Talking to people and using mostly "you know" and "that thing in the thingy"

@Feona1962 (7529)
United States
July 24, 2007 6:20pm CST
I was just talking to my husband and I was trying to explain something and it came out like this..I got an e-mail from, um..and I don't want to respond, (my hands are going in every direction), because they are, well you know, and yep, that is about it. He was like, "that made alot of sense." Sarcastically...(as he is waving his hands around like I was doing). I knew what I wanted to say but the words just weren't coming out of my mouth....If this makes any sense to some of you then respond, please, and if it doesn't make any sense and you don't want to respond I will understand. "Auntie Em, It's a twister". Does anyone else do this? Please tell me you do.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
24 Jul 07
Ok...not only are we two peas in a pod, but it sounds like our husbands are too! I am notorious in my family for using the word "thingamawhozitwhatsit" when I can't think of what something is called. And I have perfected using "you know" in all of my conversations. And Heaven forbid if my hands were ever tied behind my back, because then I would have the hardest time getting my points across (or so my hubby says, anyway). LOL That darned twister has taken up permanent residence in my brain...ahh, I mean...house.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
We are the oddest two peas in the pod, or is it 4 peas in a pod, I have ever seen.."You know", is big with me, and he will say, "if I knew I would be telling you, instead of you telling me." I am like, "yeah, I know." LOL
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
25 Jul 07
LOL My hubby says that too! I prefer to call the 4 of us "unique"...adds the air of mystery to us. Teeheehee
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Good grief. Our uniqueness is going to get us all in trouble, I can just see it now.."You 4, yeah you, the unique quadruplets, come over here. We really need to have a talk with the four of you." LOL....LOL
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@muscare (3069)
• Australia
25 Jul 07
I can quite easily become tongue tied while trying to explain something quickly, so there's a lot of hand expressing and so forth. I think that's quite ok. One thing that I think is a little unneccessary is when I see some high profile person on tv, explaining something, and after every fourth or fifth word is 'you know'! I've seen some that have had at least half a dozen 'you knows' in one sentence. It's like, if I know, why tell me,lol!
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I know...LOL...I do see that too on TV..If I knew than I wouldn't be watching them. We all have something in common, you know..LOL..
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
26 Jul 07
Yes, I think that, you know, if we didn't have the, you know, same sort of thoughts, we wouldn't, you know, know what we were on about!! Lol!!
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
26 Jul 07
I know..I know, you know, so if you knew, why are you asking me to tell you what you already knew, you know..I don't know anything anymore, you know what I mean...LOL *laughing* I am dizzy from all that, you know!! LOL
@brendakaya (2335)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Yes, I'm right up there with you. I don't know if it's just all the stress I'm under, or if I'm on the verge of alzheimers. One thing that I have a hard time remembering, is the air conditioner. If I just blurt it out" turn off that , I always call it the furnace. my husband and son always tease me about it. I'm not sure why I can't remember it. If I sit and think about it for a few minutes, and practice it in my mind, I can remember. It's wierd. I also call it a thing quite often. The way you were describing something, well, I sometimes do that too. I don't know why my husband can't understand what I'm saying, after all, he knows everything, and he's by far, one of the smartest people on earth. Just ask him, he'll tell ya. lol
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
That is funny. I am not sure what my malfunction is either. They are always teasing us like they never do anything remotely similar. Now that I think of it I think our husbands are the reason we are going mad..LOL..That's got to be it..We have been together for nearly 24 years and you would think he could just look at me and know what I am saying...actually half the time he does..LOL..My husband doesn't want to know everything..LOL
• United States
25 Jul 07
After being with mine for almost 33 years, I'm certain that he's the reason I'm going mad. Most days, his voice to me is worse than fingernails on a chalkboard. lol
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Okay, that is not good. I hate that sound...I cringe just at the thought.
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
i am sometimes like that. sometimes i just cant think of the word that im about to say. its like, its in my tongue but i cant say it. its like i have forgotten the word or the name and i cant remember it at that instant. whenever im like this i say to my friends, "here, read it for me" and then stick my tongue out. LOL
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
That is really funny. It is on the tip of your tongue but you can't see it..I find myself thinking, I just had it, and poof it was gone..
@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
You have 500 posts, congratulations...
