To forgive or not to forgive?

July 12, 2007 10:38am CST
How easy is it to really forgive? Does forgiving mean forgetting. If you have not forgotten have you really forgiven? Let me know what your thoughts are....
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@SEOGUY (906)
• United States
13 Jul 07
What is there to forgive? and why would my forgiveness be needed? I can forgive easily, I know everthing I have done and they are forgiven and have been cast into the sea of forgetfulness. Natural Man can not forgive, It takes an act of God to forgive.
13 Jul 07
you're so righhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhht!!!!!
@maehan (1445)
• United States
12 Jul 07
For me, I think it is easy to forgive than forget. Forgiving is great, and forget about it gracious. It is an extremely difficult task that we have to learn for a life time.
12 Jul 07
you're right about learning, we however need to learn from God.
@vivienna (583)
• Venezuela
12 Jul 07
To forgive, to forgive, for sure. Forgiving means that you can meet the offender freely, without being embarassed by what had happened. It means that although you probably have not forgot what he/she did to you, you can look back at it as one looks at toothache when it's gone: we remember that it ached, but we can't recall the pain. Whenever forgiving seems to be difficult, it is good to remember how much God did forgive us and how much we need his pardon every day we live on Earth. I don't have any problem with asking forgiveness from those that I offended. Still, when doing wrong to somebody I feel so bad for it, that I prefer to be the one who has to forgive.
12 Jul 07
I guess there are many advantages of forgiveness from your response. Thanks for passing through.
@Springlady (4011)
• United States
12 Jul 07
The Lord commands us to forgive those who have wronged us. If God can forgive, why can't we? No, it is not always easy. Sometimes it takes time and can only be done with God's help. The Bible says, "Forgive and you will be forgiven." Also in the Lord's Prayer, we say "Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors." So we are actually saying to God to forgive us AS we forgive those who have wronged us. God bless.
12 Jul 07
Hey Springlady, Thanks for your comment. You are so right about needing God's help to forgive.
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@reeyamei (26)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
How do you forgive? Does saying "I forgive you" really means you forgive the person? The question is not how easy is it to forgive but how hard is it to forgive. How can you forgive a person if you can't forget about it? And how can you foget about it if you have not forgiven the person Forgive and Forget is such an understatement... it is a contradiction...
12 Jul 07
My point exactly.. Forgiveness goes beyond just saying I forgive you. And if you have not forgotten have you really forgiven. That is a million dollar question. Maybe someone will come up with a very good solution here.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
12 Jul 07
It is hard to forgive and harder to forget. Even if I forgive I do not forget nor should I.
12 Jul 07
hmm... I hear you. Not sure I agree with you though.
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
Its not easy to forgive. Honestly it depends on how deeper the wound is. If the wound is really deep well it would take time to forgive. Forgiving is a process so I believe it would take a very long time to forgive someone. Forgiving does not mean forgetting.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Forgiving someone is as easy or difficult as you make it...And no you dont need to forget in order to forgive by any means and if you really think about it, we can NEVER truly forget..it'll always be in our minds somewhere ya know...so "forgetting" really doesnt exist if you get what I'm saying....I've forgiven ppl but not forgotten what was done....but yes I have truly forgiven them regardless...
• Malaysia
12 Jul 07
sometime if there is people do something wrong to me.. i did not ask them to ask for forgiveness but it better if he regret what he did wrong.. just forget it and don't do it again.. i mean do not need to ask 'i'm sorry' but enough with not talk about this anymore and then did not repeat it again later.. :) but if ask forgiveness it make me feel better.. but i really really easily to forget what people did wrong because i do not really care about that.