in a bf/gf relationship, do you need to tell evrything to your partner?

@rexiemay (402)
Philippines
July 19, 2007 9:07am CST
it is of my opinion that there are some things that must be left unsaid. telling everything is good but there are mundane things that can be left unsaid
8 responses
@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
It is not necessary but I guess it would be better if you would. The past is already a past, nothing you can do to change it. I guess what matters is the present... but it wont hurt if you tell him so. I think telling your bf your past... is another proof of trust.( not all past are good) Your unfolding your life to him... If you trust his love that much and you think that whatever that you'll tell him wont affect your relationship and his love for you...then you can tell him... if he wants to know.(there are people who dont want to know the past of their bf/gf) me,I prefer to tell my bf...all that he has to know about me and the life i lived when I was with my ex husband... because I want him to know me better. And I dont want someday he will be asking why I didnt tell him such things... And also I love to know everything about him...including his past relationship. its because... it helped me to know him better and know what are the things that I wont do... to make our relationship work...(sometimes i get a little bit jealous but at least now I prove that among his ex girlfriends... Im the one he loved the most) I believe that if you love someone you'll be interested in everything about him... and you would definitely want to know everything about him/her
@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
thank you for your enlightening post. i hope it is that easy. there are things that i would just like to forget. things that i do not want to share. i love my current beau right now but keeping some secrets makes me more interesting.
@ryunix (25)
• Canada
19 Jul 07
Rexiemay: You do not "need" to tell everyone to your partner, but you should be able to tell them anything. There is a big difference between having an understanding partner that you can talk to about everything and someone you have to tell how you were just thinking of speggetti etc. I personaly use this as a guide before i say something Ask yourself why you want to tell them something. Do you want to tell them because you love them, are angry at them, to brag, for control or to share etc. If you have a good reason to tell them something, even if it is something that is difficult to share with them, i believe you should. After all, you should be able to tell them everything.
@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
yes i guess, to be able to have a healthy relationship one must be able to tell anything to her partner. but for me, not telling everything creates mystery that adds spice to your life. it is not because you are afraid to tell him that information because you want to keep something for yourself.
@limosonia1 (1560)
• United States
19 Jul 07
It depends like you shouldn't talk about past relationships but once entering into a relationship you should always be honest and not keep any secrets. As far as the past that is something that should be kept in the past unless it is something that is going to affect the future.
@rexiemay (402)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
sometimes, past can really affect the future. not all past are just mere past, it keeps coming back sometimes.
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
you can keep some things to you and not tell it to your partner. if you too trusts each other, then there's no need to open the book anymore and tell the story of your life. what's past is past. and you should keep other things so there would be some sort of an excitement.
@Jessem (372)
• Mauritius
19 Jul 07
I dont like to tell my gf everything but like it when she hides nothing from me.
• India
19 Jul 07
its good if u confess everything... but in practical life it can be hard to digest some parts of that confession...so probabaly we can afford 99% of confession n 1% of abstraction
@mkcallejo (318)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
A person with nothing to hide, hides nothing.
@mkcallejo (318)
• Philippines
19 Jul 07
HONESTY is very important in a relationship because this is the basis of a trust which is the foundation of a relationship. You should tell your partner everything even mundane things especially if it affects your relationship with your partner. Remember that things that happen to you, in some way or another affects your partner. So your partner deserves to KNOW.