My boyfriend broke up with me..

@Marie2473 (8521)
Sweden
July 21, 2007 3:56am CST
I have no idea what happened. Sure we did have a fight, but a small one and not one that u break up over. It happened over the phone and when i finally came home he was gone and so was most of his things. I do not understand a thing. Just a few days ago he told me how much he loved me and that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me and now it is over? I am in shock and I am so sad and angry. Did I not mean more than that? I really thought I had found the one - the man of my dreams. He called me 7 times yesterday and the last time he did not sound as sure as he had the other 6 times. he said that we might work it out... I am so said. There must be someone up there who just dont wanna see me happy. someone that has a mission to make everything go wrong in my life. He, my bf was the one that made me think that there were still hope left in this planet and now I just feel empty. I am sorry if i am not making any sense - even I dont understand.. but i am just dropping by to let my friends know that I will probably not be around much for a while. Take care
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@claudia413 (4284)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Marie, the two of you have both been going through so much stress lately that it must have had some effect on your relationship. I certainly hope everything works out in time. Maybe you both need a break and then things will look differently. Just remember that you have friends here at myLot who care, and you also have a great family that cares for you. Keep in touch with us, okay?
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• United States
16 Aug 07
Marie, thanks for giving me the Best Response.
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@slavezero (835)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
I understand how you feel, but we cannot answer your doubts here... better talk to him once and for all and ask him what went wrong...ask him all the questions you have in you mind, let him know how you feel..everything...and if still doesnt work then so be it... you have to accept that life can be tricky sometimes, and there is nothing you can do about it.
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@mimatexas (1835)
• United States
21 Jul 07
Don't worry, if he's meant for you he will come back. I am sure things will work out okay and soon you will be very happy. God bless you.
• United States
21 Jul 07
I am in shock also. Is this the same boyfriend that was going to give you $600 when you went on vacation with your Mom?? The same one that stood beside you when you had your surgery?? I know you said something about his father being ill, perhaps he had gone early to see his father due to his condition. This all seems so hasty, I hope you get it worked out Marie. My heart goes out to you.
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@mari_skye (1638)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
Oh that’s so sad to hear. It must be really painful what you’re going through. I won’t pretend that I understand since I have not really been in that situation. I cannot imagine how you must be feeling about that break up. I got interested in your discussion because I am, how do I put this- in an uncertain situation. My BF and I are planning to get married this year. Nothing fancy, just a simple civil wedding. I am really the girl who dreamt of wedding gowns and grand weddings. I want things simple. But that is not why I am uncertain. It’s just that I am having this nagging feeling that what if my BF is not really ready to start a family? What if I am not? And, as the day goes by and we are supposed to file our application for a marriage license this end of the month but he has not really brought up yet how we’re going to do it. Now I’m having doubts that maybe he really does not want to marry me? OMG! And thoughts that one of these days, he is going to break up with me keep running in my mind. And even while I am thinking of it, I feel so apprehensive. What in the world should I do if this happens??? O gosh, I am at a loss. And your discussion is I think the third in two days that talks about breaking up. So I go like, what is happening??? But enough of me. I would like to be positive and say that maybe you two will get back together again. Why not? There are second chances right? But you’re being together again should really depend on you. If you want to take him back. Then go for it. But should you realize that your life is better without him, then you go girl!
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@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
21 Jul 07
The thing is that I had never even seen the chanse of us breaking up. We had a great relationship and I have always bragged about him to all the people I meet. He is a great guy and I am not sure what is going through his head right now. Like I said, just a few days ago HE was planning his life with me. I am just really confused... You seem to have wedding nervous-ness. I am sure that u will be happy and that u are just insecure coz it is such a big step to take. =)
@talida09 (51)
• Romania
21 Jul 07
In life we are many times hurt but we have to learn from our mistakes.In a relation bouth lovers make mistakes not just one.If it doesn't work it means that you didn't find yet your soul mate.Be pacient.
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• United States
22 Jul 07
There is a reason for whatever happens and everything happens for good. May be there is something better instored for you.
