Males don't fall in love

India
July 23, 2007 1:00pm CST
I know this will probably sound very silly or naive to most of you (or maybe not, I don't know, that's why I wanted to hear some opinions) but when I was younger, as a teenager, I truly believed that boys/men didn't fall in love. I thought guys didn't feel passion or butterflies in their stomach, but specially I never thought men could be emotionally attached to a girl. That love was only lust to them. Or just physical. Basically, in my innocence, I thought love was too girly for men to feel. I have no idea where that thought came from, maybe I just didnt know men very well at the time. I'm only wondering if there is anybody else who felt this way too.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
24 Jul 07
This sounds strange for me..as of my opinion males fall in love like women.I dont discriminate in gender as love is a common emotion for all gender.May be its guys who always comes forward in most cases to propose their love to a female. Its difficult to find who falls in love first whether a guy at a girl or a girl at a guy..I always felt love can come to someone at any point of time..
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@onlinebiz (119)
• Singapore
24 Jul 07
Well, guys are humans too, they should be able to fall in love, but maybe rarely like girls do. They may only fall really in love with someone when THE ONE knocks at their door. Regards, Adrienne http://www.e-marketinghub.com http://www.e-marketing-systems.com
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@zalie85 (10)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 07
actually..i'm disagre with you.. as a male, i'm always fall in love with someone but they were never respond to me as a special one..so, right now i try to cool down and enjoy myself..but, i'm still fall in love in quietly..hehe
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@jal1948 (1360)
• India
24 Jul 07
human beings feel emotionslike lovehate,anger etc then why should men be any different,only some display their emotions while others feep it under control.
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• Philippines
24 Jul 07
Men are like women also that fall in love they have a feelings.The way they act talk and walk as they scort a girl.Like my brother he always go home late because he visit the girl in the house and he never come home unless the will not answer that they bwill be girlfiend.Thats why my mother and father will always angry to him because he will not listen to us.Until such time that the girl he love have another boyfriend and he is hurthing so much.We try to convince him that it is not the end of the world,that he can fine another girl that love him.Then I thank God that my bro is listening to my mother opinion and my opinion also. All of us will hurt because we are human and have a feeling.
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@dpk262006 (56109)
• Delhi, India
24 Jul 07
Priti! How are you? I can say..that man do fall in love...they are equally emotional like girls/females. Their heart also beat faster...when they see their beloved or the dearest one. I feel, the feeling of love...does not have anything to do with gender. It appears to me..that your discussion has something more,....which you wanted to ask....but evaded??Is it so? deepak
• Malaysia
23 Jul 07
I grown up in a convent school so I don't know very well about boys or males. However i watch my younger brother grows up. He fell in love with a girl when he is 17 years old. He just describe the feeling to me as it was a natural feeling. How the girls look like, how she smiles, how she walks, how she talks, all about her is attracting his attention. Ya, boys do fall in love, touchnshine. :)
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@rb200406 (1825)
• India
13 Aug 07
Yes it is really silly to have thought that men don't fall in love.Yes many times they don't they just act to fall in lovebut when they do they really do.They are also humans & have emotions.It is just that most of them are more attracted to a woman physically .
@cyntrow (8525)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I think that a lot of times, men have a difficult time expressing their feelings, which can lead one to believe that men don't feel. That is very far from the case. My husband is passionately in love with me. We split up for a week last summer and he was as devastated as I was. Love is just as strong for both genders. BUt I could see why some might think otherwise.
@nill_07 (1105)
• Bangladesh
24 Jul 07
touchnshine you just commented yourself about men/boys; it's only your mind's local view. Anyway, for youe sake I just want to add here male are more passionate then female from the very begining of the starting of the world I think so far. Really, male are more passionate for female specially for their lovely person. I do not know why have you thought like that? I had a classmates named "Sumon" loved a girl(nmaed "Ame" class mates also ) desparetly. Truly my friend loved Ame but his desparetness was the reason of lost his love. Ame was a so elegant in her nature as as a good student but she really try to remain awya from Sumon.. I don't was it real or made by Ame. Still my friend love that girl but she live currently in England far away from Bangladesh. I perosonally know abot them since Sumon & Ame were my class mates as well as Sumon was my mess mates. However, it's really wrong male's don't fall in love.
@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
24 Jul 07
No, that was a 100% misconception you had in your childhood. Men do fall in love seriously, infact more seriously than women as i've noticed. They get mad once they fall in love. Did you ever get a chance to visit a mental hospital? If no, then please do visit once whenever you get a chance. Because there you'll find a lot of love-failure cases and most of them are men. My mom works in the health department and she gives frequent visits to the various hospitals in regard to her work affairs, she told that a lot of young men come to the psychiatrists for counselling with problems pertaining to love-failure. A woman's soft spoken nature, sweet voice, her vivaciousness and sensuality, that shy and self-cotained behaviour while talking to men, and the way she conducts herself, all these traits definitely have a magnetic effect on men. Men do admire women since they always do things in a neat and graceful manner. Trust me, there are more reasons for a man to adore a woman than vice-versa, its not only because of her outer beauty. Its not just lust, its definitely something related to heart. I really don't understand why you developed such an opinion about men. I think it is the effect of movies or some incident that you saw/read/heard about in your childhood. I agree that there are more number of evil men than more evil women in this world, there are trustworthy, kind and caring men too You just have to find them. I guess you must've changed your mind, once you stepped into your adulthood. If you still have the same opinion about men, please change it. Surely there are genuine, loving men and i wish you'll find one.
@mdvarghese (1789)
• Bangalore, India
24 Jul 07
I can not agree with you this point. You have some prejudice about boys or men. I dont know from where you developed this concept about boys or men. As any girl boys and men will fall in love as deeper as girls.As a man have the lust, even girls and women have the same . there is no difference between boys and girls in this regard.
@raychill (6530)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I don't think I ever felt that way. However, sometimes I still wonder where all the good guys are. For instance, my friend and I both met this real cool guy. Attractive, fun, good conversationalist. Overall seemed like a generally good guy. But of course, being we both were attracted to him causes a problem. but we asked a mutual friend who knows him more and go figure, he's the type that isn't it to the "one girl" type thing so of course we're not going to pursue him (even though we weren't going to anyhow since it's all bro's before ho's) But it's like of course, you meet a guy who seems all great and then bam! there's that one huge problem. it's like...why can't we find the good guys are they really all taken? you know. I still wonder that.
@eshaan (6193)
• India
24 Jul 07
I don't think that it is true,because this does not depend on gender,it depends on how much emotional the person is,to be involved in love.The only difference what I have experienced is that men show a little less than women.They are a little strong hearted than women.
• Canada
24 Jul 07
Hi touchnshine, I used to feel that way too that boys/men just didn't fall inlove. I got married last March and realized that day that men do fall inlove otherwise why would he be marrying me. I thought he was inlove with me when he asked me to marry him too, but I think it took the actual wedding itself to convince me fully.I am so glad that I now believe they can fall inlove, otherwise I probably would have been alone for a very long time.
@ky1119 (699)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I used to feel this way. Actually, until not long ago. Then I met my husband, whom I married almost five months ago. Now I know men do fall in love. He is very much in love with me and shows it. I'm glad I found out different and didn't end up spending my life alone.