^__^ I guess love is not just blind, its also stupid. ^_^;;
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
yes some people do stupid things when they are inlove
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• India
13 Jul 07
ooooooo ihink she love him...
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
i hope she'll get over with him soon. ^__^
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
people who say that they hate thier ex's they still do love them cause its still new or fresh from the breakup. i can still say that she still loves him from the bottom of their heart
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
I think so too. people don't easily forget their feelings unless what they felt were shallow.
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@aissha (2036)
• India
11 Jul 07
some are like that u don't surprise if some day she comes with a big smile and say she married him.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
I hope she won't ever hink of marrying that person! if she do i'll break her neck! ^__^;;
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@syndibee (799)
• United States
11 Jul 07
i believe it's an immature relationship and the girl and the guy will both grow up one day. whether it is together or not is beyond me.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
I wish its just being immature. that's easy to forget. but they've together, on-and-off, for years. that would be hard to forget. but if there's determination, she'll surely forget it.
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@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
I guess there is love there. But both just can't decide what's up. You as a friend, you should just ignore them both. These are times when they're just being kids. *LOL* Every time she talks about the guy, ignore her, you have other things to do. Plus, people in this stage can't be helped anyways. No matter how much you advise them, they'll still do the same thing. So save your time and advises. Let them handle it. Sooner or later, they'll see it for themselves. So it's been 3days now, did they get back together? haha =)
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
actually, everytime she tells me about it, I really ignore her. but there are times that she's really persistent that I couldn't even blink my eye if I don't take notice of her. ^__^;; I am really sick & tired of their on-and-off relationship that I just want to end it as if I'm part of it! LOL I don't know if they are back together. I won't ask. I won't care. I don't wana know. heh! ^__^
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
*LOL* Yeah, I get that feeling to with one of my friends. Though she no longer does that on and off thing because she's married. But there's this attitude where she'd involve all of us (her friends) a lot in decision making then eventually she'll do what she pleases. I mean, isn't it such a waste of time on our part? She asks for opinion but doesn't really listen. Whew. Plus she got this bunch of worries that are unending. Well, maybe I don't get her because I'm not yet married. But I think there are things in life you should do alone and there are things which needs another's opinion. Yeah, you are right ignoring her. Let her feel that all she does is a waste of time for you. I guess we're not being 'bad' friends when we do this. We're being 'practical' friends trying to tell them to buzz off with the recurring problems! *LOL* =)
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
yeah. we're just realistic friends who wont deal with the same thing over and over again coz we know its really a waste of time. especially if our friend doesnt even consider our advices! how annoying is that??? sometimes i cant help but think that she's being selfish coz its always her problems, sometimes she doesnt even ask me if i have problems. but i guess that's how "love" affects her. thank goodness im not like that. LOL i wish she'd just get tired of him and their relationship. coz im really tired of it. ^__^;;
@liyan97 (2128)
• Northern Mariana Islands
13 Jul 07
Hello there secretbear! Yes, she still does love him! This is a classic relationship by my standards, I too tend to push my ex away after we get into a heated argument and break things off. It is natural for him to become hostile and ignore him although he is doing his best to show him different. Then all of a sudden I am once again his priority. My friends are always there for me but I often don’t take their advice and choose to go back and when I do go back I hide it from my friends to because I know that they wouldn’t agree with my choices. Yes, she still loves him and she will let go it in due time. As for right now this is just the only way she knows how to deal with her break up by acting as if it didn’t happen. She chooses to act the way she does to mask her true feelings, if only from you because she knows that you have been there for her through all the bad times and although she doesn’t take the advice you give her, she does not want to loose you as a friend.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
I will not stop being friends with her if sh is not following my advices. its annoying though. but I wouldn't go to the point that we're gonna fight about it. she's just so stubborn. I can see what good and bad things that relationship had done to her and its obvious that the bad weighs more. I just wish that she'd wake up one day with much more sense in her head and finally realize that there's no happiness with him anymore.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
i think if that day will come, that she'll come to me crying and saying "its finally over" and she had learned her lesson and realized things, i think i'll tell her "i told you so". LOL but i'll be joking. ^__^;; just to lighten up things a bit. hehehe...
@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
I don’t remember where I read it, but I remember this line that says, the opposite of love is not hate, its apathy. I do agree that your friend STILL loves her boyfriend even if she says that she hates him. If she is so over her boyfriend, like you said, she should have ignored the BF’s text messages or calls. The mere fact that she still entertained the guy, it means that she still has feeling for him.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
i've never heard of that. apathy.. huh... makes me think... ^__^ she said she's really ignoring his txt messages and she just texts back if she feels weird once in a while. and I don't believe in that crap. I say, she texts him coz she just misses him. right?
• India
21 Jul 07
i think still she might be haivng love on him.bcoz if there r 2best friends .suppose they were divided becoz of small dispute between them .when ever they met or just passing they scold eachother this comes out of effection between them................. this is the same case with love .... "LOVE" comes out of "DEEP FRIENDSHIP"
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
so you believe that love can develop from friendship??
@misshoney (973)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
in my opinion your friend and her boyfriend are both immature as they keep on ending the relationship but still can't find the courage to stick with their decision. they are probably very young. it doesn't matter if she still loves him. maybe they should spend more time on their studies and other more important matters. as of now, being in a serious relationship is a very complicated thing for them.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
we're just on the same age bracket. ^__^;; and they're both working already. my friend just easily gets jealous and the guy is such an azzhole coz he sees other girls. that's the other reason why im so against their relationship.
@subathra (3519)
• India
19 Jul 07
defintly this girl still loves that guy so much.If someone hates another they will cut all the communication they have with them either in good or bad aspect..i mean some may want that this relationship will not work out or some may think that the other partner doesnt love them truly and betrayed by them. hope this girl should openly acknowledge her love to him otherwise things will get worst only for her and she will have to repent for it life long.Love never vanishes so easily.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
i know. it takes time to fall out of love. but their relationship had been going on like that for so long. and for what its worth, im tired of it. LOL i just feel that she should also be tired of it. ^__^;;
@Abbyhu (9)
• China
14 Jul 07
It must be. Females always duplicity. And it's hard to get out after they fall in love with someone. Wish your friend good luck.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
14 Jul 07
yeah, you're right. girls take a long time before they fall out of love of someone... thanks, i hope you're wish reaches her. ^__^
• India
10 Jul 07
ya i believe that the girl still likes the guy. but i also get it wrong when my friend tells me a strong NO that she doesnt like him anymore. its a broken relationship but i think she likes him. she doesnt agree that she loves him anymore. infact she convinces me in a way that whatever happened has happened and she is not looking back but she certainly says she is hurt by what happened.
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@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
I think when they're saying no and they're trying too hard to convinve us, I think they are more of convincing themselves. right? ^__^