Mistreated by your guy/girl: how would you deal with it?

@kcrysea (196)
Philippines
July 19, 2007 8:41am CST
If the relationship is just new everything is just doing fine. But as time goes by the treatment with each other changes it could be bad or good. You love the person so much but your partner started to treat u unkindly. you dont even understand why... how with you deal with it?
4 responses
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
i broke up with him. he called me a "b1tch" and that's a big no no for me. he even wrestles me. i dunno why he does those things to me.
@kcrysea (196)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
yes, if he's hurting you physically and emotionally Breaking up is the best solution to it.
@ryunix (25)
• Canada
19 Jul 07
Hi Kcrysea: The answer to this would depend on the kind of mistreatment. *IF IT IS SAFE* Talk to them about it, with love and with kindness. Use "I" statements, for example "I feel that ..." Dont use statements like "You do ..." If this fails, i would suggest going to free couples counseling. *IF IT IS NOT SAFE* (physical abuse etc) You need to talk with someone, like a distressline or see a free counseler about demestic abuse. They can guide you from here, I would love to tell you the steps but it would be best to have something like that relayed in person. If you do not feel you can talk with them and it is safe to do so, you need to ask yourself why that is and if it can be resolved, if not you will have to move on. A relationship is a two person job, one person can not hold a relationship together. Also note that if he has reasons for his treatment of you, and apologises, that is great but make sure that the treatment stops. If it happens and he appologises and this becomes a pattern then it has not be resolved and this is unhealthy. *Please excuse my spelling, i cant cut and paste in this box :P*
@kcrysea (196)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
sometimes when a person is so stress they tend to do something really bad and may hurt someone. As for me ive been mistreated but not physically. Its really hard for me to tell him that "hey, what you're doing is hurting me so much..."
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
11 Aug 07
If such a case should happen, I would ask her the reason so that I know what I have done to make her treat me like that so that I can make some improvements. Understanding is the most important. I don't want to live in such a state of being mistreated.
• Malaysia
20 Jul 07
I will never see her again... find another guy. hehehe