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
wow. thanks. I didn't actually notice that I already reached my 500th post. ^__^ dang. I was waiting for it thinking I would post a discussion when I have the number 500 beside my name. I missed it. ^.^ geez...
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
25 Jul 07
LOL! These days that's the only way I talk, lol. I don't know what's up but the last 2 weeks not only do I forget everything but nothing comes out right. Tonight I was trying to ask my mother how long I should cook "you know those thingies, they're long and they're green, you eat them, they're on the stove, you know.. oh yeah umm green beans", like you with my hands going everywhere. When she was done laughing at me (which she does a lot these days) she said 10 minutes. "Thingy" or "you know, that thingy with the stuff" is how I describe everything lately.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
We must be related..I always say stupid stuff and my hubby just looks at me and rolls his eyes..Is there something in the water that is making us goofy?..One time we were moving and I labeled all the boxes. We got to the new house and my son says, "where do you want this stuff?" and I am like, "what is it?" He says, "stuff." So I go and look, here I had labeled every box with the word Stuff on it..That sure was helpful of me...LOL..My husband laughs and me all the time and so does my son who is 19, he thinks I am a riot..
• United States
25 Jul 07
LOL! Stuff that is too funny! I think it must be that global warming, lol, everything else gets blamed on it so I'm thinking cloudy minds should be too.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Yep, we will blame it on global warming.
• Canada
26 Jul 07
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! I do this all the time! LOLOLOL Which is comical, really, because as a writer, I'm always trying to watch how I speak, so that I write the way I speak. Believe me, I write MUCH better than I actually speak. LOLOL I think that making a conscious effort to be more aware of how we verbalize our thoughts helps us communicate more effectively with the people around us. But sometimes, the only way to describe or explain something is to say, "Well, like, it was, like, AWESOME! You know?" LOLOL
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
26 Jul 07
You are soooooo funny...My husband waves back at me now and says, "I know." We of course start laughing so uncontrollably that we can't think straight...LOL..He says he is used to it..you know what I mean WolfSinger?.. *waving to you*...LOL
• Canada
27 Jul 07
ROFLMAO! Yes, I know what you mean, Feona - ya know? ROFLMAO! :D One of these days, I'm going to dig out my tape recorder and turn it on when I'm having a conversation with someone. Then, I'm going to play it back and type it, verbatim. LOLOL
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
my mom is exactly like that, she expects everyone to understand what she's saying even most of her words are "that thing"..It happens to everyone I guess, cause soemtime I'm lost of words too and mumble things which only me can understand. It's ok my dear..It's funny though when someone imitates your words and actions.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
25 Jul 07
oh yes. when people imitate you and laugh about your gestures, it's great. just laugh along! hehe. atleast you know they are listening to you. anne
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
That is funny..It is funny and I laugh right along with him.. There has been a time or two that my husband has forgotten what he wanted to say..LOL..
@wisconsin26 (3861)
• United States
25 Jul 07
That's funny, It happens to me alot, The words are there but I just can't get them out for some reason.. When I do that to my husband he just looks at me and says yeah ok and giggles and walks away or he'd look at me and say try it again of course the same thing happens and he finally gives up...lol
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Half the time I should just not even open my mouth..Nothing is going to come out the right way anyway..LOL..Your husband is funny.. Mine is always rolling his eyes at me and waving his hands..
• Canada
1 Aug 07
OMG!! ::gasping for air from laughing so hard:: You guys are so FUNNY! ROFLMAO!! :D When my brain goes on vacation (which it does seem to do quite a bit, lately), the only words I can ever manage to come up with to describe anything are "whatchamacallit", "hoodiewhatinwhatin", and/or "thingamajiggything." Sometimes, I even use all three of them in a sentence. LOLOL For example: Hubby: "Honey, can you please hand me the pipe wrench?" Me (looking around for it): "Sure - just let me find it." Hubby: "It's the long silver... " (he begins to describe it) Me: "I know, honey - I'm just trying to move the thingamajiggything (toolbox) over to the whatchamacallit (table) so that I can grab the hoodie-whatinwhatin (pipe wrench)." What's even sadder is that my hubby actually knows what I'm talking about! ROFLMAO!!
