Height of Ignorance - I do not know birth date of my best friend?

India
July 21, 2007 12:21am CST
Can you believe it!!! I really do not know the date of birth of one of my best friend. In fact, I have never wished him a happy birthday and neither did I care at any point of time in my life to check about his date of birth. And same is the case with my friend. He too does not know about my date of birth. I never remember we having wished each other on our respective birthdays. Despite of this fact, we continue to be best friends and we talk to each other almost daily though we stay in different cities in India. Can you believe this!!! But now I am going to call him up and ask his date of birth.
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@dafnie (382)
• United States
21 Jul 07
lol! well at least it doesn't effect ur friendship. it's a lot different with men, if it was me and my homegurl, she'd be soooooooo mad at me if i didn't know her b-day. and i'm usually a little annoyed when my closest friends 4get when i was born! go ahead.... call him up! i'd like to hear what his expression was!?
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• India
21 Jul 07
thanks for the response, dear dafnie. I know most of us would get mad at our friends if we do not get a call wishing us on our birthday. Thats true even with me. But as far as my friend, referred here is concerned, we have been behaving in this manner.
• United States
21 Jul 07
Dafnie you are so right. I don't think men look at birthdays the way women approach them. I don't think anyone would remember my birthday unless I told them. I don't think not knowing your friends birthday should affect the relationship in any fashion. Lloyd
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@dafnie (382)
• United States
21 Jul 07
lol! it really shouldn't but u know how females are...... so emotional over the little things!!
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
21 Jul 07
I dont know the birth dates of all my friends, or them mine. I think just being their friend and enjoying their company is what counts. But, when i do wish to know their birth date i ask. Dont feel bad about it. I think it is great though that you have a great, solid friendship even when you dont live close to each other. Best wishes to you, ranjeet
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24 Jul 07
I agree with you, enjoying company and being friend is what matters. I think i just lost my friend beacause i forget to wish happy bday. For my friend remembering the date is a big deal. i dont even like to celebrate mine.
• India
25 Jul 07
yup buddy that happens to me also my friends don't ever forget my birthday but me stupid guy cant remember their birthdays , In the beginning i used get all kinds of words like monkey ,donkey and so on especially one friend of my friend gets mad at me now also when i don't wish her, this year it happened so that it was my friends birthday on may 9th i thought it was on may 10 so i just was leaving to shop on may 9th to buy a gift for him if your wondering how i remembered his birthday cause i had just bought a digital diary to overcome this problem but that to didn't help cause i was leaving to my house he stands right before me "good your ready everyone is waiting for u" i was shocked and asked why he answered " its my birthday Dumbo " ,although I went along with him but even when he was about blow the candles of i asked " are u sure its your birthday today " and man I got blasted for that that I and a punishment I had to take his Birthday bumps. So after that incident i just stopped using that digital diary also. But i am the most lucky guy in this world cause my friendship has never lost its weight even after all this things . thank you guys for being there for me at all times .? ?
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@vanities (11343)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Jul 07
i think its odd not konwing its birth date...since you talk almost everyday...or maybe the topic of your conversations did not reach that point...but i ask my husband about it and he said that some guys really dont talk much on their birthdays ..they dont consider it a big deal i guess not like females..
@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
too bad :) i am a very forgetful person but when it comes to the birthdays of important persons in my life, i feel it would be a big sin to forget them. i advice you to ask your bestfriend's birthday and have it marked on your calendar so you wont forget it again. happy posting. :)
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• United States
24 Jul 07
I am horrible with birthdates so my friends dont mind but i do not know my bestfriends' birthday either!
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• United States
24 Jul 07
I have to confess.... I seriously am horrid with dates. Half the time I don't even realize my own birthday! LOL On my birthday (July 16th) I was at an orientation for my oldest daughter's college. We were sitting at lunch and she looked over and went'gasp' and then announced "Today's your birthday mom!" LOL I let the people I love KNOW I love them often... so I don't feel quite so bad if I miss a day... they KNOW I love them. I'm really bad too. Don't get too down on yourself! LOL
@gr8life (6253)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 07
Hello ranjeetkolarkar, Better late than never! *laugh* I know a few personal details of my loved ones and people closer to me. I jotted down the important dates on my 'secret mini diary' last time. It was quite sometimes but I still keep the book with me. Unfortunately, my two bestfriends don't even remember my birth date unless I give them some clues every time my birthday is around the corner. But I can understand, they are married and busy people and I don't blame them for not remembering their childhood bestfriend's birthday!
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• United States
23 Jul 07
I can believe it , you are guys. Birthdays are not that important you either one of you. And that's okay. It would be bad if you were into birthdays and one of you forgot the other's birthday. So when you get his birthday, remember it.
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• India
23 Jul 07
hello ranjeetkolarkar, its really unbelievable.didn't either of you ever celebrate your respective birthday and invited the other? i can imagine how you must be feeling.sometimes i too face such situation,though the difference is i know the birthday but forget to wish.it happens and its genuine. sometimes we get hooked up in our work schedule,family,home and other things that we tend to forget to ask or know the important events of our near and dear ones.even if we know we forget to wish them. well it matters and then it doesn't matter.as long as your relationship is strong it doesn't matter.but sometimes these small gestures of love and affection do help in strengthening the bond between two.its like iceing on cake. so i would say better ask him his birthday and be prepared to wish him next time.don't miss it this time.
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• India
23 Jul 07
My date of Birth is 04.03.1975 My Birth Place : Trivandrum
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@malijka (141)
• Poland
23 Jul 07
LOL ... that's unbelievable. I know all my best friends dates of birthday :). I wish them happy birthday and what's more i make presents for them by myelf :)
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@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
23 Jul 07
That's not too bad, my husband can't remember when my birthday is. He also can't remember our anniversary. Last Saturday was our 35th anniversary, and he didn't have a clue. I didn't remind him either. It's funny though, he never forgets his own birthday, and always wants to have a party.
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@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
23 Jul 07
I have not sure how long both of you have known each other. Probably it is because both of you are in different cities and you don't get to meet each other? I guessed both of you are of the same gender since guys are more likely not sensitive about anniversaries :P
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
well you should start asking...lol. that is not forgivable if you dont know it. all this years claming a person best friend means you know that person inside and out.
@liranlgo (5749)
• Israel
22 Jul 07
Lol. you made me smile here ranjee. Does it really matters if you two do not know the birth dates of each other. Friendship consists of more important things. And if you get along with out it, why does it matter?:)
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• United States
22 Jul 07
Yeah. That's not that weird, honestly. I mean, some people just aren't very good with birthdays. One of my best friends can't remember any birthday for the life of him - it's really amusing, honestly, to see him attempt to remember dates and whatnot. It's not that bad as long as both parties understand what happened. Once you have one side being upset that their birthday was forgotten and the other not caring, however, that's when there's a problem.
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• United States
22 Jul 07
Yeah I have to agree with the others. Men are just different. I know my best friend's birthday. I don't dare miss it. She doesn't miss mine either. We'd end up on serious problems if we did. But hey it's one less thing you have to put on your calendar. LOL
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
21 Jul 07
I don't mind if my best friend forgets my birthday, as long as she stays true to me like I to her. But it matters if my hubby forgets our anniversary or my birthday because I don't forget anniv date and his birthday
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@pessotti (18)
• Brazil
21 Jul 07
I dont think thats wrong at all to not know the birth date of someone. But some people thinks that its important to remember birth dates, because its a sign of attention and care. Sometimes I forget my own birth date. Im being serious! I always have a hard time to remember my birth date and my age when someone asks.
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