First months of a relationship

United States
July 17, 2007 9:52am CST
How do you know that a Person truly loves you within the first few months of a relationship and that they are not just playing or messing with you? I have seen many r/ships end up in disappointments, even some that seemed to be going on really well. I am a lady and have been seeing a guy for three months now and he seems to be nice to me, but i want to be sure that he really means what he says before I totally commit. Any ideas, suggestions, observations to make? Your contribution will be greatly appreciated!
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9 responses
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
just be yourself. Act natural and respect each other. don't pretend you like the things he did when you relly don't. And ask God's guidance and sign if that guy really was meant for you.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
How do you feel about this guy? If you love him then take a chance. Then time will tell. Total commitment only comes when you marry him. If he's willing to compromise for you and for the sake of your relationship, that's a good sign.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
17 Jul 07
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@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
17 Jul 07
give it alot of time before you totally commit time is the essence don't rush into any relationship
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
17 Jul 07
It takes a long time to build a relationship. I don't think there really is a way to know for sure how long something is going to last.
@Bobbz21 (155)
• New Zealand
18 Jul 07
Ive been seeing a guy for 5 years now and you will know if you believe that the guy is the right person for you before you commit.. Ive had ups and downs in my r/ship but in the end he has always stuck by me, but I would, : Take things slowly, : make sure you know the person : Communication is good to in a r/ship. You will know after the 3 months if its meant to be, every r/ship is different tho, and it could be a good one for you...
@krishkorp (427)
• India
17 Jul 07
well for this there is no such magic formula that can tel you if your guy is in love with you or not.Because for each person,love's meaning is different and if your partner caters to your need then he is the right one for you.What you expect of him is the first thing you should think about.And ask him too why he wants to love you and if he gives a specific reason that this is the reason why i love you then most of the times, it is made up answers and the motive is something else.so it all depends on your gut feeling in the end ,if you have that gut feeling .go for it.:) I hope this helps.
@jenius (131)
• United States
17 Jul 07
Maybe it's just me but I tend to be suspicious of guys professing love too early in a relationship. Give it some time get to know one another if the feelings grow to love that's great! A few months doesn't seem all that long to me. As far as trust and true love I think the test of time is best. It can be difficult to know just how sincere people are. And of course actions speak louder than words...how does he treat you? How much do you care about him....enough to risk a disappointment? I don't think you can open your heart to anyone without taking the risk of hurt and disappointment surely is worth the risk if they turn out to be "the one". Wishing you good luck and much happiness.
17 Jul 07
Hey ,,, !! ITs next 2 impossible guessing tht out in the first months ..... Try to avoid physcial contact... Mayb the ignorance may be a sign....