I rather trust people who deceive me rather than live in a condition of distrust

hi friend (if you allow me to say so), i feel, if i had to choose, i would be in your shoes otherwise why do i have to? i mean, can't i get to live in a condition where none prevail!! i guess, that would be more desirable. Distrust, hatred, hypocrisy all are killing and we donot live a good, healthy life either with it or with ppl ensuring it. thank you.

I would choose neither. I hate to be deceived. Nor do I like to live in a condition of distrust. I love to live in a harmonious condition, where everyone is fairly treated.

I do not like anyone to deceive me. If they do, they will be removed from my trustworthy people list.

Trust in any relationship, whether just friends, acquaintances, family, husband and wife, is an important issue, and I find it is Best to find the people who you can Trust and want to be around rather than those who seem to always want to take advantage of you no matter where you are at. Trust though is a hard thing and most of the time you never know who you can trust, but when you find someone you can it is always a Good thing.

I'm not understanding your message. please explain.

sometimes i got the same feeling with you. i really hate the condition of distrust,which got me crazy and aimless. perhaps the damage of some obvious deceit are less bigger than distrust.

Well of course, i agree with this. I think when we do not give our trust it meant that we are always trying to hurt ourselves because we are not trusting anyone. it is an added stress, right? when we can actually give our trust and be betrayed, at least we tried. and well if we get to be disappointed, then we know we did try to understand people, rather than not give out any feelings of trust, etc... because if we do trust we can either fail or be happy with the decision.

For me it depend on who to trust and when to trust. Because I have the trauma that I fully trust someone that I love the most but still betrayed besides her promised to do anything to start all over again and have a happy life...all of those sweet words is a kind of promise to betrayed me for something once again

I agree with you! I think the mistrust, within certain limits, and in good faith, we watch the many inconveniences. But without trust, no relationship - either friendly or love or professional - can not exist. Which is why we have this lack of confidence? There are two types of people: those who have a priori trust and those that are a priori distrustful. Distrust is not pathological. But excessive and systematically practiced, we condemn the one who feels the isolation and loneliness. This phobia occurs in hypersensitive persons. Vulnerable and fragile, using distrust as a defense mechanism and protection. Distrust can be inherited childhood. Psychological disposition to distrust may increase, because the fear of parents, themselves fearful of the outside world. "Do not trust people," "Do not talk to foreign people" are necessary for the security warnings child who tends to trust anyone who resembles a parent, as well as warnings to be as more moderate. Smothered overprotective parents, the child may come to believe that the outside world is a jungle full of bullies. When parents do not send us distrust, life itself will take care of it: a colleague who betrays us, a friend who abuse our generosity, we are cheating partner ... Most people are mistrustful that an illusory vision about life, idealizing relationships. They interpret the gesture as a betrayal lowest that is not consistent with those expected from the other. Sometimes this feeling grows up to paranoia: "Nobody is worthy of my trust, so everybody wants me bad." Either there is confidence in yourself or expect too much from others. A relationship always involves taking a risk. Have accepted that we need to try, over a period of time, first impressions about the relationship we have to see how real are. This risk can not be assumed than one who has enough confidence in himself so that in case of deception, his feelings are not too hurt. Lack of trust in each other is almost always the sign of a lack of confidence.