Don't You Hate..

@breepeace (3028)
Canada
July 16, 2007 11:21pm CST
.. when people jump all over you and flame you for expressing your opinion? It's obvious in most cases that it's something near and dear to their hearts, and they're entitled to their opinion, but I don't believe they're entitled to make personal judgements on you or to shoot down your character because your opinion and theirs conflict. Don't get me wrong. I love a good debate, but when I say 'flame' I mean people who don't want to debate a different side of the discussion, but instead insult you for having your opinion. It is possible to express the knowledge you have backing up your argument in a manner meant to inform rather than insult the person you're responding to, I wish more people knew that.
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@Calais (10905)
• Australia
17 Jul 07
I see this all the time and it makes me so angry..If its not what they want to hear then they shoot their mouth of at you an abuse you for saying that you are judging them...I really dont get it...Opinions are all individual, if they dont want opinions then they shouldnt ask for them...
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@clocks123 (1229)
• United States
18 Jul 07
i think people may become offended by what our opinions are and may react defensively or as you said insulting or even offensive- we can't control how others will react-- we must take a stand for what we believe inspite of what others may or may not think respectfully on our part
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@AmbiePam (46317)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I especially hate when they flame you without having read the whole discussion. Because they aren't even arguing on the topic at hand. Yesterday a poster on here went off the hook, raging against the ideas of the poster who started the discussion. They hadn't even read the discussion! And after he figured out his mistake, he railed against the person who brought it to his attention. He went free and easy with the name calling. I sure wish it was OK to name him right here, LOL.
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@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
17 Jul 07
for me, it is okay for everyone to express their feelings to some extent and that if they know they are not in the position to say something,they should just shut up. i know one person in our company who kept on giving alibis and is literally pointing fingers on who did what, who does wrong - my goodness! you have to know your limits and though you are only saying what you think you know, you have to also think that whatever you say will not let you look like a fool.
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• Sweden
17 Jul 07
Oh god, those kind of people are so annoying. Flames and bashing never works for getting someone on your side, because your insulting them and/or something they like. No way they're going to side with someone who implies or tells them right out they're stupid/evil/*censored* for having a certain opinion/doing a certain thing. And the silliest thing? I've seen people flaming and bashing over the smallest things, e.g. liking two characters from a book as a couple. I mean, what's the point?
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• Philippines
17 Jul 07
it seems to me that until now,some people here still havent learn to be grown ups..they always try to ruin a good debate and that as if they are trying to pick a fight by insulting and even cursing on us whenever they disagree with our own opinions..why dont they get it anyway that they have all the right to disagree if they want to but just be sure that they defend their opinion in a manner way and not by insulting the person who started the discussion.. wish more people just get to act as grown ups..
• Thailand
17 Jul 07
Some people need to be educated for at least listening to others' opinions. Learn to listen, accept/reject/giving opposite opinions instead of insulting others' opinion. Well, forgive their ignorance instead of hate. They tend to lose something good in their lifes.
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• Canada
17 Jul 07
Yup p think they call that being an adult and having respect for other and there beliefs soemthing that is lacking in some posters here you are consider ok so long as you think and post liek them never to be of a different opinion. There is a huge difference between posting a different opinion or idea and attacking soemone casue of what they wanna discuss.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
17 Jul 07
It does not matter to me. There are the three choices, plus, minus, and report. I am a Christian, prolifer anti abortionist who believes in marriage rather than living together and I expect to get insulted. However sometimes I get angry when the person just parrots an idea without thinking about it or when she or he uses his personal experience as the reason why he feels that way. I do not flame, but I tell them the consequences of what might happen.
@lovein (345)
• India
17 Jul 07
debate will work good, if ot is between husband and wife if it extends to world forums or big big meetings where all want to act as elder. there i do not what will happen to a common man without having money and power , will speak there.