"Ex-boyfriend" owes me money, what should I do to make him pay?

@Jestin (560)
Philippines
July 16, 2007 8:59am CST
I had a "boyfriend" who I just met online and we were only together online. We were "together" for a year then we broke up. He's American and I'm Filipino. After we broke up, he needed money so I sent him about $600 to help him up. It's been 3 months and he still hasn't paid me yet. Is there any way I can report him or something so he'll pay me back?
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9 responses
@II2aTee (2559)
• United States
17 Jul 07
LOL that was really dumb. Learn from your mistake and do not do it again. You arent going to see that money again so you might as well forget about it.
• United States
19 Jul 07
I think it's pretty clear to her that she's made a mistake...it does absolutely no good to rub her nose in it..nor Laugh at her...she's trying her best to find out what her options are...if any...but she's certainly not in need of nasty remarks...you already had the opportunity to read what had been offered to her as responses...do YOU feel better now?
@II2aTee (2559)
• United States
20 Jul 07
Actually this reponse was rather mild for me. And if she didnt want people to laugh at her silly mistake she shouldnt be coming on mylot and announcing it to thousands of strangers.
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
i hope you will not be offended but its stupid of you to lend your hard earned money to somebody you have not met personally and thousand of miles away. ok you say that he was your ex-boyfriend, and you were only together online and you lent some money after you broke off, it think its very very reckless of you. anyway in my opinion say good bye to your 600dlrs you will just be wasting your time and any additional expenses if you report him to the authorities. lesson learned its better to say no than being sorry.
@Jestin (560)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
I know. But can I at least report him somewhere? I've already been a fool once and letting this thing go will be another weak thing to do...
@tuffy999 (794)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
my dear girl you already learned your lesson forget about the whole thing, just think of it as a bad dream. move on.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
16 Jul 07
WEll I dont know about this for sure but I BELIEVE thta you are pretty much f*cked for ever getting that money back....You hve no real way to prove that he owes you that money, even if you can prove you gave it to him and even if you can prove he said he'd return it I dont think you can prove that he never did ya know...My question is though, what would possess you to give him that much money in the first place seeing how you REALLY didnt know this guy (the whole yr, I'm sorry to say, could have been a sham..you REALLY DONT KNOW this guy ya know)...and have you asked him about it (paying you back I mean)?
@Jestin (560)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
I have lots of proof. I have the paper for sending the money. I have text messages from him and I have archived all our chat conversations and email messages. I have a copy of his IDs and even his forms from the military coz he's an active reservist.
@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
16 Jul 07
hey better forget it, if you ever have that kind of money to lend someone you can easily earn it. its pasrt of the price u pay for the relationship, hey i am from nigeria. if you cont mind can we be friends.
• United States
16 Jul 07
Well, I guess you could say this is one of those things you "chalk up to experience"...You have NO way to recoup your losses here, unless you had him sign a written agreement that he would pay you back. Oral agreements would be hardpressed to hold up, even in the best of Courts, because it would be considered, "she said/he said"...when was the last time you spoke with him...have you asked him to pay you back yet? These are both things you have to think about..and act upon if you haven't yet..but I would surmise that you are pretty much out of luck..I'm a bit confused why the need to include that he was "American" and you are "Filipino" ? It wouldn't matter if he was Tahitian and you were from Mongolia..trying to collect a debt without an agreement is like pulling a mule through hardened cement!! Don't beat yourself up too much over it..it's water under the bridge. Consider it money well spent if you never, ever do something like this again...remember, you're not the first to do something like this..and you won't be the last!! Good luck, keep your chin up, and find a nice boyfriend locally who loves you for you, not your money!!
@Jestin (560)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
I had to say that he's American and I'm Filipino because a dollar is worth 46+ in Philippine pesos and what an American earns in an hour, an ordinary Filipino earns in a day of hard manual labor. He's earning 10 times more but he still keeps on saying that he's broke. I understand the cost of living is also high in America but still, there's no way he couldn't save $600 in 3 months.
@Jestin (560)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
And yes, I talked to him 2 weeks ago and he said, he'll pay me when he can...! How shameless! And he talks to me like I'm the one who should be humiliated. If I can't get my money back, can I at least report him to the US Army coz he's a reservist or my cousin told me I can report him to the embassy.
@ranitam22 (1146)
• United States
27 Aug 07
I don't know how you would handle that situation since it is overseas. But i know here in the US, when somebody owes you money, you can take them to court. If you had any copies of the email when he asked for the money. If you wrote a check or wired it, if you kept the receipt you could use that. But I really don't know what you would do in your situation, if it is the same or not.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
I wouldn't bother that much about the money anymore, I suggest you forget about it and not worry yourself on when he's gonna repay you. If your "ex" do have conscience, then he'd return it to you no matter how long time permits him to. $600 may be a lot of money, but you should assume already that he's gone and so is your money..
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
16 Jul 07
I don't think there is anything you can do to get the money back. How did you transfer the money? Through the mail or through paypal? If you did it through paypal, was it a credit card charge? If it was, I suppose you could check with your credit card and/or paypal to see if they can help you at all. But I really don't expect that they can.
@timay23 (21)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
hi fren mmm mybe all you have to do is try to talk to him and gve hm a powerful word that make him realized to pay you as he barrowed the money....Godbless...