Prove it

@Jessem (372)
Mauritius
July 16, 2007 12:39pm CST
How can you be sure that someone really loves you? Is it just by telling you "I love you" incessantly all the day? How to know that the person really means her/his words? One of my friend cut his wrist in front of her giirlfriend to prove her that he really loves her and another one wrote with a blade the name of her gf on his arm but are these only way to prove one's love for someone? or what you must to is to buy expensive gifts for her/him? How did your gf/bf proves you that she/he really loves you and you were convinced by her/him?
14 responses
@ky1119 (699)
• United States
16 Jul 07
Okay, first things first. Slicing your wrist in front of someone to show you love them is just insane. The girl who stood there and watched that happen is completely selfish and stupid. Same goes for whoever carves someone's name with a knife. Love doesn't have anything to do with money. Love is an emotion, a feeling, not only one that you can feel, but one you can see as well. I know my husband loves me when I see how he looks at me, when he takes the time from his busy day to spend it with me when I get home from work. I know he loves me when he kisses me, and even just from a simple touch, like a hug or when he's holding my hand. It's not about how much someone can buy for you, or how much they hurt themselves for you.
1 person likes this
@Jessem (372)
• Mauritius
18 Jul 07
Yeah you are absolutely right about love. It can only be felt
@ibsnet (1268)
• India
16 Jul 07
Love can't be proved materialistically. It's a feeling of heart where each other feels for each other. If this really happen they can't stay a single day without meeting each other. Proving by bleeding some blood to love is not at all love, it's forceful love. If you love someone let him/her also love you. If you try to make someone love you then that is never a love. Love should be from both end. And love is very evident when the both duo meet, their eyes say that they love each other. Another thing love is not related to physical attraction, love is eternal, may be physical is a part but not all. Love should come from inner heart of the both lovers and they will never ever want to see the other one bleeding.
1 person likes this
@Sushicook (691)
• Sweden
16 Jul 07
I agree with ky1119. Those who think love is about money or sacrifice are way off the real answer. Love...you should never have to "prove". The best way to show that you love someone is by doing just that: love them. Show it in the way you look at them, or touch them. Show them by doing small favours like making coffee or giving them a backrub after a hard day at work. Proving your love isn't a test you have to pass, it's a continuous action that you perform every minute you spend with that person. Love isn't in the big, theatrical gestures. Love is in the small things, because that's what will really stay with you. I doubt I would think fondly of an old boyfriend if he carved my name all over his chest (I'd actually think that would be creepy, and a bit stalker-ish) but I know that I will remember a boyfriend that brings me coffee on a Sunday morning.
@Jessem (372)
• Mauritius
18 Jul 07
Thnx Sushicook for your response and i agree with you that love is all about small things you do for your partner
@bubuth (1816)
• Philippines
7 Oct 12
There are so many ways to prove to someone that you love him/her. It so easy to say I love you so someone or somebody else but it is so hard to prove it. Some people feels that they loved when somebody give them gifts and some others just want to hear that you love them and there are so many more. For me, I show my love by preparing his needs, like when he will go to work, I will prepare the meal for him, I will make him coffee and after work I cook dinner.
• India
17 Jul 07
jessem did ur mom ever tell u that she loves u.did ur dad do it.ans is obviously noo.thats my ans.if u really love a person u dont need to express it.ha but if u just planning for a time pass with ur companion then u can do all those bulshit things.I personally hate oestentatious people.
@II2aTee (2560)
• United States
17 Jul 07
The best way to tell someone loves you is by how much they beat you. Nothing says "I love you" more than a good swift punch in the face. I saw this one couple out at the bar. The guy thought his girlfriend was looking at the bartender the wrong way so he dragged her out of the bar practicly by her hair. Wow, i thought... he really has no problem showing her his feelings!
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
There have already been a lot of good responses so I just want to reiterate that all of those cutting wrists, self-mutilation stuffs are all high school, teenage, "puppy love" sort of thing. It only proves that you're crazy. Love is not about showing off. Love is about commitment, loyalty, and devotion. It lasts a lifetime, not just during high school.
@lean_rose (262)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
Saying "I love you" means responsibility. To prove that someone really loves you, he/she will do everything to convinced you that he/she reaaly do. It can be seened on her/his actions. And most of all you can feel it. But do not trust your feelings really cause sometimes what you feel is wrong.
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
what I know about love is that it is a verb (yes, its a verb not an adjective: it is patient, kind, it is not rude, not boastful, it always protects, doesnt keep any record of wrongs...These is the way, I know love acts...
• Indonesia
17 Jul 07
i'm sure that he loves me because he's never complaining about me at all! he accept me the way i am without any condition.In fact he's willing to change as per my request and do anything for me.and it's not just words.he did it! well..what else can i say?
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
is it necessary for us to prove the love of our gf/bf? well, it doesnt needs to hurt our selves to show the proof that we loved someone, but rather it is just deep affection must be feel on both lovers....
@ctiu80 (216)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
I Love you is a very strong word and a big word. You can't just say to the person that fast that you love that person. You don't need to buy expensive gift just to let her know that you love that person. And it also not a convincing act to let the person know that you loved him/her. Just express who you are and show to that person how much you loved him/her. You can feel it if it true feeling or not =) The more the harder he/she tells you then that's one of the sign that he/she really meant what he/she sayings. =)
@michecu (637)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
i think frequent "i love you"s is not the only way to prove your love...and cutting yourself is a stupidity...and gifts can only give temporary satisfaction... i think that in order to prove your love, you must be willing to give it unconditionally. For me love is not demanding nor possessive. It is shown when you really care a lot about the person and is willing to put everything aside to be there with him/her whey he/she needs someone or a shoulder to cry on. well, there are many circumstances in our relationship when we could see the love from our partner. in my case, one of the most difficult situation we went through was when my parents asked him to face them (because they were upset about a certain situation which happened in the past), and i thought that my bf wouldn't show up...but when he did and he talked to my parents assuring them of his intentions, then i was able to say that he really love me. There more situations after that, but i realized that it's in the most difficult moments that a person who loves you could really show that they love you no matter what.
@pamcake (276)
• United States
16 Jul 07
You just show it everyday..with your actions and words. Show that you genuinely care about the person. Cutting wrists and drawing names with blades aren't ways of showing love..love is a lot more than a wound that will heal in a few days.