When someone scolds you?

@dpk262006 (56521)
Delhi, India
July 12, 2007 11:30pm CST
Dear friends, when someone suddenly scolds you and shouts at you...how do you react..what immediately comes to your mind...on such occasions and how do you retailiate...to that person? I believe, no body likes to be shouted at or scolded but sometimes such situation do come in our life...how do you face such situation. Please share your thoughts and experiences with me. Thanks!
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@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
12 Oct 07
It depends, actually. If I am being scolded with reason, I would simple keep mum. may a times tars come down automatically as I cannot control it. This, however, happens seldom. Recently, I can't remember the time I was being rebuked or scolded with the exception of my mother, who does it instinctively. I listen to those and retort instantly. But then, that's between a mother and a daughter. I just remembered one incident, where my boss nearly shouted at me for no fault of mine (this is the first of such kind though.)I was absolutely shocked and kept complete mum. But next day he apologised, he mailed me and had sent me SMS even. Thanks.
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
12 Oct 07
Actually, no one likes to be scolded. It feels really bad when you are scolded either you have committed some wrong or you are not at fault. Thanks God! your boss realised his mistake and asked for an apology, otherwise you would have carried that scar with you for long. :):)
@mimpi1911 (25479)
• India
12 Oct 07
yeah, taken the kind of person I am, I would. Thanks deepak for realising.
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
12 Oct 07
Now my tubelight mind is working and I can UNDERSTAND!:):)
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
=when i am scolded i feel shock, i usually just stay still, i usually just stay quiet and i relly have a red face.. but when the one who confronted me and scolded and i are alone, i will talk to him/her and tell why he/she did it to me. It will be an embarrasing moment for me.
@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
So you do not react after someone suddenly attacts you. Good response from you, I liked it very much. Thanks
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
Of course friend I will react that I'm shock and feel shy, but I don't want to get down on their level thats why maybe I will just ignore who is scolding me and talk to her later if she is calm.
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
13 Jul 07
Hello dpk262006! It hasn't happened to me for long now but it wasn't very uncommon in my teenage when I was myself a little more emotional. I was a student leader and sometimes a situation would arise where somebody would shout at me. The first thing that always came to my mind was, WHY!! and I always took it in surprise at first. My first and preferred reaction to such an instance is that I'll look into the eyes of other person in protest and would walk away so that situation calms down. I haven't been successful in walking away always though. There has been instances where I reacted and shouted back and on that time it wasn't easy neither for me nor for others to control me. During all my married life, it happened only once that I shouted on someone (of course not my partner) and my partner says that she wasn't able to recognize if it was really me because I was like roaring, LOL! and she had never seen me like that before or after that. She sometimes calls me a sleeping lion after that event:-)
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences and your reactions on the issue.
@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
17 Jul 07
You are welcome dpk262006!:-)
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• United States
13 Oct 07
I try to stay cool when someone scolds me. It's not always easy. I listen to what they say, then I try to explain my reasoning. Depending on the other person's mood, they will either listen to me or not care.
@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
13 Oct 07
Actually, no one likes to be scolded. Thanks for sharing your views and I am impressed to read it.I understand that your coolness helps you a lot in controlling your emotions. Have a nice day! deepak
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• United States
11 Oct 07
I'm a fighter by nature but I'm working on thinking things through before I lash out. You can't take something back after you have said it.
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
12 Oct 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I understand, you know very how to react wisely in such situations.
@rave700 (247)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
...i woul really feel sorry if i know i've been scolded for the wrong actions that i've done....but when she/he scolded me without telling me the reason why and that i know i haven't done anything wrong then i wouldn't let that happen rather the situation would be in reverse....if i know it's my fault then ok i'll just accept those loud voice from him/her then be it....
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
12 Oct 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I understand, you know very how to react wisely in such situations. Deepak
• India
2 Aug 07
Hmm nice discussion! I get scoldings all the time especially from close friends. I get scoldings mainly because I do not take proper care of myself and I do not mind it much because it's the truth and my friends pamper me as well after scolding,lol. I consider these scoldings as a symbol of affection and concern they have over me.
@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
2 Aug 07
Dear, OMG! what a positive and interesting response from you! I cannot find appropriate words for appreciating the response. Simply superb! While starting the discussion...I did not think that when someone scolds you...there is an element of affection also in that. I will have to but agree with you views.Thanks very much for writing. +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ rated.
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
17 Jul 07
It depends on the situation. If it's something I deserve to be scolded over, I will sit back and let the person have his/her say. But I'm not totally meek....I will calmly tell the person to stop yelling, and if he/she doesn't stop, I walk away. But if I don't deserve the verbal beating, I usually resort to sarcasm and make remarks to the person just to get him/her to shut his/her mouth.
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I understand, you know very how to react wisely in such situations. Deepak
@touchnshine (2821)
• India
15 Jul 07
I really don't like getting scolded .. but it's a part of life .. It happens when there is a sure mistake from our side .. or if there is a kind of misunderstanding. Well when this type of situation comes in my life then I used to feel bad obviously about the person who is scolding me .. but after the whole conversation if I found that he/she has a point then I admit my mistake otherwise I don't admit my mistake in any case if I think that I am right.