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• Philippines
16 Aug 07
I am so sorry to hear that. What seems to be his problem why did he left you? Maybe he just want time alone with himself and to think. If he really loves you then he will go back. If he will not then maybe you are not meant to be together. Be strong. I am also a married woman with a big problem with my husband, sometimes I want to quit but if we just quit we are coward. Why would we be too much affected with the people, we have our own lives. Maybe it is time for us to love more of ourselves than with others.
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@shekher (272)
• India
15 Aug 07
so sad dear, bt it happens in life,.everybody hv to suffer this moment i also suffered this moment few months back. i also dont know why i was dumped.but it is life u have to survive so i am here and still alive.so take care nd live ur life.....
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• United States
25 Jul 07
My heart aches for you Marie. Having worn those shoes many times in my life, I know the ache you feel. Huggers to you my friend.
@RAMONES (537)
• Belgium
22 Jul 07
Sorry to hear this news.... Anyway, that's life ! I hope the both of you will sort things out. If not, go on with your life and find someone new & maybe even better.....
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
22 Jul 07
Wow marie i have just saw your post, and i have to say that i am so sorry. That is so strange i felt he would be the one for you without knowing him. You two have to talk with each other and see what has went wrong I am so sorry i know that it isn't easy my friend
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@psyche49f (2511)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
That must be tough..in a relationship, things like this happens, and it can turn really ugly, as far as you are concerned. When you are sober, you can talk face to face, and really work things out, as what he suggested. Maybe you can ask him if he is still willing to give your relationship another try...of course, both of you should be willing to make compromises, otherwise, you just have to think things out. It's just sad that he, your bf was/is supposed to be your inspiration and support in the most trying times, and here he goes, he just left without even saying goodbye. Hope that you will soon patch up, make up and mend each other's broken heart. Maybe he is also hurting, so it's worth to spend your time together in order to talk...and make final decisions concerning both of you.
@yoside (8)
• Israel
22 Jul 07
ohhh iam soo sory for u but i beleve u will find another one soon
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@sandwedge (1341)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 07
things like you mentioned happens in life. it has to, its part of what we call living. it is a indescribably hurting to the core, but every time you get over it you are a stronger person. even though it is hard to imagine getting over one hurt over the other as life progress, it does eventually. look at it this way, good riddance, since its better to happen NOW than way way down the road after you have invested so much into the relationship.
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• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Oh im so sorry for that very bad news Marie, but im sure please find time to fix things up.I mean you could still settle things just talk about it seriously, i guess every normal relationships expereince that.
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Everything happens for a reason. Maybe he is not your destiny. Or there is something with you two that is really really different. You just have to move. Wish that he'll get back to you. Take care.
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• Philippines
22 Jul 07
That's really sad to hear, Marie. I believe that everything happens for a reason. But don't lose hope. I know that there is somebody out there who's right for you. You have got to move on. Dont sulk in it. Everybody goes through that. It's part of life. Have faith.
@sweetlady10 (3619)
• United States
22 Jul 07
Hi Marie, I am really so sorry to hear this. I know this feels so terrible. May be because of the pressure your boyfriend is going through, this has happend. May be you should give him some time. I think he will realise in time, as there is nothing worng happend in between both of you. I hope you both can talk about this and solve the problem. I wish everything will be fine like earlier, after some time.
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@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
It sounds suspicious that he would walk out over a small fight. Maybe he's up to something. Maybe there has been something going on that you don't know about.
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@xmichx (109)
• Philippines
22 Jul 07
Have it ever occur to you that this guy might be the wrong guy for you? If it didn't work out with the both of you maybe your not meant to be. Don't dwell on this like there is not tommorow. There are many guys in the plannet. And besides GOD is not the reason of your break up. GOD didn't tell your BF to break up with you. But I believe that there is a reason for everything. Maybe you both just need space. And from the tone of this letter I believe that you are too dependent on him why not look at this break up in a positve way. Take this chance to meet other people. And believe me GOD wants us to be happy!
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