Are you living abroad or miles away from your family?

@beauty_ph (2751)
Philippines
July 23, 2007 4:27am CST
In the Philippines, because of under-employment problem, most of our countrymen go abroad. Some of them are single men and women who wanted to earn more and help their families. Some are married individuals who wanted to give future to their children and try working away from their families. I also wanted to go abroad. If I am given the chance to meet someone who is a foreigner and would marry me, I would love to stay in his country. I can have the chance to look for a high paying job in that country and earn more to help my family here in the Philippines. If I also find a job abroad, I would love to work there. Or if I qualify for immigrant visa, I am willing to be there just to be able to work. At present I am still imagining things. I know I will be missing my loved ones here if I leave. But at the moment I am still with my family. And I am happy living and working in the Philippines. I wanted to know who among you is away from home? Why did you take the chance to be away?
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@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
23 Jul 07
I'm not from Philippines. Neither am I working nor staying overseas because of any unemployment problem. But I can understand the plight of Filipinos that make them want to venture overseas in search of a better future for their families and loved ones. There are many thousands of Filipinas working here as domestic helpers, and I am employing a Filipina within my household. She shares many things with me about her family, the work situation in her country and why she needs to find work overseas. It is tough and unsettling being away from one's family, and so as an employer, I try and treat her well and make her feel at home as much as I can while she is working here.
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• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Im very happy to hear that you treat Filipina very well. I myself went also abroad but not as a domestic helper. I worked as a Human Resource Officer in the morning and factory worker at night. It is really hard though but come to think of the money Ive earned, It pays alot. I really miss working abroad. As of the moment, Im living here in manila with my family hoping soon I could work overseas again to lessen our financial difficulties.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Yes alot of Filipinoes travel for work around the world. I can say that we also have high population that can be found all over the globe. Thank you for being nice to your workers. I think you are the role model to other employers. And you are giving them the hint to employ a Pinay or Filipina helper too. God bless and have a wonderful day!
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@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
25 Jul 07
I don't deserve the thanks, really. As an employer, it is my duty to treat my employee well and with due respect. It is also my employee's duty to do her job well too, with honesty and sincerity. If both do their part, a great employer-employee relationship will blossom.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
23 Jul 07
I don't call it "moving away", I call it "escaping"! I live far away from my family because they were abusive to me, and I don't really want to have to deal with them on a daily basis. I do accept phone calls once in a while, and once in a very long while I actually call some of my family members myself. But I would never move back to the place I came from (which is almost 1000 miles from where I live now) because I wouldn't want to ever have to be face to face with the people who abused me everyday. I do feel sorry for people who have to live away from families that were kind to them in order to make money. It must be very hard to leave behind a wonderful family like that. Of course, I have to feel a little jealous of people who have happy families in the first place. =p
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I am sorry to hear that your family abused you. I hope and pray your relationship can be patched up. I hope the problem you have will resolved. Yes some are working away just to help their family. It is sad to be alone but they do it for the sake of their loved ones. Do be jealous I know you will have a happy family of you own and will live happily ever after. LOL. God bless!
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I mean do not be jealous, hehehe correction!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Jul 07
My lil family - This is my family now: myself, my husband, and our son.
Oh don't worry about me. I have my own little family now: myself, my husband, and our son, who is 1 year old. Not only that, but we have a chosen extended family, comprised of friends that have been kinder to us than either my husband's or my relatives. I feel that choosing the people you will call "family" is just as valid as being born into one. =)
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
23 Jul 07
we are in the States but we moved across country for work also for in the state we lived in had lomited jobs. And we knew of jobs we could fill here for we had been here before / Now it is alot harder to get work my daughter got laid off from her jobe almost 3 months ago has had alot of interveiws but still no work. and fo r working for little wages is all filled up with people that dont speak English. I see you write it good and you would make a good addition to the work force here. But becareful about telling you want to get married for we have so many awful men out there promise alot only to put you into bondage ( if ya know what I mean) So be very carefull if you get a proposal through here or any where else you write this ok ?
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
Yes some of my friend in US are complaining that there are alot of jobs taken from them by foreigners like those coming from asia. It must be the reason why it is hard to find a job in your place now. Because alot of individual would go to your place and it makes the place crowded as well. Thanks for reminding me about some awful men. I know what you mean my friend and I really appreciate that. Yes I am a careful person in terms of finding the right person. But I believe that nice person meet nice ones too. I am being nice and doing the golden rule, I believe I am most like going the right way in God's grace. Thanks and God bless!
