How many years have you been married?

United States
July 22, 2007 1:18pm CST
I have been married now for 27 years and wouldn't trade it for the world. He ismy best friend in ever. Don't know what I would do without him. I think the worst test in a marriage is raising kids. You don't seem to agree on how to raise them and you fight about it. I thought once our kids were grown and gone it would stop but doesn't at all. He still wants to try and tell them how to live. Makes me mad a times but I just learn to ignore him and tell him to let them live there own lives. I still won't trade him though cause he is the best thing ever happened to me. I could not see myself bein alone and by myself later on in life. I thinks it would be hard to replace him if something ever did happen to him. So please o tell about your marriage and your up and down. What works for you and don't work for you? Love to hear about your marriages.
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
23 Jul 07
i have been married for only 4 years,but i have a 36 month old and 25 month old twins.i knew the first day i met my husband he was the one.i was involved with some one at the time,and so was he.my father was dying of cancer and wanted me to go out with him.i kept saying no.but then i knew it would make my father happy if i did.so i went out with him,i married him 7 months later.and i wouldnt change it for the world.sadly my father passed 1 month later,but i knew he was happy.me and my husband have alot of disagreements when it comes to the children.he likes to yell and scream at them,where i try to talk and yell calmy at them.when this happens we just sit at the tabel and discuss what works best for the children.and then we agree to try our best at not doing wrong towards the child like screaming at them etc.because screaming and yelling does not get you any where.it causes more problems and the child then thinks,its ok to scream when its not.when my husband is in a bad mood i just try to be as calm,and try to make him smile so he can get out of his bad mood before anything happens.it always work to put a smile on his face.
• United States
29 Jul 07
You sound like you are doing well too in your marriage and having 3 little ones already really test your marriage. Like you said you have to know how to work things out and not scream at each other in front of kids. You have to learn how to make each other happy and know how to make he other smile when they need too. Keep at it because well worth it. I am sure your father is watching you from above and smiling at you.
• United States
29 Jul 07
thanks for comment.i hope i will be married for as many as you plus more if im around.thanks.
• Philippines
29 Jul 07
I got married at the age of 24 and the year then was 1997. My husband and I stayed with each other for 9 years but eventually, we separated because of some irreparable matters. Right now, we are doing better as friends. I am happy that what we were not able to resolve when we were still together, we had managed to resolve after the separation.
• United States
29 Jul 07
That is to bad couldn't work out marriage but good you are friends after it all. Hope things will work out for you in the future.
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
I have been married for almost nine years now. I am happy with my marriage and we have come to an understanding in one another's likes and dislikes. I admit that I have fought numerous times, but it is normal in a married life. Everybody fights. But after every fight we became more matured and understood each other better. So we tried to improve ourselves and that makes our love grow stronger.
• United States
29 Jul 07
Yes there is lot of learning in a marriage and if you learn from each fight and mistake you make that is great. It is not easy that if for sure. Best of luck and many more years.
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jul 07
27 years isn't a short time. I am glad that you have a happy marriage. This year is my 4th year to be married. As you say, the marriage has its up and down moments. I try to maintain my marriage well as this is my wish when I got married.
• United States
29 Jul 07
We all wish for a good marriage but I think sometimes some people just don't know how much work they really can be. But it is well worth every minute of it. Best of luck to you.
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
23 Jul 07
i have only been married for about 1 and a half years... so there is nothing much happening in our marriage life yet... moreover, we don't have any kids yet... we do disagree sometimes over things like money and principles... but i love my hubby a lot and i don't want to replace him as well... he is a very loving and caring hubby...
• United States
29 Jul 07
That is very good so far. I wish you the best in your marriage and hope it goes far.
@Booffy (364)
• Australia
23 Jul 07
i been married twice .. the first one lasted 10 years and the second one lasted 20 years ... so going on that rekoning .... if i marry for the 3rd time it shouls last for at least 40 years so i think that might see me out hahaha
• United States
29 Jul 07
I hope the best for you. To bad either marriage worked out for you. Maybe some lucky one out there for you. Best of luck.
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
wedding pictures - holding hands,exchanging vows and loving each other forever!