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
Hi! Priti! How are you? Actually, no one likes to be scolded (even kids do not appreciate it). Thanks for sharing your views and I am impressed to read that if it ur mistake and you are being scolded for that...you would not mind it. deepak
@kaplya (1578)
• India
14 Jul 07
i find it very offending if someone scolds me. usually i just become cold toward that person in my behavior and attitude so that s/he sees that i m not liking it. in some cases i even counter attack especially if i m getting scolded though it wasn't my fault.
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
thanks for sharing your reactions on being shouted and scolded.
@dio123 (1790)
• India
14 Jul 07
I certainly do not like that someone scold me or shout at me I know one thing If someone shout at me without a reason I will just throw him out of the window
• India
17 May 11
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
13 Jul 07
When some one gets angry with me and scolds and shouts, I try to listen to what they are saying, and if any part of it is true I own up to that part, if it is not me they are angry at me but just shouting at me because I am standing there, I will ask them why they are yelling at me and not at the party they are angry at/with. I myself suffer from frustration, and get angry with situations, I do try to control lashing out at people because I am frustrated, but I am not always successful. At one time I would have immediately taken offense and yelled back, now I am for the most part willing to find out what the actual problem is and go from there. I have found that if I have done nothing wrong. I am willing to listen, and sort it all out. but it took me a long time to get to this mind set.
@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
Robin, It is always delightful to read your enriched thoughts. I am impressed with your reply. Thanks very much.
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
13 Jul 07
The very first thing in my mind will be "Who is he to scold and shout at me?". If it is a sudden case, I will then think he might be mad. If that is the case, I will just ignore him, pretend he is a madman and let him go on shouting. If the voice is too disturbing, I will just move away. However, if he intentionally target at me, I am no saint. I will shout back to ask him to keep quiet before I get nasty.
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
So you know how to re-act and how to retaliate. Good response from you, I liked it very much. Thanks
@subathra (3519)
• India
13 Jul 07
For me, it depends from person to person. If its my parents or brothers shouting at me with or without errors on my part i will keep silent and my anger brokes out as tears.Sometimes i too shout at them if they are unwantedly scolding at me. If its my friends, i will defintly keep calm and feel hurted if iam shouted for no fault of mine.But if the error is on my side i dont mind asking sorry to them and doesnt matter how many times it may be till they compromise and talk with me. But if its some stranger scolding at me, i will immediately revert back and shout at them to mind their business.
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@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
So you know how to re-act and how to retaliate. Good response from you, I liked it very much. Thanks
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
13 Jul 07
The first thing that comes to my mind is "what the hell? meaning what brought that over? why are you shouting at me? what the hell did I do? LOL those are some of the things I am thinking or about to say if that situation ever happens. In terms of replying back, that would depend on who is giving the scolding, why they are scolding me and how they are scolding me LOL If it was my parents, then I will not raise my voice and wait for them to finish whatever they are saying and then come back with a reply respectfully. Strangers are different, I would probably confront them in the same tone and manner they did with me.
@dpk262006 (56521)
• Delhi, India
17 Jul 07
So you know how to re-act and how to retaliate. Good response from you, I liked it very much. Thanks
@youless (94224)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jul 07
I don't like to be scolded. It's not a good feeling at all. My boss ia a very moody and unreasonable person, and when he has a bad mood, he will scold you. And no matter what, he's always right and you are always wrong. So, if I still want to work here, I have to stand his scold...
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• Philippines
14 Jul 07
Hi there, If somebody do that to me I will give him or her the most humiliating words I can express. My principle in life is if you wanted to be respected,give respect to others. I have experienced to be in that situation and I tell you,how he wish that he did not do that to me.... I gave him one hell of a scandal in public. hahaha. He should pay the price of what he have done to me....
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@skydancer (1987)
• United States
14 Jul 07
The slightest trace of carelessness from another leaves an instant mark on my face... I don't lash out back only because I don't want to fuel their fire. But my first thought is, "What did I do? All I did was (insert thing said/done here)..." I try my best to act like it doesn't bother me, but it is hard because it makes me feel "not right," like I want to be alone instantly. And then of course, the moment I am with anyone who will listen, I complain my head off about the person who scolded me unprovoked. Luckily I have people in my life who are willing to listen, though, and help me get back on track to thinking of all the nice things people have done to/for me. It takes longer for me to accept though because I have always been socially awkward (meaning I am shy basically - I don't make or keep friends easily), so it is harder for me to deal with a bad social situation simply because I don't have a lot of friends and those I do have are far away... making it even harder for me to come by truly genuine people... Bottom line: I don't lash out back, but I do get emotional once alone.
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@cbjcink (147)
• Japan
14 Jul 07
I laugh so they get pissed not me.. :D I don't get pissed that easily by getting shouted :P
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• Singapore
13 Jul 07
I think I am a short tempered person. Ppl dont often shout at me. If this by chance happens , I react usually by shouting back or claiming my self non-guilty.
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