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@Lakota12 (42681)
• United States
25 Jul 07
YOur most welcome and our problem here is the MExicans coming across the border illealgaly we are getting flooded with them and I think they should go back and do it the right way like all other persons have came over here legally
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@williamjisir (22901)
• China
23 Jul 07
I belong to those married individuals who want to give future to my child and work away from my family. It is not easy to work away from home. You will miss your family a lot, especially when you are sick or encounter with something stressful in your work. Of course, when we choose to work far away from our home, we have usually some different reasons for that. If possible, I mean, if you can get a good pay in your hometown, then there is no need to work somewhere else in case you miss your family a lot. As to looking for a job abroad, there are many job opportunities in China. We have many foreigners working in China in different lines of business. If you are a graduate from a college whose major is English education and shows interest in teaching English in China, it would be easier to find a teaching job. Of course, if you are an experienced teacher, you will have many more chances than the inexperienced. But if you are a native English speaker and look more like a foreigner, a westerner, more chances are waiting for you in the big education market in China. I am an English teacher working together with my foreign colleagues in the same office. In our school, we have a lot of foreigners from different countries teaching spoken English. Every year we invite foreign teachers. They are usually from America, New Zealand, Finland, Kenya, the Philippines (They all teach English) and Austria (teaching German and English) and Japanese (teaching Japanese). Ours is a language school, a very big one in Zhejiang Province. Also there are many other schools in China inviting foreign teachers to teach spoken English. I hope that you will soon find your favorite job abroad. Good luck, beauty_ph.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Thank you so much my friend for all the informations you gave. I have a friend, she is in China too. A Filipina who teaches English as a subject in a grade school. We used to chat everyday even during her classes. But I do not know where she is now. She just went to China as a tourist then look for a job. Then she told her employer about all the expenses she went thru. She then was assisted to process her workiing visa and all her expenses was paid back my the school. She was indeed a successful job hunter. I really admire people who wanted to earn more not just for their own but to help many others. God bless!
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• China
25 Jul 07
You are welcome, my friend. I am glad to know that the information I offered to you is helpful to you. And I hope that you will soon find your ideal job soon abroad. Good luck to you, beauty_ph.
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• China
5 Aug 07
From Junior 3,I have been away from my parents. But sometime I can go home to meet them . I think in this way I can improve my abilities of living my self ,not having to depend on others. To tell you the reason,I am an student,I ought to & have to live away from my family members.If God gave me another chance,I would choose the choice again.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
Keep it up my friend. I know you can succeed with God's help. It is good to be independent to be responsible too. That is a good training for you. God bless!
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
I am not working abroad, but I am working still miles away from my home. My family is living in Cebu City, while I am working in Isabel Leyte. I go home once every two weeks. Even though I could see them every two weeks, I still feel lonely once I go to Isabel as I leave cebu. how much more if I work abroad. but the dollar to peso exchange rate now is getting very promising. the peso is getting stronger as the dollar is getting lower. Working abroad would mean we could be away from our family. but if given the opportunity to work abroad, I would grab it.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
Yes it makes us sad to be away from our family because they have the love in our longing hearts. I too would want to work abroad to help my family. But I would suggetst that if you go abroad, bring your family with you. It is hard for growing children specially those 7 years younger to be away from their parents. If you think you earnings here in the Philippines is just enough and can give a brighter future for your children then you better stay with them. Working abroad for me is good for singles and for those who are with their family. God bless!
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• Switzerland
1 Aug 07
Abroad with my family.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
Your family is lucky to be together abraod. Thanks for sharing this fact my friend. I wish I can bring my family to where I am going too. God bless!
• United States
23 Jul 07
Very far away. I came from Scotland to the USA via North Africa, Europe and Scandinavia.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
You are that far my friend. I can't imagine how many mile away you are. And how many seas and oceans apart. LOL. How often do you visit your family then? I hope everything is fine for you. God bless!
@josan181237 (1205)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
i am not living abroad. i am currently staying in our house with my parents. but i do want to work abroad and earn more so that i can help my family. i think we Filipinos have that mentality, which is to work abroad to support our family here in the Philippines because, let's face the truth, pay is much higher there.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
The pay abroad is very much higher as compared to the pay in our country my friend. You are right at this, and I am thinking why. One reason is that they needed laborer and there's less so they pay more. They wanted to earn more, so they give high paying salary with high tax rates. They keep us away from our country, loved ones and friends, and they pay us more for this, which is actually not enough since homesickness is worthless. Thanks for the response. God bless!
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
23 Jul 07
wouldn't you miss your beautiful country and its culture, terribly? is the drive for more money really that strong? I live quite seperated from my family, but still (barely) in the same country. My parents live 22 hour drive from me and my brother lives 17 hours from me. I came to where I live due to my husband's previous career. and wither he goes I shall follow.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
For sure I will be missing my country. Specially my family and friends too. I know that I can financially surpass the crisis we are in, and going abroad is not the only solution to it. But going abroad can make me help alot of the needy too if I earn like hundred folds from my present salary. I know you can't appreciate what I am saying because you have not experience this crisis personally. Thank you so much for sharing your life my friend. God bless!
• United States
23 Jul 07
idk actually
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
idk? What do you mean my friend. I am surprised with your response. This is the first time for me to receive a response as short as two words. Thanks for responding anyway. God bless!
@shinjiao (1464)
• China
23 Jul 07
Hi,beauty_ph! Yes,in China,people encounter the same question as in Philippines,not only for people from countrysides,but also for people who work in the big cities.Especially in big cities,people want to find a good job to support themselves and their families. I live in Beijing,the capital city of China,but my university is in Tianjin,another big city near to Beijing.Though Tianjin is not far away from Beijing,but I have to live in my dorm in Tianjin.If I can get a chance,I wish I can go abroad for further education or job.I need more experiences to enrich my life.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
There are alot of Chinese people too in our country. Some foriegners study in our country because they pay less and learn more. I also wanted to work abroad, but I am a regular employee, now am thinking of having a business. Just like most Chinese in our country, they do business around very successful. Good luck for you my friend. God bless!
