Husband's MidLife Crisis
July 13, 2007 1:25pm CST
I would like to discuss dealing with a husband's midlife crisis. My husband is turning 42 on the 18th and has been very wishy washy. I dont think he would cheat on me (he may think about it) so I dont think that is the reason. His moods go from one extreme to another at a drop of the hat. Has anyone gone through a husband's midlife or experience the mood swings?
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20 Jul 07
You know I've been reading up on this stuff. :) The mood swings are a normal way of attempting to cope, albeit a way that penalizes those around him. Could it be stress? Even excessive stress combined with his own transition could be a lot to have going on. One of the hardest things for guys to do is talk ... but just say, "Look, I know something is going on and I want to help. We're best friends, we're spouses, we've been together a long time, and I don't want you to bear any burdens on your own." He's GOT to open up to you with SOMETHING. And, in the meantime, check out some books on male menopause or mid life crises to see if they can provide any insight or suggestions.
16 Jul 07
My husband has mood swings (even though he won't admit it!)just the same as I do sometimes except he doesn't express or communicate what his problem is. It can be very frustrating but if you calmly persist and communicate with him we get to the bottom of the problem eventually. Perhaps your husband doesn't know where he is at in his life right now - perhaps he feels he hasn't achieved all that he wanted to by this age? It may not matter to others but it could be bothering him. Mood swings don't equal cheating and always go on your gut feeling!
13 Jul 07
I think I was my husbands mid life crisis! Maybe I was the cure but we got together when he was in his mid forties and I was in my 20's. He got through it and we survived. I think it is for us to deal with and help them through it so that we can remind them when we hit menopause and are a little hard to deal with.