Why people do not post comments in their own disscusions?

@alnilam (969)
United States
July 21, 2007 11:30am CST
I reply a lot of discussions (which seem interesting to me) in order to have an discussion... but I rarely get the comments from the creator of the discussion. Ok I do not expect to have a comment on discussions with simple questions (what is your age) and I do not expect the author to comment all of the responds (i don't to)... But isn't the meaning of discussions to actually discuss?
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@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
21 Jul 07
My thoughts exactly, sometimes i put some questions ,clarification( like I asked some question about a site where I had to become his referral and I think it was decent to gave me some details as long I became his ref., don't you think?) never got any answer back. It is so stupid, but it seems some people are here only for the money and not for the discussions and comments. Too bad, but this is life!
@alnilam (969)
• United States
21 Jul 07
that is the part i don't understand ether. if a person is here only because of the money they must go crazy over a while... I mean it is nice that this is paid, but it isn't paid that much (i mean what you have to be here for the whole day to earn a dollar --rather honorary job then):D
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• Romania
21 Jul 07
guess so! Myself i came here just for the money and I stay just for the fun and some people here! It is like a chat room sometimes, even if the discussions here are not all the time at high standards. I like being here!
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
21 Jul 07
i found a lot of high standard discussions here.. but they become obsolete quickly... so this is the downside of mylot
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
21 Jul 07
Yes your right, and I the trick is to only answer discussions where you know the discussion starter takes care in what they post..There are way too many people starting stupid discussions and really dont care about anything besides getting paid. And there are people out there like myself who care about what people say and respond back to what someone has written..I think that it is rude not to say something back especially when someone has taken the time to respond to your discussion..
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• Malaysia
21 Jul 07
I totally agree. I have come across those kinda discussions as well. I also think that some people just care about getting paid, and have no interest whatsoever in the discussion that they started. Some people just treat these discussions like it was more of a Q&A session. I really don't understand.
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
21 Jul 07
Your right... A lot just dont care...This is a discussion forum, which means discussions not just a one way response.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
21 Jul 07
One of the reasons, is that you do not get paid for your comments on the discussion you start. I do post comments and I think I must be one of the greatest idiots of all time. I joined myLot to get paid doing something I love. But what do I do, whenever I start a discussion, after a while, I have to comment on someone who disagreed or who said that she liked the same thing, and then gave me a wonderful recipe or a good suggestion I had not thought about or who answered a question.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
21 Jul 07
i wouldn't agree with you... your comments get paid (just not directly) whenever your comment a discussion you move it to recent discussions, and if you comment it enough to hot topics or top discussions of the day.. so more people see it that means you can get more responses... that is the way i see it...
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
21 Jul 07
or better to say they pay off :D
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
21 Jul 07
Hello alnilam! I too don't understand as to why people don't get back to the "discussions" they start. Perhaps they are interested in getting replies only for getting paid or perhaps they don't take it as discussion and rather consider it a question and answer type of activity. It is also possible that they don't feel like responding to comments or don't feel the need. Whatever the reason is, I get annoyed if they don't participate in their own posts. I mean it's not a "discussion" if you don't really discuss. I don't expect that the original poster particularly comment back on my comment but at least he/she should come back to some of the responses and make it a discussion. After trying for some time, I tend to stop responding to those people even if their topic interests me but sometimes I can't resist. What these people don't understand is that commenting back is also helpful for them if they want to earn, as this activity gives the discussion more exposure on first page as well as on the top and hot discussion pages where they have more chance to get more responses. I just hope that folks are more reasonable in their attitude towards "discussions"!
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
22 Jul 07
well said!