@youless (97399)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jul 07
It's lucky that we live together. My husband comes from another province and it takes about 6 hours by train from his hometown to our city. We don't go to his hometown very often, because we don't have more free time as we have to work. I think the people who can leave home for better future is very brave. I think I am unable to make a decision to leave my family to live in another place. Good luck to you! One day if you can live well in another country, you can also go with you, too. So it's a happy ending.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
You are lucky to be with your family. I agree that those you go abroad or are away from families for work are the brave ones. They know the risk and how lonely they can be but still go to be of help. They really are admirable. Thanks for the response my friend. God bless!
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@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
23 Jul 07
Yes its true there are lots of Filipinos who are here in abroad or any place in the world. Salary is very cheap but in other country it is expensive. I am living away from my parents but i already married. If i am single and want to help my family in Philippines i will also go abroad and work in their.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Salary here is really cheap. I think its because the employers can easily hire someone. It follows the law of supply and demand. Where there are alot of applicants, less demand. Thank you so much my friend. God bless!
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• United States
23 Jul 07
I am not currently abroad, but feel as if I am. Most of my family is on the West side of the United States. And I am over here on the East side. Many miles separate me and my family. I took the chance of coming out here to be with my husband, so he could be closer to his family. But I really miss mine now. If we all could move to one state we all would be happy with, it surely would make things a whole lot easier on both sides.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Yes being away and not seeing your family whom you used to be with seems like you are abroad. In most cases, this happens to couples. They are having a problem being away from their family. But some were able to manage it in the long run. While others get used to it. Thanks for your warm response my friend. God bless!
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@az03r4 (916)
• Indonesia
23 Jul 07
no, I live with them, completely
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I made a comment on your second post. I think this happened because you pressed something and you comment we posted. This also happened to me several times. Thank you for the effort here.
@carol_m (709)
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
Eversince I stepped into college, I had been living away from my family. I wanted to be independent; to do things on my own without a family member to remind me what's good and what's bad. Nope, it doesn't mean that I don't love my family..far from it. It's just that there's a perpetual satisfaction in accomplishing something on your own..and you learn to be strong amidst the circumstances.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
My friend that is a very good act to be independent. I am too attached to my family that its hard to do what you do. I admire you for being able to do it. But right now I am living in my brother's house since he and his family is away from our place. So its actually a sort of being independent, but i get to see my family like 5 times a week or more. LOL. God bless!
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@okwusman1 (2249)
• Abuja, Nigeria
23 Jul 07
hi beauty_ph, i think am the right person for you. i am in my country, this is a land filled with milk and honey. but the problem we have here in nigeria is mismanagement of resources. we are highly endowed with alot of resources that are yet untapped. would like to come over to nigeria? i would have loved to marry you, get a good job for you and even make you comfortable. hope to hear from you my friend.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
What a proposal. LOL. You made my day brighter. Hehehe. I am happy you are all reading my discussions. Yes I really wanted to marry someone who also love to help my family. And I would love to come to my soon husband's place to work and earn more for my family here. Mismanagement of resources is also experience here. We have several resources like land, water, etc which are not utilized productively. I think it one reason why we do not have enough income here. Thanks for responding my friend. God bless you and hope to see you in Nigeria!
• Philippines
23 Jul 07
this is a big problem of the Philippines lack of employment for the citizens..people have to suffer being away from their love ones just to secure their family's future..no offense to you, but filipino's had gone thru the mentality they need foreigners to help them manage a better life..somewhat why some foreign countries look at our woman citizens on lower cases..if you will look on internet you see pinay exploitation because they wanna marry foreign man..so what happen is, when foreign guys knew we are pinays they hardly think that we are all the same birds who flocks with the same feather..meaning, they all thought that we are cheap for bargains and they are a luxury to us because they knew our purpose why we carch them..i just hope Filipino specially pinays will change this mentality so just to be fair with our race..they will just kindly respect our beings when we say..we are Pinays..
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@ssh123 (31096)
• India
25 Jul 07
I understand that. Your country must be having a good remittances in foreign exchange and in thelong run it helps balance of payments for the reserve bank of Philippines.
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@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
This is true my friend. I am happy that our dollar reserve is now going high. There were banks who encourage our OFWs to remit their earnings in the Philippines. Now the result is giving us hope and brighter tomorrow. I continue praying that Philippine peso will continue to raise against US Dollars. God bless!
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@ssh123 (31096)
• India
4 Aug 07
Then you will get less currency for each dollar earned!! Anyhow in the interest of the country, it is better that your currency should fare well. The situations of your country are similar to India where millions of Indians are studying abroad, another quite a few millions are working abroad and they are remitting money backhome.
@beauty_ph (2751)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
Yes that is true my friend. God bless!