What's the hardest part of being a sister?

Philippines
July 18, 2007 2:08am CST
I have two sisters: one about 4 years older than me and the other is a year younger than me. I love them both, and I'd do anything to protect them. Well, the hardest part for me being a sister is when... whew, it's sounds cheesy and all, but when my sister falls for someone whom I really like - I try my very best to support her regardless of how I feel about it. I mean, I couldn't tell her about my feelings for this guy, right? It might ruin our relationship. I guess the hardest part for me being a sister is to give my sisters support even though I'm hurting. How about you? What's the hardest part of your being a sister?
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12 responses
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Awww thats not cheesy at all, thats kinda sad to hear that. Did you sisters know that you liked him too? I have a twin sister and even though things like that never happened between us (we have different tastes in men LOL) the hardest part for me is not being there for her when she needs me. She lives in New Zealand and I live in the USA, so its tough when she is going through things I am not there by her side. It's not the same when your on the phone talking as I would prefer to be by her side. That's one of the hardest parts of being so far away from each other. I miss her everyday!
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• Philippines
18 Jul 07
no.. i never told them; so i pretended to be happy of the prospect of my sister falling for this particular guy whom i liked. but i'll be ok. i want to support my sister because i love her. thanks.. oh, that's sad to hear though. is it because of work? are you two too busy to get together sometime?
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
18 Jul 07
It's because she lives in New Zealand and I live in the States, thats why I have a hard time being away from her. She's my twin and we are very close.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 07
well, how about some visits to new zealand? wow, that'll probably rip piggy banks. do you always communicate everyday? like on a webcam? sometimes it helps.. i live in the philippines: has a thousands of islands. my older brother worked in a different island, so i had to email him and tell him what's going on with my life and ask him to do the same. i miss him too.. but whenever we communicate in webcams, it's like seeing him again.
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@taylorblue (1286)
• Canada
1 Aug 07
I feel like anything I do is a reflection on me to my sister. I would never want to do anything that she would be dissappointed in.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 07
Sometimes, I feel that way too. I don't want to do anything that would embarrass my sisters since their better than me.
• United States
18 Jul 07
I'd say that the hardest part of being a sister, for me, is sharing my mother. I'm 28 and my sister is 7. I was an only child until, at 20, Nikki came along. I don't, and never have, wished her away for even a second. I love that little girl like she was my own child. However...it's still hard sometimes seeing MY mom with another child. Lol. But...for Nikki...I'll share.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 07
I never really felt resentful toward my sisters because of my mother. My mother usually spends more time bonding with me compared to them.. But I also think that they don't mind. They're a lot busier than me. :) That's good for you. Keep loving your sister! You should stick together through thick and thin. :) Thanks for sharing!
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• Australia
18 Jul 07
I imagine that would be very hard for you at the moment, I always do the same with my friends, treat them as family and if they like someone I like I support them. You should just wait and see where things go, but don't wait for this guy because waiting only makes it hurt more and there could be someone out there more wonderful for you. Er-herm anyways, onto the ACTUAL topic haha I think the hardest part about being a sister is that everything is ALWAYS shared, even if you say no the sister goes and takes it or "borrows" it anyways. Even with food, you can't sit down without her asking or taking a bit of your food. I still love my sister to bits though.
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
LOL. I don't mind sharing. As long as they share too.. Hahaha! Well... Erm... Except my crushes.. I REALLY don't want us to have the same crushes! LOL! Thanks for sharing! :)
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@cutieissa (413)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
unlike you, i have two younger brothers. i have no sisters so i have no "love concerns" like u, hehe! the hardest part for me as a sister to 2 brothers is disciplining them. i have to constantly watch over them. basically being a "second mother" to them. at the same time, i should be able to play rough games with them. and be able to understand how guys' minds work. and i must say, because of my years of experience with my brothers, i am so good in handling guys. hehe! just ask my boyfriend ;p
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
wow.. that's a good way of putting it. you're lucky you get to learn how guys' minds work. can you give me some tips? hahahahahah! :)
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@tiku1977 (664)
• United States
18 Jul 07
If you are an elder sister then you have the responsibility to protect younger sister. It will be an unfortunate situation to support sister for the guy you also love. It depends n you. You can talk to her about it directly.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 07
naw, i'd rather not. there are a lot of guys in this world - but i only have two sisters. i'd rather choose my sisters. :) thanks for the response.