@fab315 (1242)
• Philippines
21 Jul 07
I reckon it depends on what the discussion is all about. Like me, i don't really reply to all of my own discussions, sometimes it depends on the reply as well. People may express their views and opinions differently, but sends the same message..get my point? Their are some discussions that are debateable, some are not. Being new here in myLot i'm trying to catch up, try my best as much as possible to participate in every discussions and to comment back as well.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
21 Jul 07
i was mostly referring to discussions from which a nice debate could be created. and i guess the author could at least give one comment in such discussions because i often get the felling he never reads anything written under his debate.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
22 Jul 07
I get annoyed when it seems like no one is commenting as well, though I do understand that sometimes real life gets in the way. I've been guilty of just abandoning discussions I started when there were too many things going on in my own life as well, so I try to give people a little leeway to account for such things. But if I reply to the same member often and never seem to get comments from them, I'll eventually stop replying to their discussions.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
22 Jul 07
well life justifies it :D It is a thing that comes first... I have a busy schedule (in near future) and i know i will be absent for some time... this things happen, it is normal
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• United States
22 Jul 07
Some people feel that they do not have to post comments on their own discussion because they just want other people to discuss it. I know that it is strange, but that is how some people go about things.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I to fell that some discussions do not need to be commented (if the discussion is simple, I do not know, What is your favorite food... the responses are simple but the author should at least have the courtesy to show his presence from time to time)
• Australia
22 Jul 07
i'm only new, but i have noticed a few discussions i have gone into and participated with that require some comment back but to no avail. even though i am a newbie i no a few that i now just avoid participating in their discussions at all. so i guess in the long run these people will find they won't have many people responding to their discussions at all. and yes it is nice to be paid, but i came in here for the enjoyment of meeting & discussing with people.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
22 Jul 07
people who are here just for money must be insane (i can not be in front of a computer for a long time, especially now when here is hot as it is in "hell") to spend hours in front of computer for few cents... it has no logic for me :D
• United States
22 Jul 07
The point is to discuss, but sometimes I find that I've forgotten that I posted a discussion. Therefore, I forget to check it.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
22 Jul 07
i to sometimes forget about some things... but the mails in my email inbox remind me hehe
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
21 Jul 07
I agree with you, alnilam, that once a discussion has been posted, the poster should make some responses. I do this with all of my posts, and while I don't reply to each and every comment, I try. The ones with 30 or more comments are kind of hard to reply to all.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
22 Jul 07
well if there are too many responses i think no one will blame you if you do not respond to all of them :)
@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
21 Jul 07
I think I read somehwere that you don't get the credit for replaying to your own discussion, so maybe that is why some people don't, if this is true.
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
21 Jul 07
I did read this somewhere also, and I am not sure if we do get paid or not.. I just can't have someone respond to my discussion without replying back to them. I find if I don't respond it is rude. That is what a discussion is all about, right? Hopefully someone can clear this up.
• Canada
21 Jul 07
I am so glad I read your post before doing something similar. I agree with your point completely. Part of the reason I love Mylotting is the exchange of ideas and having on-line dialogues. I have noticed some Mylotters post a number of discussions...then disappear for days. People pay them the courtesy of responding...and then they do not bother to acknowledge their efforts. So as you say alnilam...how can can they expect visitors to keep coming back? My approach is to do my best to do a response..per response. After I've answered everyone who replied to my topics I do my best to go to their site and add respond there. It keeps the circle of giving and receiving in a full circle experiences. I notice many within my friends list are doing the same...and that is where I am putting my time and energy. As for the rest who don't have similar values...oh well they won't see much of me...and by the sound of it...you either. Good topic...thanks. Maybe this discussion will undescore the reason behind Mylot...discussion forums. It takes more than one-sided responses to have them.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
22 Jul 07
i try to do the same... i am still a bit lost hehe but i am getting the hang of mylot.
@rosie_123 (6118)
21 Jul 07
Well I understand totally, and sympathise. The problem is - that too many people on this site are motivated by one thing only - and that is money! They don't want to get to know people or have proper discussions - they just want to rush to post as many discussion topics as they can, and then move on without checking the responses, because, bluntly, myLot pay for starting dicussions that get at least one response, but they don't pay for any answers you may give within your own discussions. The only thing I can suggest, is just to be patient, and invite more "friends" who you feel you can relate to, and whose answers/discussions you like, and then slowly you will build a rapport with those people and proper discussions will develop. It is hard at first though. Good luck.
@alnilam (969)
• United States
22 Jul 07
true, i am kinda newbie here... but i just cant resist to respond do an interesting discussion of a "stranger" :D maybe patience really is the answer
• United States
21 Jul 07
I try to reply to comments in my discussions that I create. It would be very hard to engage in a discussion if you don't post commentary. I have replied to some of those simple questions but not a whole lot of them. I prefer to engage in real conversations.
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@alnilam (969)
• United States
21 Jul 07
i too try to reply as many as i can
@brendakaya (2335)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I try to answer back most of the time, but sometimes, it's hard to answer everybody, and then sometimes, I'm not sure how to answer some back. But, I try to do as much as possible.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
22 Jul 07
yes it is. This hasn't been my experience. I do get comments on many of my responses that do in fact lead to discussions.
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