I rather trust people who deceive me rather than live in a condition of distrust

@ssh123 (31104)
India
July 24, 2007 12:04am CST
If I do not trust anyone, I lose more. Damage is extensive than trusting a few people and get deceived by them.
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@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
25 Jul 07
hi friend (if you allow me to say so), i feel, if i had to choose, i would be in your shoes otherwise why do i have to? i mean, can't i get to live in a condition where none prevail!! i guess, that would be more desirable. Distrust, hatred, hypocrisy all are killing and we donot live a good, healthy life either with it or with ppl ensuring it. thank you.
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@ssh123 (31104)
• India
26 Jul 07
YOu are welcome to call as friend. All mylotians are my friends for that matter and I do not understand why they have kept a separate chamber for friends. I fully agree with your points. Thanks for the response.
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
29 Aug 07
Your response has been given BR
@mimpi1911 (25455)
• India
29 Aug 07
You are really open and broad minded to consider all as your friend. i really appreciate. Thanks, you just made my day.
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
24 Jul 07
I would choose neither. I hate to be deceived. Nor do I like to live in a condition of distrust. I love to live in a harmonious condition, where everyone is fairly treated.
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@ssh123 (31104)
• India
24 Jul 07
Very well said and it is difficult to find such a wonderful place. In an apple tree, there will be rotten apples.
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• China
25 Jul 07
I know that it is not easy to find such a place. That's why I have been trying to be nice and kind to people around me and hope that my kindness and fairness to them will influence them to treat me and the others as well in a kind and fair and friendly way. Because I hold the idea that to be nice and friendly to others is to be nice and kind and friendly to myself. Thanks for your response, ssh.
• China
28 Aug 07
sometimes i got the same feeling with you. i really hate the condition of distrust,which got me crazy and aimless. perhaps the damage of some obvious deceit are less bigger than distrust.
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
28 Aug 07
You are right and I fully subscribe to your views. Thanks and have a nice day.
@rladiga00 (1166)
• India
24 Jul 07
I do not like anyone to deceive me. If they do, they will be removed from my trustworthy people list.
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@ssh123 (31104)
• India
24 Jul 07
That is a good suggestion. Thanks for your response.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I'm not understanding your message. please explain.
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
24 Jul 07
By trusting people, when they deceive, you lose a small thing. By not trusting people (anyone for that mattera) you loose more. And it is more painful. To trust people does not matter if you lose little by trusting them.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Oh..ok. now i get it! you are right! That is a good phylosophy.
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@ssh123 (31104)
• India
24 Jul 07
Thanks for giving it a status of philosophy.
@KrauseHome (33218)
• United States
12 Feb 13
Trust in any relationship, whether just friends, acquaintances, family, husband and wife, is an important issue, and I find it is Best to find the people who you can Trust and want to be around rather than those who seem to always want to take advantage of you no matter where you are at. Trust though is a hard thing and most of the time you never know who you can trust, but when you find someone you can it is always a Good thing.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
For me it depend on who to trust and when to trust. Because I have the trauma that I fully trust someone that I love the most but still betrayed besides her promised to do anything to start all over again and have a happy life...all of those sweet words is a kind of promise to betrayed me for something once again
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Well of course, i agree with this. I think when we do not give our trust it meant that we are always trying to hurt ourselves because we are not trusting anyone. it is an added stress, right? when we can actually give our trust and be betrayed, at least we tried. and well if we get to be disappointed, then we know we did try to understand people, rather than not give out any feelings of trust, etc... because if we do trust we can either fail or be happy with the decision.
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
28 Apr 11
I agree with you! I think the mistrust, within certain limits, and in good faith, we watch the many inconveniences. But without trust, no relationship - either friendly or love or professional - can not exist. Which is why we have this lack of confidence? There are two types of people: those who have a priori trust and those that are a priori distrustful. Distrust is not pathological. But excessive and systematically practiced, we condemn the one who feels the isolation and loneliness. This phobia occurs in hypersensitive persons. Vulnerable and fragile, using distrust as a defense mechanism and protection. Distrust can be inherited childhood. Psychological disposition to distrust may increase, because the fear of parents, themselves fearful of the outside world. "Do not trust people," "Do not talk to foreign people" are necessary for the security warnings child who tends to trust anyone who resembles a parent, as well as warnings to be as more moderate. Smothered overprotective parents, the child may come to believe that the outside world is a jungle full of bullies. When parents do not send us distrust, life itself will take care of it: a colleague who betrays us, a friend who abuse our generosity, we are cheating partner ... Most people are mistrustful that an illusory vision about life, idealizing relationships. They interpret the gesture as a betrayal lowest that is not consistent with those expected from the other. Sometimes this feeling grows up to paranoia: "Nobody is worthy of my trust, so everybody wants me bad." Either there is confidence in yourself or expect too much from others. A relationship always involves taking a risk. Have accepted that we need to try, over a period of time, first impressions about the relationship we have to see how real are. This risk can not be assumed than one who has enough confidence in himself so that in case of deception, his feelings are not too hurt. Lack of trust in each other is almost always the sign of a lack of confidence.