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@bluishrose (2291)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
I have a sister which is 7 years younger than me. Were like best friends and our communication is very open. If there are conflicts like regards with guys we talk about it either she or me gives way on it. She's closer to me thanmy mother so the hard part of being an older sister is im the one responsible on whatever she's doing. i act like her older sister and at the same time as her mother. She confides on me alot that sometimes i don't have enough time for myself and my partner. she consumes alot of my time. Im just grateful i have an understanding partner but right now im taking it slow to teach her how to be independent and make decisions by herself.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 07
i know sisters should stick together through thick and thin - and that goes for the rest of the family. but i think it's about time that you let your sister be independent so she'll know what to do with her life. she should know how to make decisions for herself and stand by them.. building her confidence might be a good start. :)
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
18 Jul 07
Its different in other parts of the world I guess, but in Africa, the hardest part of being a sister is when your junior sister gets a suiter earlier than you-in some cultures, jumping the queue in the order of marriage brings a lot of stress to sisters, some men are asked to pay extra bride price for the "abomination"! But I generally agree with you, sometimes a sister introduces a boy friend to the family and he is immediately welcomed as suitable but for some unknown reasons, the sister begins to mistreat or disrespect her boy friend and telling her not to do so by another sister is a very difficult thing! It can easily rock relationships not just bwtween sisters but with the whole fqamily members!
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• Philippines
18 Jul 07
wow that's really rough.. :(
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@butterfly39 (3907)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
yes it's hard when you keep on thinking about them rather than ourselves. What I mean when we showed so much tolerance to what they did, and ask favors from us without even thinking if we are hurt or not...my sister is always like that...and sometimes I hate her for that.
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• Philippines
18 Jul 07
i never knew being a sister is a huge responsibility too, eh? hehe.. but that's life.. :)
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@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
19 Jul 07
The hardest part of being a sister for me is when my older sister is right about mistakes I am making. Luckily most recently I took her advice on what would have been the biggest mistake I could have ever made, but this time it is slowly working out.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 07
It's sometimes degrading or embarrassing to be corrected by your older sister. My older sister also corrects me whenever I'm wrong, and I used to get pissed about it. But now, I actually feel so blessed to have her in my life. I won't be who I am now without her advices and guidance. I love her very much... Good for you! We should feel blessed to have an older sister who cares enough to correct our mistakes. Thanks for sharing!
@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
11 Aug 07
I completely agree with you. My sister was very right on this one. I am glad I listened to her. I am very thankful for her.
• United States
9 Aug 07
I hate being the oldest caus eit's like they always come to me for everything.It's hard at times..ANd they expect me to drop everything and do it for them or give them what they need...I think this is the hardest about being an older sister!
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• Philippines
9 Aug 07
i'm sure they don't mean it like that. they just treat you like that for you to be responsible since you're the eldest , and they think well of you... well, there are times that it's quite irritating... but life's like that... your family still loves you. :) thanks for the response.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 07
i have two sisters and one brother, im the second to the eldest she's living now with her own family, so i am now the oldest inside the house aside from mom which is very tough job i tried all my best to be a good and supportive sister but still not good enough, i've been good to them but i got nothing back in return they still dont see what im doing for them...you do good things for them and they will do bad things in return but i cant do anything about that coz at the end of the day...they are still my family.
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• Philippines
9 Aug 07
perhaps you shouldn't take it personally. some family members show their love in "weird" ways.. like they do stuff to irritate you. my little brother always does irritating stuff to me but i know he just simple wants to get my attention.. :) god bless you and your family.