is your mom supportive?

@khithi17 (763)
Philippines
July 23, 2007 9:39pm CST
my mother sometimes supports me and sometimes she doesn't care. it's kind'a funny though. but it's fine with me either she supports me or not. like when it comes to my studies of course she supports me on that. also when i talk to her about how much i want to be on tv. she even bring me with her to audition for a commercial. but that was before. now that i've grown up im not really interested in becoming a commercial model or being a star. what i want now is to enjoy my teenage years... i just want to share it with you.
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@morgandrake (2144)
• United States
24 Jul 07
No, my mother is not supportive. She has diapproved of everything I have done in my life. She has never liked anyone I have dated. She doesnt like my spiritual beliefs (there is one path to salvation and I am not on it). And she royally disapproves of my choice of profession. Not only does she do this to me, but all my siblings have suffered through this. And here is the cherry on top, she disowned me fifteen years ago, and has not spoken to me ever since. How is that for support?
@lucyem (120)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I want to offer you a hug and let you know you're not alone! I'm not on my mother's approved spiritual path either, and she doesn't like my husband. My mother-in-law is the same way, except she thinks DH can do no wrong and hates me, and so does DH's grandma. It's so hard...
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
24 Jul 07
Hi there. Our mom is very supportive. Today if I need her for anything I just need to call her and she will do her best to get here or do what ever she can to help, even if she has prior engagements, this how supportive our mom is to us... But I never do ask for anything, I like to get by on my own and my husband thinks that way too...
@lucyem (120)
• United States
24 Jul 07
My mother is the exact opposite of that! But I'm glad your mom is so supportive, and I have to say that even though mine isn't, my sister and brother-in-law are just like that. They'd do absolutely anything for my husband, our son, or me, and they make sure we know it. We'd do the same for them. But we don't interfere with each others' decisions. We respect each other enough to give each other space, but we all know who's there if/when we need them. DH and I have a better relationship with them than we do with either of our parents. And although that's sad to me, I'm at least grateful we have one good relationship, even though it's not with our parents.
@Angela07 (202)
• United States
25 Jul 07
THats exactly how my mother is ....I just dont get how she is sometimes ...sometimes i dont even care what she thinks ...but i never want to hurt her feelings it is justsoooo hard not to....
@lucyem (120)
• United States
24 Jul 07
My mother isn't supportive at all. She hasn't been for a long time. When I was a musician in my early teenage years, she went with me to performances, told people how proud of me she was, and was very supportive. But when I quit because of stress--I had to compose, write lyrics, record, produce, play instruments, sing, promote, set up sound systems, and do everything on my own--she wasn't supportive anymore. And it took me writing a letter to my favorite middle school teacher about how depressed and overwelmed I was for her to take me to a psychiatrist. I was treated for depression, only because the doc. believed me, not because my mother did. But I took antidepressants for a few months, and was then ok. But since my mother didn't even believe there was anything wrong, I never trusted her since. I still don't, and it makes me sad. Even when I was pregnant with my son, she didn't acknowledge it. She was too angry to do so. She was mad that I got married before finishing college, even though I did finish a month after the wedding. Then, we had a baby when we'd been married almost a year, and she thought we should have waited. We lived with her at the time, but we had a basement apartment. Yet she expected my husband and me to eat dinner with them every night, even thouh we had our own kitchen and wanted to have some dinners alone. Anyway, we've since moved, and we're much better off without her--that is, not living with her. She's still not supportive, and I maybe talk to her once a month. And that hurts. But I can't make her acknowledge us, our relationship, my feelings, or her grandson. I hope she does one day, and that we can mend our relationship. I'm open to it; I hope she will be in time.