Backstabbing in the workplace.

United States
July 24, 2007 6:48pm CST
I recently started a new job and I thought things would be really peachy keen it seems like they have gotten out of hand lately. Everytime I turn around someone is backstabbing another coworker. Its quite retarded if you ask me. Why do can't they go up to their face and say what they have to say instead of saying it behind their back. If someone has a problem with me I sure would rather them come to me and start crap behind my back. I don't understand why people are like this. Since I haven't worked in quite some time with a large group of people I'm not sure if this is common. Im st is but dang can't people be adults about this instead of acting like little kids and teenagers?
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11 responses
@chique (137)
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
I've been to that situation. It's really hard to deal those kind of people. My advice: Don't give a damn about them as long as you know that you are not doing bad and that's it! Continue to live as if nothing is unusual.. lolz
• United States
25 Jul 07
Good advice!!
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
24 Jul 07
This sort of stuff goes on in most workplaces. Your best bet is to not buy into it in any way! Be careful of what you say and be leary of whom you associate yourself with. I always kept friendly to all and there were very few and carefully chosen ones that I formed outside friendships with. I always tend to befriend the underdog. I have found that those people are the most honest and sincere in most cases.
• United States
25 Jul 07
I don't think I would form friendships with anyone besides the one person I was already friends with before I started here. I don't trust anyone else!!
• United States
24 Jul 07
Yeah it can be bad at larger places, but you know you always gotta have a pot stirer and a whiner, without those two, I don't feel an office would survive, good luck with your backstabbers, hopefully they won't get to you
• United States
24 Jul 07
Yea that could only be my dream eh? I'm sure someone has something to say about me. I just wish they wouldn't show how immature they really areand come to me instead of backstabbing.
@friendship (2085)
• Canada
27 Jul 07
Yeah... I do know what you mean. I don't like it either. People who do backstab in the workplace may think that they can go ahead in their careers. So, they think that they must do it especially if the company's management has "encouraged" such behaviors. It is like you, I don't like talking someone behind his back. I ever thought that workplace is like "war" zone where people have to do office politics in order to win. In fact, such "backstabbing" environment may eventually create unproductive situations to the company. How can we be productive if they always talked others in the office? Also, how can we work as a team if there is no trust at all? I can imagine what it looks like.....
@wilynn (754)
• Singapore
25 Jul 07
I had this problem when I switched offices. I went to the one in Guatemala and they just love to gang up and backstab. You know why? Simple reason. I'm very clean and did not want to participate in the dirty activities. I'm in procurement and I need to be very clean without corruption. With me around, how can they do it because I report everything to the headoffice. I've since left that horrible place. Anyway, good luck to them. THey have became from bad to worse and the factory is closing all thanks to them. How can you corrupt at a time when the factory is facing troubles. Crazy bunch of bast**ds.
@venshida (4839)
• United States
25 Jul 07
It is very common in the work environment. My last job was a day in day out situation. I learned to just say hello and bye. I find when you keep it like that you don't hear to much. I like going to work and being comfortable so I don't need all the other crap that goes with it.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
25 Jul 07
people find it better to talk behind our backs because they are totally afraid of confrontations. so instead of being adult enough to talk about issues face to face, they talk about us behind our backs. they are all around us. sometimes, they are the ones we thought as our real friends which turned out to be one day as backstabbers. well, as for you, i hope you will just go on with your work and hopefully, noone will talk about you behind your back. anne
@sirgang (22)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
Well, that maybe common, some people can not tame their tongues but it might be better to concentrate on the job and accomplish it, after all we are judge by our output or what we accomplished.
@leechamp (186)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
backstabbing in the workplace is but common, but the best thing to do is just ignore them, or else you would find urself just doing the same thing. better to concentrate on the work at hand and deliver what it is required of you, and this in turn will get positive feedback on you. from where you sit, there are people who are watching how you work especially when you still are a newcomer.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
25 Jul 07
It is much more common than I would like it to be. In my experience, small or large companies, if there are more than 4 people involved someone is having something to say about someone else. It never fails. It is human nature I think with some people. For me, I just ignore it all and do my job. I feel that they have me for 8 hours. I don't have to deal with that crap. It is especially hard to return to the work place after a hiatus and experience it. It is much more irritating hahaha! Just turn your head and walk away, that is all you can do.
@beckish (596)
• United States
25 Jul 07
A lot of this goes on where I work, too. I have never understood how adults can act more immature than children do. I find the best way to deal with it is to try to stay out of it as much as possible. When I get attacked I bide my time and eventually the truth comes out. Good luck!