Advice

United States
July 16, 2007 9:53am CST
How do you tell your husband that you think you will be happy with someone else?
8 responses
@II2aTee (2560)
• United States
17 Jul 07
First, before you do or say anything to your husband, please hang your head in shame for getting married in the first place. If you really loved him, you wouldnt be thinking about this. Your pretty much a disgrace as far as Im concerned. Meanwhile, I have been dating my boyfriend for five years and are very happy together. We cant get married because we are gay. I hate people like you who treat marraige like a joke when there are people out there who actually RESPECT marraige but we cant. Whatever you do just know you should be ashamed. It would be one thing id he beats you or mistreats you... but from what I see you have just changed you mind. Its disgracefull. Think twice before you marry again.
@II2aTee (2560)
• United States
17 Jul 07
If your husband was like that before you got married then its still your own fault because you knew what he was like and you still said those two little words "I do." You have no one to blame but yourself. Why would you ever even consider getting into a relationship with someone when they treat you like that? Im sorry to come off as mean but it pisses me off that people think gay marraige is such a bad thing when STRAIGHT people seem to think its a big joke most of the time.
@II2aTee (2560)
• United States
17 Jul 07
Its great that you and your husband have an open marraige... And no i cant grasp it but its working for you two so go for it! And yes, I would say the same thing to a g/l couple if they were in the same situation. Only in America I would tailor my response to "How do think gay people will ever have the right to marry if you treat your relationship like crap?" Or something like that. And it IS shamefull. Its not just the original poster but its couples all over the world... America is probably the worst. They are always the first to speak out about morality and what not when everyone gets divorced right al left and no one cares about it anymore. It DOES seem like a big joke. And even though I have no idea what her opinion on gay marraige is - its the simple fact that she embodies the hypocracy that bogs my partner and i down EVERY DAY. And Im mad as hell, if you havent noticed. I dont mean to attack her personaly but she gets up here on mylot and sings her sad little song and dance... oh boohoo im not happy in my marraige anymore i want to trade my husband in for a newer model... boohoo... Well I'm sorry but she may be able to get pity from some people, but she DOSENT have me fooled. Maybe she should be gratefull for what she HAS instead of drilling for pity from millions of strangers.
@II2aTee (2560)
• United States
17 Jul 07
Oh by the way is wasnt saying your marraige was shamefull, i was reffering to divorce situation. Your marraige is your business and an open marraige is obviously working for you guys so thats just great. But then again, you arent the one who wants the divorce so you are on a completely different plane than the original poster. Im not saying divorce is wrong, but it seems like she wants a divorce just for the hell of it... that she wants a new partner. Im sorry but that NOT what commitment is for... and if people think it is they shouldnt get married in the first place.
• China
27 Jul 07
Tell your husband what you think would make him kown you batte,and you two can kown each other batte.
• India
25 Jul 07
IT"S VERY DIFFICULT TO SAY EVEN I AM NOT HAPPY WITHU TO UR HUSBAND COZ YOUR HUSBAND IS NOT AN ORDINARY FRIEND TO DO SO.i AM FROM INDIAQ IN INDIA A RELATION BECOMES STRONGER WHEN HE OR SHE GETS MARRIED.AN HUSBAND IS LONG TERM RELATION WHICH FLURISHES YOUR FAMILY GENERATIONS WITH YOU ALL THE SALIKS OF YOUR LIFE .....AND STILL IF YOU FEEL YOU ARE NOR SATISIFIED WITH HIME FOR A HAPPY LIFE TELL HIME ONCE IN A PERSONNEL DISCUSSION IN A PRIVATE PLACE WITH THE REASONS THEREOF.
@lyndee22 (1211)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
Well, it's hard to tell him specially if he has not done anything wrong with me and our marriage is very strong. In the first place the love that binds us made our relationship stronger.
@balasri (26577)
• India
21 Jul 07
If he is ill treating and doesn't care less about you you are wasting your precious time asking other people how to say so.If you have strong reasons for not able to live with him anymore you tell him directly and curtly to go his own way and you are going to go your way.
• Canada
17 Jul 07
Tell him what you are thinking and why maybe he can change or be more understanding when you find the other person
• India
17 Jul 07
I dont have the head-ach as I am not yet married.But you have ask a serious matter.How a women can tell her husband about their unhappy relation.
@nurhoney (1123)
• Philippines
16 Jul 07
well, you cant really know how to tell him since you haven't spend a long time with that certain "someone else"...you see, its like when you married your husband, you think that you will be happy with him but it seems that your not...so basically, it would be hard to tell him that. A person may be happy for a short time but forever would be a thing you need to think about coz only people who are truly inlove with each other can always be happy with that special someone they are with.