Exactly 15 months last 21st of July, not quite long, still on the honeymoon stage as others will say,we have petty and big fights but we managed and still very much in love with each other. I know there are lot's of troubles and trials to come but we are ready. We don't have kids yet and still praying, hoping next year we'll be celebrating our anniversary with our baby.
• United States
29 Jul 07
Just keep working at it and things will be great. It is hard work being married and kids make it harder but they are worth it. I would not trade my life for anything.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
23 Jul 07
I have been married for 12 years now. It has been difficult and it has been great. I would never trade him for anyone or anything in the world. He is everything to me. He is a husband, best friend, lover, father to my children, my protector, my knight in shining armor !! I couldn't even imagine my life without him in it. Our problems have been money related, communication related, and even depression related. We decided a long time ago that we would work everything out and we did. Marriage is a job, we must work at it if we expect to have a good relationship. Too many people expect fairy tales and perfection. That is just not life nor is it marriage.
• United States
29 Jul 07
You are so right and I agree with everything you said. To many young kids do not even want to get married any more cause just to easy to live together and leave when not happy. I don't want to grow old and be by myself. I want my hubby by my side. We too have had good and bad times and we always work things out. Thanks
• Chile
23 Jul 07
i am not married but i am going to be .
• United States
29 Jul 07
Congratulations. Best of luck to you. I would not trade mine for the world.
@wonderful1 (2076)
• China
23 Jul 07
Now I'm 27 years old, but I'm not married. I don't think marriage is important. it is better to live together with your partner. I'm a lazy girl and I think I am not a responsible girl too. There are too many things that I have to do if I get married. Love is not only one element in a marriage. Are you happy after married?
• United States
29 Jul 07
Now that is to bad you feel that way. Marriage is a wonderful thing to share with each other and then someday have kids that are yours together. I love being married and would not trade it for the world. I don't want to be alone when I grow old and want him by my side. I don't know what I would do if something would happen to him. Maybe someday you will change your mind. Good luck.
@itkasp (266)
• Australia
23 Jul 07
I have been married for 3 years. I consider that we are still newlyweds. Sometimes we fight, but we can always resolve our issues. I dont's know if raising a child is the worst teast in marriage because we only have 1 child and she is only 3 months old. I think we still have a lot to learn, especially from couple that have been married for a long time, like you.
• United States
29 Jul 07
I was in your shoes at one time with kids young and growin up. You have to work very hard to have a good marriage and communicate with each other. When kids get older they will really test how good a marriage is because you don't always agree with what the other has to say about raising them or what they should be able to do. It is worth it though.
@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
23 Jul 07
My husband and I have been married for almost two years now. We have been together for seven years though. We are doing much better after dealing with some recent drama. Marriage is hard work. You have to be there for one another and communicate. I am very happy with my husband though. He is a good man who works hard and has a good hear. I am very lucky to have someone like him in my life.
• United States
29 Jul 07
Yes sometimes we need to really listen to each other for it to really work out. Communication is the key to a good marriage and like you said it is hard work. Sometimes we just don't realize how lucky we are until it is to late.
@mommyaiai (295)
• United States
22 Jul 07
I've been married for two years now.So far,so good,sometimes we had a little fight but we will be okay right away.I want to be with him the rest of my life,i don't know what to do if his not with me.We had a beautiful daughter,I've been blessed that god give me a child that is not so hyper.She will only cry or fussy if she is hungry or want an attention from us.My husband doesn't like if she is fussy,that is why i thank god for giving me a good child.We are still adjusting right now,i know that married needs more time to adjust.But my husband is really nice to me,for me he is really a good guy.If we fight sometimes,he will be the one to come to me first and apologized even if that's my fault coz he don't want trouble.
• United States
29 Jul 07
Kids definately show us a good test of a good marriage. I remember many fights over them when they were growing up. Hubby was always to busy to pay attention to them and when he wanted to then they didn't want him around. I seemed be the one who took care of them most but we made it through both of them and now have one grandson who is the greatest. Best of luck to you.
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
22 Jul 07
5 years here, I still dont have much experience about it goes with raising kids yet. I have 1 baby girl. I can it is depend how it goes, sometimes we fight with nothing and then we feel guilty about it... But we work things out so it is a good thing
• United States
22 Jul 07
Yes you have to just take one day at a time and before you know it time has flew by. Life is to short to not work things out. Never know when one or you will be gone. THanks