My cousin just committed suicide now what?

@jbb316 (1779)
United States
July 18, 2007 5:41pm CST
My cousin who lives out of state just committed suicide this morning. He is 25 yrs old. I just don't understand why he did it. His brother is the one who has had problems and was in and out of rehab and was suicidal. Now he has rehabilitated himself. He started working in a nursing home as a nurses aid and now has his LPN degree for nursing. If anyone would have committed suicide that would have been the one who everyone thought would have committed suicide. This morning my cousin text messaged his mother, brother, and sister and told them he loved them and he was sorry. Immediately his mother and brother rushed over to his apartment. The manager let them in but they were too late. Sadly, they were the first ones on the scene. Can you imagine what it must have felt like for a mother to walk in and see her son lying there motionless, bleeding from a gunshot wound to the head and there is nothing she can do. She must have been going out of her mind. My father is a minister and he was asked to do the funeral. How does a man perform a funeral for his nephew. He is grief stricken himself. The family did not attend a church and do not have a minister of their own. So my father is supposed to take care of everything for them. He has to make all the calls to the funeral home and help pick out pallbearers. It seems he is overwhelmed. And he wants to be there for his sister who is the boys mother, and he wants to be there for the rest of the family. How should he handle this? I am sure whether he wants to or not he will perform the funeral service because his family asked him too and he just will do it. But hwo does he pull it together and stand up in front of everyone and speak to them about someone who he is also grieving over and keep his self together as well.
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@rimsha (806)
• Pakistan
19 Jul 07
Your cousin is mad.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
19 Jul 07
That was a very insensitive comment! I can't believe you!
• United States
20 Jul 07
your mad for saying that!
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Wow, I am so sorry for your loss. Boy your dad is in a rough position. maybe he has a fellow minister that he can suggest to your aunt to do the service? You're father could still get up and say a few words, but not have to fun the whole service. My thoughts are with you and your family.
@jbb316 (1779)
• United States
18 Jul 07
Thank you. It has been really tough. Especially for my dad. Since he was the first person my aunt called, he was the one who had to tell the 5 other brothers and sisters and their mother. It was difficult for him to do.
@mybizla (136)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 07
so sad, hope you can accept it...
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I am so sorry for your loss and that of your family. It is a parent's worst nightmare to have to bury one of their children. I can't even imagine and stories such as this do make me appreciate my own good fortune all the more. I really do not know how familys get thru these things. They do though. AS far as your father goes, I am thinking that he will be so busy in helping that he won't have time to dwell on his own grief. That will come when it's all done. He will need you then. i'm sorry for what you all are going through.
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
huh?!sorry my friend. condolence...
• United States
19 Jul 07
There is no simple reason why people lose all hope and end their own life. I have lost a favoriate Uncle at the age of 65 and he was retirng from a job in the steel industry. His wife found him in the garage..he hung himself..This was a man who always went to church and never missed work and was a good husband, son, and brother. I never heard Uncle ever say a negative word. It breaks our heart that he could not enjoy his retirement...but i guess my uncle listened to the voices in his head.l
@Calais (10905)
• Australia
19 Jul 07
Wow, thats pretty full on and deep..I am so sorry that this happened...I cannot even comprehend what your Aunty must have gone through in that second ....
@marciascott (25557)
• United States
19 Jul 07
This is davastating, I am sorry for your lost and I pray for all the family Members, this is something that will come nautral to your father, because he us a Minister, but I think it would be kind of ruff for him. that is so sad,God will give him the strength to do this. I lst my son in a Car Accident so I knew exactly how she feels to lose a son. May gid give everyone strength.