Would you lie to make someone happy?

friends - a friend
United States
July 17, 2007 11:39pm CST
Just what the subject says would you lie to make someone else happy? Here is my story.. I have a friend whom I talk to alot on the phone maybe every other day. I have never met this person in real life.. Ok well he wants me to lie and tell my family that I am going to go visit some relation in another state but instead go see him.. Now I am not a liar and I told him that. I don't think it's even possible for me to do such a thing. I told him if I were too I would do the right thing and tell them where I am going in case something were to happen.. What would you do if you were in my position?
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I would not lie, and since you have only talked to him and haven't met him, I would be worried to meet him. If he is asking you to lie already and you haven't met then I would not even go. What if something happens. I am sorry but this doesn't sound good to me. I would be very worried if I were you. Please think this through.
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• United States
18 Jul 07
I think I've made up my mind already and know that he just isn't someone I'd want to meet I mean I know him but not enough to say "Yeah I know you very well." He also did state "I will not pressure you into coming to see me either". So I think I will just leave it alone and tell him it isn't a good idea.. Personally I really don't think it is either.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
18 Jul 07
I am glad and I do think you made the right decision. I am glad that he didn't pressure you.
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• United States
18 Jul 07
Me too, I wouldn't ever talk to him again thats for sure if he even tried. When i think about the whole thing i really shouldn't anyway all and only because i don't believe people should have to come up with some sort of a lie just to meet another person.. Thank your reply!
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• Philippines
18 Jul 07
I absoultely agree with your decision. If he told you to lie, he is really not your friend and he only wants what he wants not the the interest of others, if i were you DONT GO MEET HIM, if he can lie, probably he is not the nice guy that you think he is over the phone. If he wants to really meet you, he should be the one to go and visit you, right? A true friend would not lie to you and would not tell you to do wrong things and would tell you your mistakes. ;-)
• United States
18 Jul 07
You are so right.. Deep down in my thoughts I thought and thought about it and Yeah he's not a friend if he wants me to lie and come up with stories.. A true friend would say exactly what you said and I don't even know you... Thank you so much for your reply and have a great night or day where ever you may be!
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
I was only wondering. Why would he have you lie in the first place? I mean, if there wasn't anything about your relationship with him as a friend, then why would he ask you to lie to your family to go see him? Just the thought of him doing so, makes me think he's kinda fishy. And I think he'd been leading you from the very beginning and wasn't really your friend. It's a pity though since you have allowed him to know the real you but it seems to me he's fake. It was really a good decision not to lie, I agree with bench_mmcc that he should go and visit you or if he wants you to visit, you shouldn't go there under false information from your friends or family. What if he ends up a serial killer or someone who could abduct you or even God-forbid rape you. Where would your family look for you if you send them the wrong information. I believe this guy is an opportunist. Maybe he's fishing out women just for fun. Good luck. And stop talking to the guy. He's not worth it.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
18 Jul 07
This sounds dangerous. Please don't go. Does he know you are married? Maybe he is looking for something deeper than friendship here. At any rate, I don't think any good could come from lying to your family and possibly something really bad. Hope you make the right choice for yourself!
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• United States
18 Jul 07
Yup I have already made up my mind the very first person who posted here was the person who helped me figure it out.. And it's very true, Friends don't tell friends to lie at least a true friend wouldn't do that. I totally agree with the person as well. Your right he might be looking for something more than just a friendship but that isn't in my league Thanks for your reply and have a great day!
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@aeq403 (5)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 07
Yeaah...if i were you, i would not like that. I think this is not fair to ourself because of that decision. May be someone other side will do do something bad or what we are done really dumb. As you says you never see him by face to face. So, dont take your risk. Be patient on this...and see what will happaned to relation of yours.
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• United States
18 Jul 07
I totally agree and thank you so much for your reply. I will admit I have met people from online but this one just seems so different he just doesn't seem to me like the person i once knew. I mean i never thought he'd ask me to do such a thing.. Make you wonder don't it. Thanks for your reply!
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@kimthedane (1000)
• Denmark
18 Jul 07
No i deffinately would not. I never lie as i have a bad memory, lol, and its always easy to remember what you have said if you always speak the truth. I do not believe lying would make anybody happy. But the truth may as it shows that you care.
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• United States
18 Jul 07
I do care thats for sure.. Not alot of people would ask such a thing to get a straight answer some would just go off and do it you know.. The only reason for my post was to see what others would do and how they would handle something like this. Thank you so much for your reply and have a great day!
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• Denmark
19 Jul 07
Thank you hunni and have a nice day yourself. :D
@alpine_007 (1476)
• Pakistan
19 Jul 07
i think that you are right and i i gree with you that if a friend says us to lie we should lie because it is not good and if we do that then the people who trust us get hurt and we also sometimes get in problems. i also think that if a person wants the other person to lie he is not a true friend and he is also not trust worthy
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• United States
19 Jul 07
Thats what i thought too, When people ask others to lie and come up with stories they aren't true friends. although i do have some friends online that have never asked me to lie for them, those are my real friends or at least I think so. I have a few good ones but they are so rare to find online. I know this because I've been chatting online for at least 8 years, a long time.. Thank you so much for you reply and have a great day!
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@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
i think i would have told him the same things you told him. besides, why do i have to lie on something like that? it would just mean that he doesnt want anyone to know that im with him and its possible that he may do something bad to me and no one will find out. i think you ought to be suspicious of him and be careful of him. people who tell you to tell lies are not really reliable. ^__^
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• United States
19 Jul 07
I can't agree more. I was wondering why and sometimes yes I still do why he wanted me to do such a thing you know.. Is it he wanted to do something to me and no one know? I sure hope not.. But people do that kind of stuff and it's some pretty scary stuff thats for sure.. Thank you so much for your reply and have a great day!
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• Philippines
20 Jul 07
you are in the right track. a lie loses once trust. and your parents? they deserve your utmost honesty.never lie to them they love you.do not lose the trust they have with you.i was once lied. i now never believe what that person say tho i am not angry with him anymore. but i lost my trust in him.it is so hard if one loses his trust in us. what do you think guys? honesty is still the best policy.....agree?
• United States
20 Jul 07
yes I do agree with you, and it also pushes a person away from you when you lie and make up silly but yet serious stories.. I don't understand why some people think it's ok. I mean what makes them think that? Just to get something they want but yet some time down the road they will look back and say to them selfs why did I do that and feel very guilty about it.. At least I know I would.. Thank you so much for your reply and have a great day!
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@pjanaway (247)
20 Jul 07
Nope, I never lie. I don't like it. If people can't be happy with what I have to say then it's no concern of mine.
• United States
20 Jul 07
Great Answer if you ask me and your right so very right if you ask me.. The person above you that posted said yes. It makes me wonder what he's thinking.. Sometimes we just never know.. Thanks for your reply and have a great day!
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• Pakistan
20 Jul 07
yuppppppp....y not
• United States
20 Jul 07
Your saying you would lie to make someone happy.. Question is why though? Your only making yourself trouble that way and not to mention not very trustworthy.. In no way do I want to you to take that the wrong way but lying to someone to make others happy isn't the way to go. Making people believe something that is wrong is wrong. I mean what if something were to happen to you than what? What is your family going to think. You know how hurt your family would be if something were to happen to someone they love and care about.. humm I guess some people would do anything to please others.. So sad if you ask me.
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