Where Is He Gone???

@add_im (2712)
Philippines
July 18, 2007 2:34am CST
I thought of this many times if I'm going to post it here or not...but I just can't take this anymore and this time I'm trying to get all your advices, suggestions and opinions to see what can it do to help me out of this. Guys, i'm now having a hard time regarding my marriage. As some of you here know that my hubby is away from me now because he's working abroad and my problem now is that since he left from the month of Feb this year, I remember he only contacted me at least 5 times giving me calls from those time span. Now, since the last time he called me I never get to heard anything from him anymore since then even until now. This really giving me heartaches and confusions of what truly is happening about him now over there where he at, I just don't know as I don't have any other contacts of him not even I can contact him in his cellphone because everytime I tried to it's always out of service and I don't even get any emails from him anymore. 'sigh':-( What will I do best mylotters? Please, I need your advice before it's too late for us to save this marriage of ours, as i'm getting very confused now and heartbroken. Imelda
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6 responses
• United States
24 Jul 07
I understand what you are saying. If he is not emailing you or calling you...either something is wrong or he is not dedicated to you. How long have you been married to him? When did you last talk to him on the phone? There is no excuse for this unless something has happened to him. If you have a his address, send him a certified letter. That way you will know if he received it or not.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Thank you for showing concern Kim and yeah we've been married for almost 6 yrs now by this coming Nov. and about our communication...thankfully, he did called me already 4 days ago now and he explains everything why he was so delayed calling me this past few days and I just do my best to understand his side although I have some negative thoughts on my mind before but I just let those feelings go away from my thoughts now and move along with my life and save our marriage still.
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• United States
25 Jul 07
I hope everything works out. Is he in the USA?
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
Yeah I do hope so...yes, he's actually residing in Houston Texas and work there at the same time.
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@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
Well, If he calls again you might want to tell him how you feel about your situation? let him know all your fears and disappointment of him not calling you as often as possible. It's a pretty tough situation and I just hope everyhting get better soon.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
Thank you cefaz. Yeah, i'm just thankful now that he finally did call me and it was a long talk we have as we truly did try to fixed things up that needs to be done, but now we're okay. :-)
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Jul 07
Sweetie this was written 4 Days ago now I am hoping that your Husband has contacted you in the Mean time I would not be happy if my loving Man went away and would not contact me We live an hour apart so we do not see each other every Day as he is also a Busy Man but he rings me 4-5 times a Day Now I think if this is not sorted you need to send him an E-Mail and demand an Explanation of him and ask him what is going on If he does not reply as hard as it is then do not contact him anymore I find it strange that he is not contacting you I mean has he got easy Access to phone and Computer? I really hope that you can sort this out
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Hello gabs, thank you for your kindest concerns about my situation right now. Yeah, I do hope that everything would be sorted out as much as possible...just waiting him more patiently 'till now and please do say a prayer for us sweetie, thank you in advance very much.
@MsTickle (24993)
• Australia
21 Jul 07
Talk to your family and tell them. Ask them what they think about this and what you should do. Good luck.
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
I have already told them about my situation in our marriage and they advice to just wait until I finally heard from him again and find it from my hubby what was going on and try fixing this mess in our marriage, once and for all. Thanks for sharing MsTickle.
• United States
19 Jul 07
Where is he. Is he in a dangerous place? I hope this isn't even worse than it sounds. Whenever you talk to him again, he needs to know that being out of contact with you without a heads up first is completely unacceptable. You probably feel a bit unloved right now. That is because he is doing an unloving thing by not staying in touch. Love is a verb. Couples in love do loving things to and for each other.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
No, he's not in some dangerous place but actually he is in his own Country land working there. It was just confused me why he was not able to get in contact with me lately and that makes me worried so much about him for it's been a while that we haven't got to talked from each other. Thanks for your response.
@derek_a (10902)
18 Jul 07
Hello Imelda, This is not a good position he has put you in. I would say you would need to know one way or the other, why he is doing this. Are there work colleagues or even his boss you can contact? Are you afraid to ask the right questions? That is - "has he left you?" If he has, would you not be better off knowing? Would you not be better off forcing him to say so? There are lots of painful things to go through in life, and I feel the worst by far is uncertainty. Personally I would rather know the worst news, than wonder about it. There must be someone in the company he works for can get a message to him to tell him that you want to know exactly what is going on. If there is not, then it is your karma to wait until you speak to him next time and then ask him outright. I hope this resolves quickly for you. Take care, Derek :-)
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
Maybe then derek, that would be the least i'm going do for now is to wait until when he's going to have in contact with me again. I'm just really feel low by now and don't know what i'm going do without the comfort of my parents. I will see what will happen in my marriage and if it's not going to work out good, then I'll let it be...he will be free and I will be free from this bondage of confusion that I felt right now.
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