@squaretile (3835)
• Singapore
26 Jul 07
yes of course i do. sometimes it's just a look. like i'll go - i can't stand that person she's so *insert look*. and i guess husbands are SUPPOSED to understand the random flailing of hands! haha, i think he was just sharing a humourous moment with you. it's great that you can still laugh and have so much fun within your marriage. there are so many sad posts on unhappy relationships!
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
26 Jul 07
We are laughing all the time:) We have a magnificent relationship..Mine will just wave back at me and then we are howling with laughter..Our husbands are suppose to have ESP.
@whyaskq (7553)
• Singapore
26 Jul 07
Indeed it doesn't make any sense to me what you are uttering :P However, I think I am familiar with the scenario. lol. In my opinion, many times, people just assume, like what I am doing now - I assume I know what you are saying. The other party assume I know what he is fluttering about. When such happens, I would take control and fish for the necessary information. It takes a while but the information will come piece by piece. In the end, the other party will be calmed once I get his message.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
26 Jul 07
We all have our ways about doing things. Now if I start talking, and can't get it out, I start waving my hands and my husband is over there waving back at me..Of course, we are laughing about it and I totally forget what I was going to say..LOL
@weemam (13389)
25 Jul 07
You sound just like me lol , I will say to someone we went to ??? I can never remember names , then my brain goes into fast forward looking for the name , then I start to feel a bit silly and then BANG I remember it . oh! the relief , sometimes I just laugh and say I could drive you there no problem but I just cant remember the name , Then I start to talk about someone and I can't remember their name then its ,,its Sarah's pals mum you know her lol , hubby goes NO SORRY , then its ,,You know her she goes to thingy lol , does it sem familiar to you ? lol, , I have lots of what my hubby calls senior moments , and yet I can type here for hours and I always remember , xxx
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
You are so funny..It is true though. Maybe it's just when we are around our husbands that this happens. Maybe just looking at them, makes us forget...LOL
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Oh yes your not alone Im always doing that! Its like I can hear the words in my mind but they are just not coming out of my mouth.LOL I think its funny.
@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Now if I could just open my mouth and all the words would just float out into the air, that would be nice.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
25 Jul 07
i think this happens to almost all of us. i get lost for words, too sometimes. i know what i wanna say. just that i can't find the right words to say. and i really hate such situations. most of the time, i ask my boyfriend about the word. i describe to him what i am trying to say and he helps me out about the word. sometimes, we just laugh about it. sometimes, i get annoyed with myself. anne
@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I understand what you are saying. I do get annoyed with myself also, but I just laugh it off.
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
I have that problem of struggling to explain, I usually end up with err... ahh.. pausing a very long time (ends up somebody finishing my sentence). What I do, I compose my idea very well, slow down, pause and tell them not to interfere, and that I am still thinking. I still use "you know" and "thingy" but I try to minimize the "you know" it will help come up with better idea and with more sense.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
Sometimes I just have to start over and hopefully it will finally come out the right way..I think we are trying to do it too fast and that is the problem..thank you.
• United States
25 Jul 07
I feel for you becauseI ahve done it several times too or if I am trying to think of a person name and can't remember it for the life of me and it is right on the tip of my tounge it is so frustrating
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
It drives me batty.. It is entertainment for my husband..It is even funnier when he does it back to me..When I can't remember a name, I go through the alphabet and try out each letter..Somedays I just can't remember no matter how many times I go through it..LOL
• United States
25 Jul 07
I do my best to use words other than "you know", but sometimes I have to use it when trying to get a point across.
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I know. I try not to, but I think it is a habit and has become the norm now.
@Calais (10905)
• Australia
24 Jul 07
Yes, plenty of times...LOL...Its like you know exactly what you want to say but just cant..Glad theres others out there like it..
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
24 Jul 07
I am so glad I am not alone..I really hope I don't do this in public. Maybe that is why people look at me funny..LOL..I will have to tell my husband to nudge me the next time I start talking in public..LOL
• Australia
24 Jul 07
yes expecting people to understand what u are thinking all of the time without having to verbalise is so frustrating when people don't understand my goodness u are even using your arms to explain what your trying to say. yes i'm exactly like that i do it a little too often
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@men82in (1270)
• India
25 Jul 07
It is a good sense of expectation from you . Thanks.