What kind of a mother are you?

what kind of a mother are you? - I know I'm a good mom to my daughters coz they grew up well and obedient.
@lynboobsy11 (11346)
Philippines
July 25, 2007 10:29am CST
Do you cook for your kids? Do you read them before going to sleep? Do you help them with their assignments? How can you say that your been a good mother to them? I know all of us mothers do all the things for our children but of course we have different characteristics for being a mother to them. I'm happy to hear all your thought and experienced about it...
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
Hi lynboobsy! Unfortunately I am not a mother, we were not blessed to have children! However, I act like a mother to my nieces and nephew every weekend. I cook for them, I bathe them, I changed their diapers when they were a lot younger, I help them with their assignments and projects, I bring them to malls and the zoo, I take them to the movies and arcades, I read them stories, I spoil them but not rotten, I scold them too whenever they do some naughty things. Everything a mother does, I do for them, well of course i didn't carry them for 9 months. I hope and pray, maybe someday, I could at least have one. :)
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
Yeah I wish and I will pray for you to have one now soon. It seems you been trained enough to be a good mom with your own child.They are very lucky to have to be their second mom. Thanks friend have a nice day...
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
Thank you for those kind words, friend. :)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
i dunno what kind of a mother i am since ive been a mother for three months for my daughter then she passed away..but i can say that ive been a good mother after all..when doctors had told me that she will not survived i didn't gave up on her..and also on her medical support i gave everything i can even if i knew it wont matter anyhow..no medical support can make her condition stable, just a miracle could make any difference but i still spent lots of money for her..i know i didn't need money..what will i do with money if my daughter would die without giving out any support that can make her say..i did my part to be a good mother after all..even when people around me discourage me of spending that much and i know she will not survive..i don't need money i need my daughter alive no matter what..my hopes never failed..but it did not helped anyhow to make her stay..
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@tbatenga (105)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
I have a full time job, so sadly, I can't do what most housewives do for their kids. But I can say that my "mommy skills" are really good. I hold my child as often as I can, play with her, shop with her, do silly things with her. Mostly during the weekends when I don't have work. Sometimes, I feel that I am missing out on a lot of things, especially now that she's already 7 but I try my best to be a good mom. My kid is really adorable.
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@lynboobsy11 (11346)
• Philippines
25 Jul 07
Ohh thats alright your a tough mom as long as you provide the needs and never neglect your chikd you still a good mom to ther. Thanks, have a nice day...
• India
28 Jul 07
Hi. I am just waiting to deliver and the thought of becoming a good mother is haunting me day by day. I have seen my mo, a working woman do tons of chores for me, taking time out from her hectic schedule. Me, a working woman, am still wondering if i could do half of what my mom has done for me...then going back to work post maternity leave, would it be wrong on my brhalf to put my baby in a day care centre...would that make me a bad mother..i am not sure...let me know if you all have gone through a similar situation...also, kindly take time out to post your views on the discussioni have stated titled: Career v/s first child -what will you go stand for?(www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1212766.aspx and let me know of your opinion
@MzKitten (11)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I think of myself as a good mom. I make sure my kids get up on time when school is in session, make sure they have their lunch money or lunch pails, make sure they are dressed nicely, I make sure I attend all IEP meetings & Programs at the school. I help all 4 with thier homework/studies. I cook, clean, mow grass, do laundry, clean more, etc. I barely sit down to catch my breath. It's a very tiring job, but I wouldn't change it for the world. My kids and my dh are my life ?
@dpk262006 (56473)
• Delhi, India
27 Jul 07
Lyn, my better half would the better respondent to your discussion. I will try to answer on her behalf, since she is off line. She cooks for all of us. She takes care of studies of my son, who is younger...I too look after and help him in his studies. She help my son preparing his assignments. I can say on her behalf that she is a very responsible mother. Good Post!
• United States
26 Jul 07
I think being a good mother means loving your child in whatever way you can. I can't cook since I never learned how. I do read to my son all the time. He is only 2 so he is not in school yet. I take him for walks in his stroller, go to the park with him, and play outside and with his toys. I agree that we all have different way and charateristics for showing love to our children. My ways may not be yours but I think that most ways are right.
• United States
26 Jul 07
My son just turned a year old and so it is easy to say yes I am a good mother because all i have had to do really up to this point is meet his need. So this next year will be trying but i love him dearly and always try to do the best possible for him. If that is a good mother then I am happy to accept the title.
• United States
26 Jul 07
well i am not a perfect mother but i try to be a good one. i dont think there is or will ever be a perfect parent. when my kids were small i read to them. i tucked them in when i could. we didnt use sitters we passed them back and forth between me and hubby we worked opposite hours to be able to do that. since they are older and our lives are not as complicated my husband stays home with them and he home schools them. i work but i refuse to work more then 40 hours a week. we do alot of family things toghether. my kids are everything and we have given up alot to make sure they have the best we can offer. my kids see me in the mornings i drive home for lunch so that i can cook. i am home by 5pm everyday so that we can eat dinner togehter. i meet the parents of other kids before my kids are allowed to go to there house. my kids dont leave the hosue without me knowing where when how long. we decided to let our dreams go to own our home so that we could afford for my husband to stay home and home school teh kids. if we live where we do now then i can afford to be the only one working and we can still do things like the zoo, 6 falgs etc. if we were both to work then we would never see each other and the kids would be in public school. yes we would have new cars, newhome, and could go out to eat every night but what is the point if we dont do it togheter.
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
I am a very passionate mother. This I am sure of. I am strict but not so strict because I do not like my children to become rebellious. I love them so and I am the type of mother who would give everything and would always work hard for the welfare of my kids. I am a single parent at present anyway so my life is focued on my children.
• Philippines
26 Jul 07
Being a mother is really such a tough job, but it's worth it. I resigned from my job just to take care of my children full time..........
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
25 Jul 07
I hope that I am a good mother. I help my kids with homework when I can. Usually it is so hard that I can't understand it! I read to with my 7 yr old every day. I am the one who plays games with her, takes her to her favorite store, sneaks chocolate with her, and tucks her in every night. My boys are older, so I am their taxi driver, their cook, their friend, their negotiater. At times I think that I could have been a much better mother if I didn't have 4 children, but then I would never trade them for anything.